Making love. To want to throw up.....

[TheNaze73]

When people use the expression "making love"

Makes me want to vomit on the spot, puts my teeth on edge & it just sounds, so Mills and Boon

AIBU?

YANBU, it's so cringey!

Yes, I had an older exBF who said it in such a cringey way it put me right off him.

Yanbu!

Yanbu, but everything else sounds a bit harsh. Fucking and shagging? I can't thing of a 'nice' way to put it otherwise. 'Let's have sex' is a bit clinical and unromantic.

I don't mind it at the right moment - it's quite romantic

YANBU op. Makes me cringe.

What expression would you prefer, OP?

Yanbu! It makes me feel all crawly and wrong.

As TheHiphopopotamus (love your NN) says though everything else either sounds too clinical I.e 'Having sex' or 'intercourse' or too wild and devoid of emotion 'fucking' etc.

We usually go with the Marvin Gaye route of 'getting it on' accompanied by winking and waggling of eyebrows but I'm well aware that'd make some people want to barf.

Hehe it is a bit cringy, I only say it when messing around with the hubby just for euugh factor!!!

"I'm going to nail you in two?"

Better?

I hate it too but agree that there isn't a great alternative. I'd be insulted if someone I had only just met referred to it as fucking but more than happy for dh to say it

It is a loathsome expression. It shouldn't be but it is.

Who is saying to you OP? Tell them it's putting you off!

I once heard my dad use that terminology (towards my mum) when I was a kid. It scarred me, I tell you!
I honestly can't hear it without shuddering, let alone use it myself.

'heyyy baby. you DTF?'

not really any smooth way to broach the subject, i don't think. although in my early 20s, 'fancy a shag?' usually worked.

Some things are better left unsaid. Whatever happened to wordless communication and a little bit of innuendo?

We say 'fancy a shag' or 'fancy a fuck' yes, we've got two kids, romance is dead.

If dh said 'im going to make love to you' I'd gaffaw I reckon.

Lol Banana, me too!! He started talking about when we start making love! Ewww I could have puked right there and then!

Me and oh made love once. Both decided it was not for us and now just fuck. You're gonna get it suffices.

Doesn't bother me, but it isn't one I use. Now I come to think of it, I am not sure what we say... I think we just look hopeful and say 'do you wanna...?'

OK... Maybe, maybe not

Hate it. As my husband once reminded me (when I spent too long gazing at him as we kissed), 'It's always been 'fucking' with us - it's what we do'.

Tantric spiritual sensuality we are not.

Feeling like vomiting on the spot is a massive over reaction.

Can't you just think "well that's not how I would put it".

Live and let live eh?

clara - can't be left unsaid anymore because that causes issues around what constitutes consent