School favouring daddy's day!!

[WhereIsMyMothersDay]

So school (private) tomorrow has a special morning for daddy and son at 7:30am to have a special breakfast together early enough so that daddy goes to work!
The Friday before Mother's Day they had a special 'lunch' with mummy and boy as obviously mummies don't work!!!
It was super hard for me to take time off work and teachers gave me a funny look when I'd asked if all mummies were coming
Obviously though tomorrow daddies don't have to take time off as its early breakfast
AIBU to be bloody annoyed?

CitySnicker
You think? Didn't think of that as the mums representing our class are the ones booking the coffee mornings at 11:30am but I think I ll have a chat with them thanks for the tip

That dad's jobs are always more important than Mum's jobs

Or maybe it's giving them the impression that it's ok to prioritise the needs of the majority because the work of stay at home parents is every bit as important as the jobs of those outside the home. The majority of the stay at home parents probably spend the early morning time getting all of their children ready for school and wouldn't be able to make a breakfast. Which would be why they organised it for that time. But screw them and their needs, they don't earn money for all the work they do, so that's completely irrelevant.

Tbh, I think it's hell of a lot more sexist to assume stay at home parents, who are usually mothers, have nothing they might need to do and should all fall in around the mothers who work outside the home. Stay at home parents actually tend to be busy all day too. If in this school most of the mothers are genuinely stay at home mothers, then the mother's day event was organised to best suit the majority. As was the father's day event. The times were chosen to help the most amount of parents attend, not as two fingers up to working mothers and stay at home dads.

DetestableHerytike

As someone posting on an open forum if you don't like what I post report it.
As someone who organises this sort of thing in schools, I am asking why she thinks that organising two things for one group and not the same for another will be accepted.

The OP responded to my post, I thought that she wanted a discussion on the point.

(Ignoring the thread police) If the demographic of the school is mainly mums dropping off one child at the school and then dropping off at a second school then a breakfast for mothers wouldn't work very well.

Not so much a sexist thing but our state primary has so many events during school hours. There will have been 5 this term alone, about 6 in the autumn term and several in the spring term too. We both work, all 4 of our parents work and/or don't live nearby, it's a nightmare if you don't want to disappoint your children. Luckily DH will have done 3 of the 4 this term so I only had to juggle one but I feel it's too much considering that many of the parents at our school work at least part time.

Stay at home parents actually tend to be busy all day too. If in this school most of the mothers are genuinely stay at home mothers, then the mother's day event was organised to best suit the majority.

Speaking as someone who's currently a SAHM, yes, I have things to do during the day.

And as such, my preference for school events is to have them either first thing in the morning or near school pick up time.

I would probably be able to make a lunchtime event, but it would disrupt my day a lot more than a breakfast event, and it wouldn't best suit me.

And again, I'd love to know whether OP's school have made any effort to find out what times parents - both mums and dads - would actually prefer, or whether they've just assumed that the mum's would prefer lunch and the dads would prefer breakfast.

"Stay at home parents actually tend to be busy all day too."

Speaking as one-

"As someone posting on an open forum if you don't like what I post report it."

Why would I do that? Your post didn't breach Talk Guidelines. What an odd suggestion.

I disagreed with your post; as you say, it's an open forum, so I posted my reasons for disagreeing.

Springer
What a ridiculous comment The majority of the stay at home parents probably spend the early morning time getting all of their children ready for school and wouldn't be able to make a breakfast
As do the majority of parents who work outside the home. Parents who go out to work don't automatically relinquish childcare duties

And again, I'd love to know whether OP's school have made any effort to find out what times parents - both mums and dads - would actually prefer, or whether they've just assumed that the mum's would prefer lunch and the dads would prefer breakfast.
No they didn't ask, they assumed probably cause mums usually meet up after drop offs, go for coffees etc