School favouring daddy's day!!

[WhereIsMyMothersDay]

So school (private) tomorrow has a special morning for daddy and son at 7:30am to have a special breakfast together early enough so that daddy goes to work!
The Friday before Mother's Day they had a special 'lunch' with mummy and boy as obviously mummies don't work!!!
It was super hard for me to take time off work and teachers gave me a funny look when I'd asked if all mummies were coming
Obviously though tomorrow daddies don't have to take time off as its early breakfast
AIBU to be bloody annoyed?

No, the school SAID that's the reason (that "most mummies don't work"). In their opinion. Not fact, necessarily.

And the op asked a few mums who confirmed this.

But I wonder if she asked at the lunch itself

So they have specail for mummy and a specail for daddy? i dont get what your problem is??

Some of the teachers will be working mothers. They should know better.

I agree that referring to Father's Day as Daddy's day is a crime. I feel a bit like I need to vomit now.

The school thinks the mothers are all free to come in at lunchtime because they don't work outside the home. However, the fathers are all busy at their important jobs so they get to come in at breakfast time. Not sending a very positive message to the children, is it? That's the problem.

I get this, I can't take part in things or go to anything as funnily enough I WORK.

And then they go and organise things on the same day for both children. At the same time. On the only day I don't work, which is great but a bit Sophie's choice :(

And yes there are lots of working mother teachers, so actually they all should know better! (Of the teachers my dc have had, ALL but one have children and there are only 2 male teachers - both of whom have dc!)

YANBU

My son's school has "FUDGE day" tomorrow. That stands for Fathers Uncles Dads Granddads Etcetera Day.

Basically it's "most of these kids probably don't know who their dad is" day.

Purple sorry they did say Father's Day I'm just being sarcastic as I'm a bit annoyed
However they did say most mummies dont work as I think they were trying to be charming as they saw I was annoyed

duckyneedsaclean

Yeah but is it breakfast or lunch

At least they invite mothers in to celebrate Mother's Day. At dds school, they only celebrate Father's Day. Even more sexist. Oh well...

Would piss me off too.

It's not favouring. But it is assuming.

Personally as a mum who works from home for herself, so can rearrange my day anyway I want, I would prefer breakfast.

I wouldn't want to do drop off, go back for lunch, then back for pick up.

I would guess a lot of sahms would prefer breakfast also.

The assumption men have to get off for work and women don't is sexist.

WhereIsMyMothersDay It's 9-11. I don't think they believe any of the kids know any males that work.

I despair. We haven't moved on at all in 50 odd years.

It is pretty annoying that people just assume all dads work while mum has plenty of free time during the day.

Round here they have a dad group that meets every Saturday, which is lovely, but no weekend activities for mums. Again, assuming that we have all week to go to stuff.

YANBU.

Nice message they're sending to their female students as well.

Why are we still sending second class citizen messages when it comes to careers to our daughters?

I'm worried about my kids (private(!)) school celebrating Father's Day this year and whether or not our male friend will be alive or not (terminal cancer) for his son to celebrate it with him. So you worrying about mother's lunch or father's breakfast, really does seem like a first world, no big deal problem

Heck, I'd even ask the school why they're bothering to educate girls, since obviously they won't be working once they find a man...

sigh

Write to them requesting that Mummy's Day can be held in the morning from now on too. I agree that even most SAHMs would rather get it over with first thing instead of having to deal with it in the middle of the day.

Soooo it's a boys only private school and you're seeking sympathy from the MN massive re some marginal slight about who eats what with who and when.
Okaaay.

Yanbu sexist rubbish

YANBU. This would really piss me off too.

Jemima

"Soooo it's a boys only private school and you're seeking sympathy from the MN massive re some marginal slight about who eats what with who and when.
Okaaay."

What do you mean by that?