Not to change the spare bed sheets for a new guest

[Orangedaisy]

Would never dream of doing this normally. Very clean MIL coming for 1 night. The week after DP's friend is staying for 1 night, by the time he gets to bed he'll be pretty drunk if usual behaviour is repeated. It fills me with horror not to have a spotless bed/bedroom for guests but really not sure I can be bothered this time. WIBU not to change them as a one off?

Sorry Bo missed your other point. He might not talk about it on the Internet, although he does use MN from time to time but he'd certainly join in the discussion if it came up with friends in the pub for example.

If it was a respectable female guest prior to me (eg not an unknown in a B&B, not sure why I'm sexist about this either) I would not be devastated to find out sheets were unwashed after a one night stay. Towels I might feel a bit weirder about. Please no Febreze or other chemically smells though - that I would find offensive.

Yes, YABU.

DeadGood I'm sure justmyview is as dubious as me at stripping a double bed taking 5 mins and loading bedding and turning a machine on taking another 5. More like 2 minutes to strip it and 30 seconds to put it in the machine.
5 minutes to hang it out.
But that's me.

Exactly !

In the time you've spent debating this on MN, you could have washed and changed the sheets.

Just saying...

She's also left other sorts of crumbs. Won't elaborate. I'll be banned. And i've found a soggy wet towel in the sink when she could have put it on the towel rail....? That's why I called her a dirty bitch. Last time she came she left all the soggy towels on the bed. OP your step mil sounds lovely.

My ds constantly brings friends (guys)home to stay. Often lm in bed when he texts me to check it's OK. It might be they've missed a lift or whatever. No way am l getting out of bed to change sheets. These guys don't give a hoot. My ds has slept in friends houses, very respectable ones where the family dog has crept onto his bed during the night. In this house that would be a total no no but he couldn't have cared less as long as he had somewhere to lay his head. If it was the other way around your Mil would deserve clean sheets. A drunken pal.. Don't bother!

Not to mention it's really bad for the environment to be washing bed sheets after only 1 night of use.

I was thinking of this thread today as I had to change our bed.
9.03 -9.06 am stripped bed, opened windows, aired bed.
Put linen in laundry, still to be washed, dried and folded. Time as yet unknown.
Set stopwatch just now for making bed:
2.37 min - put pillow cases on 4 pillows
46 sec - put fitted sheet on
6 min 2 secs - put duvet cover on. Using roll method which I learnt through mn and has saved my life.
2 mins 8 secs - pretty cover and 6 cushions artfully arranged.

So, over 11 minutes to make the bed and I was going fast.
For the life of me, I cannot fathom how anyone can do it faster.

I changed our sheets today and was very close to stop watching it after last night's discussion.

As an update-DP has declared MIL's sheets stay put for his mate, he will air bed for a few days following her visit. I shall do a cursory check for pubes. MIL definitely wears pjs as we buy them for her (on request) every Xmas.

I doubt he'd notice, but I couldn't tolerate such low standards for my guest room.

Dear God.

Consider what will happen if OP ^doesn't change the sheets... Nothing. Literally NOTHING.

Really annoys me when people get all faux horrified about this sort of thing. Do you freak out if someone falls asleep on your sofa??

For me, it's not the changing of bedding that's annoying - takes hardly any time. It's the washing and drying; a set of bedding takes is a whole load, which interrupts the already endless conveyor belt of washing. And then you can't hang it out because it's raining... so you have to put the bloody tumble dryer on again.

Do the people who are retching at the thought of this have no other washing to do? Also, there are plenty of genuinely gross things to navigate in real life; I don't think this is one of them...

I'm with you Venice. Finding the strength of reaction hilarious and it has muchly cheered up my day sad git. It was really just me musing while ironing with the football on yesterday and I thought I would let mumsnet decide.

There was no "faux horror" or "retching". The OP asked for an opinion and was provided with one.

It was reasons for not changing the sheets that I couldn't understand.

As a side note how can the whole of MN find toilet brushes disgusting but not changing the sheets between guests is fine?

You'll be pleased to know that I have changed the sheets. Even though MIL asked whether I was keeping them on for DN's visit as they were still clean enough (and my MIL is particular about stuff). it had nothing to do with people's outrage and more to do with the fact that the new mattress topper arrived so I had to strip it anyway. You could still see the iron marks in the bedding I removed

And the towels emwith...?

I have a weekend/holiday place. Friends and family to use it when we're not.

I change the beds when I arrive if we weren't the last people staying. Anyone who does stay, I tell them where the clean bedding is and let them know my "system".

No one has changed a bed there yet, other than me.

get to use it

change sheets and pillow cases only, and as 3drockfromthesun said, use a flat sheet under the duvet, apparently hotels do this!!!, but I'm cringing at the thought of sleeping on sheets some else has used previously!!!.

As long as they look and smell clean, TBH I wouldn't. I would probably iron the pillow case, though, or change it if I have a spare clean one. Have done this in the past for 2nd one-night guests and nobody has died or refused to come again.

It wouldn't bother me, either. I regularly stay with a dd the night before my daycare day - she often has guests staying a night or two and I always tell her FGS (unless sheets are obviously stained) not to bother changing the bed for me - she's got more than enough to do.

I would always change the sheets between guests, however long they've stayed.

I stayed at BIL's at Christmas and was horrified that the sheets were filthy. I mean, stinking filthy, with evidence of long hair all inside the bed. That's not happened before when we've stayed but tbh it was a downright bloody insult. Shan't ever stay again because we're clearly not worth the effort of clean sheets.

Come, on! It takes less than 10 minutes to change bedding - even on a king-sized bed.

YABU

Just change the sheets, you have a whole week to wash and dry the bedding and put it on the bed, it's not a huge job!
I strip, wash, dry and make 4 beds a week - that's including ironing the bedding too

"Just change the bed. It will take you 5 minutes."

Well, no, it takes me much longer and there's the time washing and drying.
I think the solution is to tell DP's friend that you don't have time for laundry and he HAS to bring his own sleeping bag.