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Not to change the spare bed sheets for a new guest

177 replies

Orangedaisy · 27/06/2016 20:20

Would never dream of doing this normally. Very clean MIL coming for 1 night. The week after DP's friend is staying for 1 night, by the time he gets to bed he'll be pretty drunk if usual behaviour is repeated. It fills me with horror not to have a spotless bed/bedroom for guests but really not sure I can be bothered this time. WIBU not to change them as a one off?

OP posts:
DeadGood · 27/06/2016 22:39

"Today 22:17 justmyview

It's probably 5 minutes to strip a double, including pillows, duvet cover, and paraphernalia. 10 mins to remake including new duvet cover. 5 mins to load washing machine, and turn on. 15 mins to hang washing out to dry. 5 mins to fold and put away. So, about 40 mins, unless I'm really slow

How could stripping a bed and washing sheets possibly take so long???!!!!!!"

It's literally just been spelled out for you, Justmyview.

Floggingmolly · 27/06/2016 22:39

Imagine staying with your grownup ds, and having your DIL hating every minute you're on the premises and referring to you, however privately, as a "dirty bitch"? Sad
Hope my ds's end up with someone classier than that.

buckingfrolicks · 27/06/2016 22:39

Leave the sheets.

Piggyinthemidriff · 27/06/2016 22:40

Pube sweep, febreeze and a quick foof, all sorted

BringMeTea · 27/06/2016 22:43

I think one should change bedding for every new guest. Get your DP to do it but get it done. I can totally tell if bedding is fresh or not when I am a guest. It might be 'clean' but fresh bedding is a minimum requirement really.

puglife15 · 27/06/2016 22:47

YANBU. I think it's a bit off saying it's revolting. There are millions of people in the world who don't even have beds to sleep on. Are you saying anyone living in less than pristine conditions is revolting?

I'd change the pillowcase though, because it takes 2 secs

TigerLily666 · 27/06/2016 22:49

OMG I have just realised I am a dirty slattern! Frankly I doubt said guest would actually notice if bed had been changed or not! I would personally take a view after MIL been to stay about how much I could get away without changing / cleaning. And justify it by claiming I am saving the environment - by not doing unnecessary washing / drying!

AnnaMarlowe · 27/06/2016 22:49

pug I'm not sure that's a valid argument. There are millions of people in the world who don't have enough to eat either, I still feed my guests.

orangebird69 · 27/06/2016 22:50

BOAK. Yanbu

orangebird69 · 27/06/2016 22:51

YABU! Not yanbu Blush

millimat · 27/06/2016 22:52

OMG I can't believe the amount of people saying change it. He'll never notice!! A bloke, and after a night out! If I asked dp his opinion then sheets would never get changed!

Postchildrenpregranny · 27/06/2016 22:52

The only people I would do this with are my DDs DD1 has a double bed so DD2will sleep in it from preference if she is home .(as she is tonight ) DD1 will be home end of July for a wedding. I will not change the clean -on -today bedding in between . (I would add they sometimes share said bed when home together)Should we have unexpected guests in between I would change them though .And I'd never give a guest a used towel .

messalina · 27/06/2016 22:53

OMG cannot believe how precious some of you are. Drunk bloke will never notice. There really are more important things to worry about. It's not as if her MIL has severe BO or genital herpes.

londonrach · 27/06/2016 22:55

Yes! Yuk,

BoGrainger · 27/06/2016 22:58

Why are women so fussy and clean and gob-smacked at lower standards than theirs? Imagine men who live on their own and have a mate to stay voicing their concerns over bed-changing. You'd think they were complete freaks.

LikeASoulWithoutAMind · 27/06/2016 23:05

I don't think the drunk bloke will notice or care.

I do usually change bedding for guests but in this case YANBU.

Cordelia1234 · 27/06/2016 23:08

Emwithme....totally gross...poor child...wash the darn bedding

Meggymoodle · 27/06/2016 23:10

I can't believe no-one has picked up on the B&B someone mentioned earlier in the thread - that's haunted me all through this!

OP a. Thank you for something other than Brexit b. Yanbu - don't bother changing unles M-I-L is incontinent.

PerryHatter · 27/06/2016 23:11

DeadGood I'm sure justmyview is as dubious as me at stripping a double bed taking 5 mins and loading bedding and turning a machine on taking another 5. More like 2 minutes to strip it and 30 seconds to put it in the machine.
5 minutes to hang it out.
But that's me.

messalina · 27/06/2016 23:16

I think the person who commented that men would never have this discussion was spot on. Nobody will DIE or catch BUBONIC PLAGUE as a result of an unchanged sheet. It is not a bloody hotel. The OP is probably BUSY doing a proper job, not timing how long it takes her to strip a bed. Who even times such jobs?!

AnnaMarlowe · 27/06/2016 23:17

Bo I think that's pretty sexist. My DH would expect clean sheets, drunk or not.

Meg I didn't mention the B&B because I just prefer not to think about it. yuck

messalina · 27/06/2016 23:18

Actually you would time it if you ran a hotel chain as you would want to have data on productivity but otherwise why would you even bother to work out how long it took to change bedding?!

AnnaMarlowe · 27/06/2016 23:19

Mess I do a proper job. I work about 60 hours a week, have two kids and no cleaner.

I'd still change the fucking sheets despite the lack of plague risk

BoGrainger · 27/06/2016 23:21

Expecting it and actually doing it every time you have a guest are two different things. Does your dp do it all in your home? And would he discuss it at length on a forum?

AnnaMarlowe · 27/06/2016 23:26

Bo Why would he do it all ? Confused We divide the housework between us. So yes he changes sheets and puts on washes just as I do. And he'd assuredly never put a guest into a used bed or give them a used towel. Neither would my Dad, FIL or BIL for that matter.