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To think people blathering on on FB about wishing their 1 year old a happy birthday represents all that's wrong with the world?!

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SweetElizaRose · 13/06/2016 07:55

I know, I know, hide it and don't use FB.

There seems to have been a tidal wave of people on my FB wall wishing their children who are much too young to have FB, or in fact be able to read, a happy birthday. Said parent then goes on for several hundred words about how awesome their child is and how awesome being a parent is and oh god it's all so amazing. Some people must spend their lives being constantly amazed by very very little. It's just showboating isn't it? No wonder these kids grow up so entitled and thinking they're god's gift.
I'm going to delete them.
Along with people who keep sharing memories of their children from a couple of years ago and writing 'can't believe how small they were.' Well yes, that's what happens, they get bigger.
And people who post those 'share if you have an amazing son / daughter who is your world'
Just for once I'd like to read one that says 'share if your kids are pretty average.'

Potentially I am very grumpy from having no sleep...

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PPie10 · 13/06/2016 07:57

Well you sound pretty bitter and nasty. It's not your child so why does this affect you to such a degree. You really don't know what the parent might have went through to have that child so why judge when you can so easily get off fb?

EatShitDerek · 13/06/2016 07:58

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gamerchick · 13/06/2016 07:59

Well if you're grumpy maybe wait until tomorrow?

Feckitall · 13/06/2016 07:59

I hear you OP...and the 'grandchildren are the most important thing in my life' type stuff...from the person who complains about their dc dumping their kids on her...

londonrach · 13/06/2016 08:00

Yabu. A friend just did that and i didnt realise how quickly the year had gone. Asked her to wish the birthday boy a happy birthday. Lovely to see photos of the birthday child. Reminded me i needed to see said friend soon as i havent even meet her child. Where the time go? (In my defence she lives different part of country now)

Buckinbronco · 13/06/2016 08:01

Your massively over thinking it OP. I do the happy birthday to my lovely child posts and it's just marking a milestone with my family and friends who LIKE ME. If I had an arse like you amongst them I hope you'd have the good sense to delete me as I don't need bitter people like you in my life!

Costacoffeeplease · 13/06/2016 08:01

I can't bear the 'share if you have an awesome daughter/love your mum' crap, so ridiculously fucking twee

We assume you do, unless there's evidence to the contrary

nutellacrumpet · 13/06/2016 08:01

You sound spiteful, jealous and bitter! I don't think the Internet is the place for you if parents wishing their children a happy birthday makes you so angry. Have you thought about anger management?

Reindeerlily · 13/06/2016 08:02

Wow you are a grump! I quite like seeing how people are celebrating their children's birthday. And yes I do it myself.

RosieandJim89 · 13/06/2016 08:02

yabu about the birthdays. It is a huge milestone for a parent to recognise and they may want to share it with family that couldn't be there.

I do have a problem with the very impersonal "happy birthday to x" status' though rather than messaging the person whos birthday it is. Seems a bit like you are trying to steal attention.
YANBU re the "share if you love your DD/DS" posts though.

MrsJoeyMaynard · 13/06/2016 08:02

YABU.

Yes, this sort of post can be a bit annoying. But people gushing a bit too much about their love for their children do not "represent all that is wrong in the world". That's a ridiculous overreaction.

Just hide the posts or unfollow the blathering parents and move on with your life.

ShortcutButtons · 13/06/2016 08:02

Parents gushing with love on FB is certainly not all that is wrong with the world. And such posts prove nothing about whether they will bring up entitled children.

Orlando shooting are all that is wrong in the world. Or Bote Leave out of fear. Or Vote Trump out of fear. Or consume plastics and ignore environmental impact. Those are all slightly worse than FB gushing love posts.

LouSavage · 13/06/2016 08:04

Yeah you're totally right OP. It's not people shooting up bars, throwing gay people off of rooves or abusing children that represents everything wrong with this world. It's people getting overexcited about their kids.

Timeforabiscuit · 13/06/2016 08:04

Im reserved on facebook, but posted when my dd did something very normal but i never thought she'd crack it so quickly (think riding a bike with no stabilisers type thing).

It was the birthday people who posted with warm congratulations, so yes gushing can sometimes be uncomfortable - but it comes from a place of joy and there is too much bile in the world already.

SweetElizaRose · 13/06/2016 08:04

One of my acquaintances did a slide show of photos - there were approx 200 for their dd's first birthday.
Nope. Can't bear it. Sorry. It's no wonder everyone is so self obsessed. Why would anyone want to see 200 baby photos set to sweet child of mine?!

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EatShitDerek · 13/06/2016 08:05

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Trills · 13/06/2016 08:07

AIBU to think that people overreacting to things that are at most twee and irritating represents all that's wrong with the world?

SweetElizaRose · 13/06/2016 08:07

I just can't help thinking that the world was better before all this 'look how wonderful me and my life are' stuff. It just feeds into people's unhappiness. And it's largely fake.

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neonrainbow · 13/06/2016 08:08

What a stupid post. How can parents loving and being proud of their children be ll that wrong with the world? Surely that's parents that abuse and kill their children?

Maybe you should do yourself a favour and get off facebook if youre that snotty about it.

FiaMarrow · 13/06/2016 08:08

I'm 50-50 on this. When it's one of my DC's birthdays I'll post a pic or two on Facebook because it's something that's happening to me on that particular day and Facebook is about life events and status updates. It'd be weird for me not to acknowledge that occasion!

Saying that, I'm in total agreement with you about the "can't believe how small they were" and things like "omg, her first puree/steps/shoes - my baby's growing up too fast". And 35+ photos uploaded every time they go on a flippin day trip or out for lunch Hmm

But I'm naturally cynical so, for me, it always smacks of trying to portray an amazing life through social media to disguise the harsh reality of the daily drudge. If you feel the need to use 100 words to describe how great your life is to a bunch of acquaintances then you're probably not very happy.

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AllPizzasGreatAndSmall · 13/06/2016 08:09

You do know they are the first people to have babies or any other thing that's been happening forever don't you?

I don't get people using FB to say happy birthday to their husband/wife who they probably woke up next to.

SweetElizaRose · 13/06/2016 08:09

I do appreciate that I've been operating on less than three hours sleep for over six months so am possibly more irritated by things than usual...

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nutellacrumpet · 13/06/2016 08:10

I don't think these people are your friends, you are too nasty about them and their children. You sounds like a very unhappy person and I hope you sort through your issues. It is really sad that you hate seeing others being happy and are so angry at them sharing their joy.

Alisvolatpropiis · 13/06/2016 08:10

Is it?

There is an element of showboating ones life on Facebook but I don't know anyone who is faking loving their children/celebrating their birthday.

200 photos does seem a touch excessive but well...it isn't about you?