Making love. To want to throw up.....

[TheNaze73]

When people use the expression "making love"

Makes me want to vomit on the spot, puts my teeth on edge & it just sounds, so Mills and Boon

AIBU?

[VeryBitchyRestingFace]

As a child, I was shocked and appalled by the references to "love making" in my otherwise beloved LM Montgomery books, Emily of New Moon and Anne of Green Gables.

I used to think, "b-b-b-b-but they've only just MET."

Love making in the early part of the 20th century clearly did not have the same meaning as now.

[PitilessYank]

I think it's an okay phrase to use indirectly, as in "when my last BF and I made love he always insisted on wearing his blue socks", but I would not use it as part of an invitation-it is way too milquetoast!
My pickup lines for seducing my husband:

1. "My name is Tanya, and I want to get up on ya!"
2. "Wink wink nudge nudge say no more say no more..."
3. "Hey, Sailor, are you looking for a good time?"
4. "Let's f*#k tonight!"

[Lolipoplady]

I rather like it in the right context

Probably because my DP says it so rarely, it sounds heartfelt when he does.

[tb]

As Al Stewart sang in the song Love Chronicles on the album of the same name "it grew to be less like fucking, and more like making love".

Not cringy at all - unless it's said by some slimeball that you wouldn't touch with a barge pole. (Thinks of a former employer who offered to seduce me, back in the 70s.)

[WorraLiberty]

Why does no-one 'have a bit of the other' any more?

Or a bit of 'how's your father'?

[SciFiFan2015]

Sheldon calls it coitus.
Intercourse?
Local radio station has developed code of "colouring in".
I often colour in (new craze of actual colouring in might confuse this one!)

[TwatbadgingCuntfuckery]

My sister uses it all the time and it makes me cringe

My OH uses it when he's feeling fluffy.

Mostly its shagging or fucking or 'fancy bending me over the kitchen table?'

My mother used to call it bodging. I guess that was in relation to her Ex not doing a great job.

[TheNaze73]

Glad it's not only me. For those of you who asked it's an annoying woman at work, who starts every sentence with "my boyfriend....". She also does that annoying fanning thing with her hand to show something is emotional. When she said "made love" in the office, there was simultaneous fake vomiting noises.
I think are you up for it, more than does the trick

[HysteriaLane]

I like it in Anchorman when Will Ferrall looks at his colleague and says "I want to be ON you"

I tend to go with 'fancy a shag sweet'art' to DH of 10 years ..... born romantic me.

I despise the expression 'making love' but to me sex and love don't go hand in hand, I am definitely not the sort who needs a cuddle afterwards. The two are very separate in my mind and sex doesn't equal love or vice versa. But then I like calling my vagina my 'snatch' which just about sums it up.

[HysteriaLane]

Also in the b&w film version of Daphne De Maurier's 'Rebecca' he tells her perhaps he should be making violent love to her behind a palm tree...again, what he meant was, I'm going to give you a jolly good romantic talking to and reduce you to putty in my hands as I caress your carefully set hair.....

[NameChanger22]

I don't care what it's called, as long as I don't have to do it.

[MyCatWasRightAboutYou]

Bleh, YANBU. Hate that phrase.
I had a friend that used to call it "having relations" completely unironically. I think that's worse.

[ILostItInTheEarlyNineties]

Namechanger
I can't remember the last time my dh asked in an official way, I usually get The Creeping Hand in bed and have the option of pushing him off.

[Gazelda]

But I went through my teens in the 80s. The lyrics of every self respecting boyband, Eurovision duo, sweat soulful crooner had to include making love. It's slips as easily off my tongue as choose life or rara skirt.

[BabyGanoush]

it reminds me of the Flight of the Conchords song (it's called "business time")

Making Love!
Making Love for two!
Making love for twoooo whole minutes!

[MyCatWasRightAboutYou]

Baby Now that'll be in my head forever! Love FOTC

[honeylulu]

I don't see what's wrong with "having sex". Though sometimes we refer to it as "having the excitement" which we found very amusing in the book/film Angela ' s Ashes.
"Making love" is twee and boakworthy. I also loathe "sleeping together". It's so coy and the sleeping bit is, at best, incidental and not mandatory. I realised how ubiquitous it was when my eldest had sex ed at school and understood hire reproduction occurred but still thought it didn't actually work unless you also "slept together" afterwards as that was the phrase he'd heard bandied about.

[AristotleTheGreat]

I'm wondering TheNaze what word do you want to use?
Shagging - like rabbit
Having sex - also used when you are rapped or you are doing for the sexual release, not because yoou actually love the person, or when yoou ahve a ONS


I don't like having sex etc... Because it's the same word used whatever the type of relationship. It's the same word used when you are rapped, it's ex wo consent. It's the same word for a ONS with a guy you will see again. And the same word if you are in a loving relationship.
All of those are completely different to each other and so is the experience so why using the same word for it???

At least making love might be vomit inducing but it has at least the advantage to make it clear it's a consensual relationhsip and that they do indeed love each other.
If you don't like it, then could you find another word, not vomit inducing but that will be different from all of those situations? I'll be happy to take that.

[NameChanger22]

The creeping hand - I'm scarred for life.

[Overshoulderbolderholder]

Him ... I'm gonna jump on you in a minute
Me... Are you now
That's us ... YANBU

[UnderslungBowlingBall]

A bit, but I see where you're coming from, it's a bit weird isn't it?

[FledglingFridge]

I like it. I've fucked, shagged, humped and jumped a fair few times in my life, but only ever made love with DH. It's just different, isn't it?

[TondelayaDellaVentamiglia]

dh does a really good Lord Flashheart impersonation Let's doo-ooo-ooooooo IT!!

I might signal a fancy by announcing to him that "I am going for a lie down, if anyone is interested"
or ask if he is interested in the colour of my underwear.

I'd die of the laughing if Making Love was mentioned

[AddictedToCoYo]

I think it's quite an old fashioned turn of phrase, I haven't heard it used for years.

It's quite twee isn't it? I prefer 'had sex.' Everyone knows where they stand with 'had sex' but it's not smutty or sensationalist like fucking shagging.

'Made love' is to 'had sex' what 'passed on/away/over is to 'died'.

[VestalVirgin]

Just read a blog post where the blogger described the feeling that "the world wants to make love to you" ... she was referencing to a very different feeling than those who say "life fucks me every day".

Interesting, isn't it?