Making love. To want to throw up.....

[TheNaze73]

When people use the expression "making love"

Makes me want to vomit on the spot, puts my teeth on edge & it just sounds, so Mills and Boon

AIBU?

[grimbletart]

It is a bit cringy and 1950s. But I suppose it's only natural that it should lose its appeal as sex now seems to have very little to do with love at all and has about as much significance as sharing a coffee or going to the loo.

[VestalVirgin]

Depends of what is meant by it. It being used as an euphemism for rape it makes me want to throw up.

If sex involved a lot of kissing and cuddling and mutal respect, than "making love" miiight be appropriate. Perhaps.

Though there's the question why sex is considered the only valid expression of love.

Apparently, "to make love" used to mean whispering love declarations in someone's ear, or something. Now, that makes a lot more sense.

[CathemeralChild]

Generally I fancy a shag.
I also like a good fucking.
But sometimes I prefer to make love.
It depends what kind of mood you're in and it's handy to have a distinction.

[GreaseIsNotTheWord]

If dh said 'im going to make love to you' I'd gaffaw I reckon

If dh said it to me, I think i'd say 'please don't. But you can fuck me if you like'

Dh and I don't really say anything...I can't really think of what word we use, generally. Me pushing my arse against him in bed is usually enough signal, no discussion is necessary.

[PollyPerky]

A man I knew ( as a friend) once said to me that there are women he's fucked and women he's made love to, and as man, he feels there is a difference. I think I agree.

[Somerville]

People talking about vomit is worse.

[Cutecat78]

Polly I agree with that ... You cannot make love to a one night stand.

Sometimes OH and I fuck and sometimes we make love - depends really.

[GoneClubbing]

I agree the phrase is cringey. For some reason I like 'take you to bed' or something like that. I remember years ago a relationship that started when he looked me straight in the eye and said 'I'd like to take you to bed' and it made me go weak at the knees and still does. I expect that's just as cringey though

[Queenbean]

I like "make the beast with two backs" a la Shakespeare

[ThoraGruntwhistle]

If DH said it to me, I don't think I'd be able to go near him again for weeks. It's revolting. I would rather hear pretty much anything else.

[Loveandstuff]

I'm going to fuck you like an animal.

[claraschu]

Hm milktwosugars:
"clara - can't be left unsaid anymore because that causes issues around what constitutes consent"

I guess I am an old crone, but I think anything less than extreme enthusiasm from both people means it's not happening. Such enthusiasm doesn't need words. This is not a legal position, just my personal preference.

[TheHiphopopotamus]

Apparently, "to make love" used to mean whispering love declarations in someone's ear, or something

Doesn't Bingley 'make violent love' to Jane Bennett in Pride & Predjudice? Meaning he talked to her a lot I wonder when the meaning changed.

[sparechange]

It makes me cringe so much.

In the early days of our dating, DH said something like 'I love making love to you'
I put him straight then that we don't make love. We fuck and shag but we never make love.
And I wonder why he thinks I'm a bit dead inside... But he hasn't said it since

[CauliflowerBalti]

We fuck. "Fuck me please". "I'm going to fuck you, if that's alright".

Sometimes I ask if he'll suck my tits, and that tends to lead to fucking.

Or I'll tell him I'd like to suck his cock.

Maybe we need to work on the romance.

Most times, we just kiss. And then KISS. And then grope. And then fuck. Without words at all.

[Alisvolatpropiis]

It is an awful twee phrase, Yanbu

[CauliflowerBalti]

I like, "I'd like to take you to bed", GoneClubbing. That would work.

[PollyPerky]

I think this is a MN Special. People in real life do talk about making love. It might be a bit 1960s but people still say it. Saying it's vomit-inducing is just silly.

[sparechange]

Oh, we do it quite a lot
I'm happy to be asked if I want to do it.
Provides lots of opportunities for Starsky and Hutch impressions

[FlyingElbows]

Awwwww, I am ice cold with a heart of stone and not a romantic bone in my body but my first great love said it to me. He had waited a very long time for me to be his girlfriend and on our first time (not THE first time) he looked me in the eyes and asked (all chivalrous and respectful and making sure he wasn't about to be a rapist) if he could make love to me. It was lovely. It quickly turned into fucking and the best sex I've ever had in my life but I like that it started off lovely.

[MaQueen]

DH prefers to announce 'Right, brace yourself...' whilst briskly rubbing his hands together as he approaches the bed.

If he's lucky, I might deign to put my book down during proceedings...

Been together 25 years, and married for 14.

[TheSnowFairy]

Don't the youth of today call it netflix and chilling?

If I said that to DH he'd think 'oh good, a film and some chocolates!'

[SauvignonZonk]

Who actually says this to you in real life that it annoys you so much?

I've never known anyone to discuss their shagging plans to anyone except the recipient!

[AndersArms]

Agree, it's cringe worthy. DH tends to say "fancy some?" which works. If I had to describe it, I guess I'd use shagging or having sex.