To think people blathering on on FB about wishing their 1 year old a happy birthday represents all that's wrong with the world?!

[SweetElizaRose]

I know, I know, hide it and don't use FB.

There seems to have been a tidal wave of people on my FB wall wishing their children who are much too young to have FB, or in fact be able to read, a happy birthday. Said parent then goes on for several hundred words about how awesome their child is and how awesome being a parent is and oh god it's all so amazing. Some people must spend their lives being constantly amazed by very very little. It's just showboating isn't it? No wonder these kids grow up so entitled and thinking they're god's gift.
I'm going to delete them.
Along with people who keep sharing memories of their children from a couple of years ago and writing 'can't believe how small they were.' Well yes, that's what happens, they get bigger.
And people who post those 'share if you have an amazing son / daughter who is your world'
Just for once I'd like to read one that says 'share if your kids are pretty average.'

Potentially I am very grumpy from having no sleep...

Yab hugely u. So many other really horrible things on the Internet and you hate people showing love for their children! Do you also object to people sharing birthday celebrations with elderly relatives who aren't on fbook?

I'm with you OP! Actually thought everyone else would be too!

Whilst we're at it, I'm adding the "Happy Anniversary to my amazing DH, I love you so much"

That's great. Tell HIM, not the rest of the world!

My FB pet peeve is seeing birthday messages to loved ones who have passed sometimes accompanied by a picture of their grave. I just find it so attention-seeking and the complete opposite to how I would do things but then that is exactly what it is, two different ppl doing things differently. FB poster can do whatever they pls and see no harm in it, OP can rage about FB poster and there's no harm in that either (and does not mean she's an unhappy parent ). Horses for courses.

FB is a tool of Satan though. The amount of times I've met a new acquaintance and thought they seemed quite nice, then discovered they post a photo of every meal and 100s of selfies on FB so I have to then avoid them.

Surely taking joy in the little things is what life is all about? Especially against a backdrop of shootings, child neglect and numerous other very sad things, is it not people's way of showing that there are good and beautiful things in the world and in their lives? You may think it's mundane-if you don't like it, hide it!

Op you do sound really bitter and angry. Have you got children of your own? Do you have fertility issues? Hide the posts fgs!

The thing I never get about FB moans are they are supposed to be your friends. That's the point of FB! So why do you have friends that do such irritating things?

Like, without being a bitch, my friends are too smart for some of the crap round robin and chain status stuff- I never see any of it. If your friends aren't it's not such a good reflection of you really is it? Just stick to people you like!

I think this thread is one where it is really important to read the thread, or at least the ops

rtft Aeroflot girl

Different people use FB for different reasons, just scroll on by if you don't like it.

Personally, I do share photos of DC. A lot of my friends and family are dotted all over the country and abroad, and a lot of us have had children at similar times and we like to use FB to keep in touch. Other people don't and that's fine. I personally don't like the 'share if you....' but if other people do so what.

Yea of course children do grow and we shouldn't be surprised...but actually I have shared time hop photos expressing surprise at how much DS has grown. This time last year he was a preemie, failure to thrive and we were having all sorts of problems. Now he is a happy, cheeky, into everything toddler, too right I'm proud and want to tell the world!

I don't have any Facebook accounts I don't like the whole concept but the way I understand it is your moaning about people who status is " happy first birthday to my baby"
What's wrong with that? There baby has turned 1. My ds isn't even 1 yet but I'm sure when he is i will wonder where to last 12 months have gone.

I really can't see your problem

I think yabu
I put up pictures of my dd because of the journey we have been through. I've held her whilst she has fought against anaesthetic and watched her eyes close knowing I might never see them open again; I've held her through countless blood tests and scans; I've rejoiced at bringing her home after surgery knowing that the countdown is on for the next one; I've had doctors look me in the eyes and tell me to prepare for the worst; I've attempted to hold her through all the tubes and wires and I know that one day she will ask me if she is going to die and the truth is I don't know what I'm going to tell her.

So I am one of those mums. I cry at every birthday and every milestone (like last week when I sobbed in my car because she was starting playgroup). I post some pictures and a gushing message on her birthday. I am amazed by the little things- because to me they are huge! And I love seeing updates on my friends' children. There is so much hatred in the world that I don't think there's anything wrong with posting a loving update that might cheer someone up.

I'm sorry to hear about the pnd op. Maybe log off fb for a while.

So forgive me if I get really excited over the little shit. What makes you think that we all didn't get excited over that? Mine is 20 now, and I felt like that, but would not have felt the need to spread it all over the internet with constant 'sharing'.

I wrote something unpleasant earlier and feel totally ashamed of myself. If anyone else is about to do that, please read the whole thread.

This is what I wish I wrote...

OP - I am probably guilty of overstaring on FB, although mostly it's just photos; I don't do the boastful stuff or share those awful trite memes. I can honestly say though that I have never done this in an attempt to show off or rub anyone else's face in our good fortune - I just hope (probably misguidedly!) that at least a few of my 'friends' and family might like to see. We have cousins in America and FB means that we can be connected on an everyday level, which is great.

I'm sorry that you're feeling miserable at the moment and really hope that you're getting some help for your PND. I think other posters' advice to wean yourself off social media for a bit is really sensible.

Sorry I was a cow - feeling pretty stressed out about work and nightmare MIL but that's definitely another story...

I was friends with some quite well known Mumsnetters on FB at one tine (after the whole Riven/petition thing) one had a massive go at me for posting happy birthday to my 11 yr old. Bloody weirdo!

baggy - what a lovely apology.

Now everyone else who is about to post......

read the op's posts first - PLEASE!

Christ fanjo
What did you say to them in response? What a weirdo!

love she deleted herself in a huff after ranting on my status.

I'm in OP's camp.

I have another account to share kid stuff that only family and close friends can access.

I put everything on Facebook - i am currently on holiday and shared on average fifty photos a day. It is like a diary for me- its free, easy, convenient storage of thoughts and photos. Plus allows me to share photos of DS with everyone who would be interested in them.i love looking back at "on this day" and seeing how we were a year ago.
I also share every run i go on - i like it when my running friends praise me online, i find it motivating
And i don't give a shit what anyone else thinks - mind your own miserable business!

where people probably just unfollow you.

My depression was one of the reasons I came off Facebook to be honest. If you're feeling that way, some of the more 'I feel blessed and my life is so wonderful' posts accompanied by a trillion photos proving that point can leave you feeling shitty. I do enjoy seeing people happy and can find some of it pretty motivating, but it can also have the opposite effect.

Be kind to yourself OP and take a step back

No, I agree. It's utter bullshit, and one of the reasons I came off face book. Say 'happy birthday' or 'you are amazing' or 'I love you' but say it to the actual fucking person, in real life, not as a way of being so completely self absorbed and smug.

Well said, where!

And I'm sure you don't give 2 shits if people unfollow you, I wouldn't!

I apologise op for being harsh earlier, mabey a break from Facebook, or just hit the hide button. I admit after 2 loses and problem conceiving, I found looking at pregnancy announcements and scans so hard on Facebook, I used to cry. I just used to hide them. I now have 2 lovely chikdren, I with ASD and learning difficulties. I find FB boasts of achievement of others children really hard.

I wonder if those I feel blessed, my life is really wonderful, posts really true, or is it a front to the world, as actually they are struggling right now, life is not as rosey as they make out. Those who are comfortable at the moment, I find, don't need to justify it.