To think people blathering on on FB about wishing their 1 year old a happy birthday represents all that's wrong with the world?!

[SweetElizaRose]

I know, I know, hide it and don't use FB.

There seems to have been a tidal wave of people on my FB wall wishing their children who are much too young to have FB, or in fact be able to read, a happy birthday. Said parent then goes on for several hundred words about how awesome their child is and how awesome being a parent is and oh god it's all so amazing. Some people must spend their lives being constantly amazed by very very little. It's just showboating isn't it? No wonder these kids grow up so entitled and thinking they're god's gift.
I'm going to delete them.
Along with people who keep sharing memories of their children from a couple of years ago and writing 'can't believe how small they were.' Well yes, that's what happens, they get bigger.
And people who post those 'share if you have an amazing son / daughter who is your world'
Just for once I'd like to read one that says 'share if your kids are pretty average.'

Potentially I am very grumpy from having no sleep...

i didnt wish my dh a happy birthday on FB
he doesnt have facebook
there was no point imo although I guess his handful of friends might have wanted to see a photo of him and his cake. but tbh he is not that bothered.
a baby however, we all love a baby
just scroll on op, scroll on and ignore, or delete from your friends list if you wish

I celebrated my kids first birthday big style and all over Facebook, as did her Dad. Her actual birth day was very nearly the only day she was alive for so a first birthday was pretty bloody special.

Jeezus Christ OP.

I did one for my ds and even posted on here because it was a big achievement for me to get to 1 with him
We spent the first 7 months in constant tears and at one point hating my new born baby. We didn't realise he had cmpa which took 7 months to diagnose. Do you have any idea how awful it is to watch a baby contanty screaming in pain every day for 7 months. Knowing you can't do anything to help him? That the doctors keep fobbing you off and telling you it's colic. That you don't sleep longer than an hour at a time at night?!

Ya being majorly u

I will say it all used to irritate fuck out of me when I was having recurrent miscarriage... "luckily" there's now a trend for sharing maudlin pictures of baby booties and stuff about one more angel in heaven and stuff, so I could have joined in on that if I'd not managed to actually have the kids...

OP, there's sure to be some of those Facebook posters just as pissed off by the whole small child experience as you are... they have a different way of coping with it, that's all. Some people are just not up for warts and all honesty.

Sweet

Agree with you re feeling blessed and posting photos of gifts. The latter is tacky.

Yes - I have had a rough time with both of my babies one way or another although I appreciate not as rough as some.
Still irritates me.

However I will accept I'm a misery!

I think it depends on how and why you use facebook. I only have family and friends on facebook, meaning I don't add anyone I used to go to school with 20 years ago that I don't see anymore. I don't add people from work I hardly talk to. I like to see how my friends and family's children are growing, and sharing in their happiness as I do in real life. Its quite shocking you find your children average! I hope you don't make them feel average!
What I don't like on facebook is people who post all day every day about what they have eaten or posting selfies so they get compliments. I also can't stand people who use facebook as a way to enforce their views on other people. Continuous posts about politics (from what ever view point) bore off!
I suppose it also depends how much time you spend on facebook. Some people spend far too much time on social media!

I must say, I do always think that if children/husband etc is not on FB - Why not just tell them all that to their face? I hate made up hashtags more. For example, people that put #nofilter on all their pics!!! Why? Here's a pic of my dog #nofilter ???

Marking your baby's first birthday on FB is surely just a way of celebrating the fact that you've survived the first year of parenthood. It is life-changing and I don't see what's wrong with acknowledging that. I agree a 200-photo slideshow is absurd, but I don't see the problem with posting a message and a couple of pics.

Oh yeah, wishing your child a happy birthday and being happy to be a parent is all that's wrong with the world ...

Have a nap and turn the news on- there is a lot you can get your knickers in a twist about.

I think it says more about you than the state of the World.

While these posts can be nauseating at times, positivity is in general a good thing.

Gosh. And here I was thinking that all the racist/sexist nasty posts that people share under the guise of "not being politically correct and just saying it like it is" was what's wrong with the world. No. It's wishing your kids a happy birthday. My bad.

The world was better before FB? Seriously? Yes, people spoke to each other, weren't obsessed with posting everything online, and there was some degree of privacy and reticence. FB seems to me to lead to oversharing, and stuff posted on there can come back to haunt you later.

That's why I am not on it, and have no intention of ever being so.

Yabu. How dare a parent show affection or pride in their children. You sound jealous

So so so sorry for celebrating the fact my daughter was still alive on her 1st birthday after battling meningitis. How self centred and crass of me.

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Wow OP, how grumpy are you?

There's nothing wrong with loving parents posting loving messages about their children on Facebook, even if they can't read it. I personally like to see how much a child is loved.

I'd say this is one of the GOOD things in the world, it's lovely to see families on Facebook enjoying life - giving their children a lovely childhood. It makes a nice change from all the bad stuff we have to read about in the papers everyday.

hateful and jealous people just shouldn't be on Facebook, if seeing other people happy and enjoying their lives annoys you so much.

It just all feels fake. Is it not all fake?

Well, no not really. I do it for my kids - it makes for a nice memory when I look back and see how much they've grown and it means I can share it with family who are spread out all over the place. I'm struggling to see how anyone could take offence to it...

There really are some miserable gits in the world. Wish they'd all just fuck off leave other people to find happiness in the simple things, without trying to rain on every parade.

And yet there is nothing wrong with posting how miserable and bitter you are on a social media forum...?

Don't get me wrong, my life is far from perfect.
I quite often have miniature breakdowns over DD smearing sudo cream on the carpet or drawing on the walls. Facebook gets pictures of that once I've calmed down, because it helps me to laugh it off.
Facebook (more often) also gets pictures of when DD has done something great or funny or its her birthday because it helps me remember that life isn't all scrubbing the carpet and wiping the walls. That my DD brings me a shed load of happiness too.
I currently have family all over the world who I want to keep up to date with DD. No, I don't post usual day to day photos when she has a tantrum or spills her dinner, but when it's her birthday and she's happy or she's just done something I'm super proud of I post a few photos. To let my family and friends see how she's getting on. Nobody really wants to see tantrum photos.
You sound like a horrible and bitter friend and if you were talking about me I'd hope you'd just delete me because if you don't care about what makes me happy you're no friend of mine anyway.
Also, you think this is "all that is wrong with the world" ?! Mass shootings, suicide bombings, kidnappings and child molestation is what I've been reading about in the news for the last couple of weeks. But you're right birthday posts to your children on Facebook are what's wrong with the world. I know what I'd rather be seeing.
Maybe you should just delete Facebook.

I'm not on Facebook anymore, but I quite liked the kids posts. It was the 'date night' selfies with multiple updates throughout the night that made me . Get off the phone and enjoy yourselves? And the 'so and so has just added 300 photos'. 300 photos from one party!! I would hate to have a camera in my face all evening.

It is doubtlessly annoying me more than usual at the moment because I'm chronically sleep deprived and also suffering from terrible pnd so am getting absolutely no joy from either of my children to the point where I can't see how anyone actually does which is why I think these 'my child is so brilliant I'm so happy' posts are fake.
But in honesty they've always irritated me, even before the PND. Maybe I will just come off FB...

I think when you give the masses a medium to share their whole lives with all and sundry their friends and acquaintances you're naturally going to get show boating going on. Not by everyone, of course it goes on.

My great gran would have shown off her white wash on the line and polished her doorstep every morning to show how well she was doing by her family. I think much of what gets posted on FB is the modern equivalent.

No harm in it - but I know a couple of people who really seem very preoccupied with displaying their lives on FB and set a lot of store by how they're coming across on there.

I don't think you really get FB and should delete it.