To think people blathering on on FB about wishing their 1 year old a happy birthday represents all that's wrong with the world?!

[SweetElizaRose]

I know, I know, hide it and don't use FB.

There seems to have been a tidal wave of people on my FB wall wishing their children who are much too young to have FB, or in fact be able to read, a happy birthday. Said parent then goes on for several hundred words about how awesome their child is and how awesome being a parent is and oh god it's all so amazing. Some people must spend their lives being constantly amazed by very very little. It's just showboating isn't it? No wonder these kids grow up so entitled and thinking they're god's gift.
I'm going to delete them.
Along with people who keep sharing memories of their children from a couple of years ago and writing 'can't believe how small they were.' Well yes, that's what happens, they get bigger.
And people who post those 'share if you have an amazing son / daughter who is your world'
Just for once I'd like to read one that says 'share if your kids are pretty average.'

Potentially I am very grumpy from having no sleep...

baggyleggings, if you want to delete you go to the post and click on report in the top right hand corner.

So, I was actually thinking about this the other day, because I have friend's that don't post pictures of their children.

I am so freaking over come with how amazing my child is every fucking day that I want to share it with the world. Do you know what he learned yesterday? To walk with wellies on. Every day I am overcome with what a daunting task I have in hand, I literally need to teach him everything, he doesn't know that nettles sting, that the step off the pavement isn't a fun place to play as it steps into a road, he has to learn that a black and white thing with four legs could be a dog, a horse or a cow.

It's a huge and daunting task to take the tiny little thing that was so new and small at one stage he forgot to breathe a few times and help him develop into a walking, talking, feeling, caring fully fledged member of society.

So forgive me if I get really excited over the little shit.

Well I am not on FB for many reasons, this being one of them. But when you write:

No wonder these kids grow up so entitled and thinking they're god's gift.

It makes you sond like a twat.

Doesn't matter to me if people don't care that I wish my child a happy birthday & share some pics. I've always done it with ds & will no doubt do the same when dd turns 1.
Lots of people on my fb DO care, the ones who don't can keep scrolling.

I don't care about what people have had for dinner. Lots of people seem to post pics of it though. I just scroll past.

There's plenty of other things going on in the work that I could get worked up about.

are people aware that personal attacks are not allowed on MN?

or do they just not care in their haste to be vicious?

It is doubtlessly annoying me more than usual at the moment because I'm chronically sleep deprived and also suffering from terrible pnd so am getting absolutely no joy from either of my children to the point where I can't see how anyone actually does which is why I think these 'my child is so brilliant I'm so happy' posts are fake.
But in honesty they've always irritated me, even before the PND. Maybe I will just come off FB...

Oh OP, I TOTALLY get where you are coming from.

I think I also suffered from undiagnosed PND and I remember SIL irritating the living fuck out of me with her self-approving remarks about 'oh you know me, so laid back, just love spending time with the girls, baking and stuff, just love family time' etc etc.

Whilst I would be desperately rocking 3mo DD to sleep hoping to God I'd be able to put her down just for 10 minutes without her crying.

But honestly, it does get better and the thing is, I now realise those feelings that SIL had were not showboating. They were real and I feel them too.

And when I contrast how I used to feel with how I do now, it does seem 'amazing' and I do feel so lucky to have DD and be able to appreciate her.

I also know SIL had a horrendous delivery and first year with her first baby. In retrospect, I wonder if a lot of the apparent smuggery was a 'thank fuck I'm out of that stage and can enjoy it'.

So maybe........hopefully............one day you will feel like this too!

Oh & for what it's worth. I'm struggling. A LOT. As a mother. I find it bloody hard. I have few moments lately where I really sit & take in how "awesome" my children are. To reflect on their birthday is lovely & then I might think I'm not doing such a bad job after all.
They certainly aren't growing up thinking they're gods gift

I have several family members who don't live nearby so have an album of DC which I upload photos to every month - so they can keep updated and see how much DC has grown! Much easier than emails and so simple to do! Always have comments/messages saying how much they enjoy seeing little one grow!

That being said I do find the continuous OTT posts tedious to read. Occasional and milestone posts acceptable - but frequent (4+ X a week) posts are just boring and make me think OP is not being genuine.

Do yourself a favour and just delete Facebook. Problem solved. Deleted mine 3 years ago for reasons not dissimilar - There was a particularly bad spate of ' thank you so much for a brilliant day, you are the best OH ever xxxxxxxx'. There is something wrong when you have to have to publicly thank your other half for something when they are sitting right next to you on the sofa

If you think a parent being happy and proud of their child on their child's birthday is 'all that is wrong in the world' then your view of the world is somewhat skewed.

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The odd pic doesn't bother me, but the essays about how amazing the year has been. Yada yada yada.

I do use Facebook but I'm not one for sharing what I view as personal/boring/stating the obvious and it grates on me when other people do. Their choice, clearly, and I obviously don't comment or voice this.

But I might be biased because I've just spent time with a close friend who can now only talk about her 1 year old.

FB can indeed be irritating but I would submit that conflict and poverty are in large part "what's wrong with the world".

200 photos of baby's first birthday is a little self indulgent yes, but it's harmless.

FB only "feeds" unhappiness if you are unhappy in the first place. Taking it away wouldn't make you less unhappy - and if it would, deregister. Seriously.

I have the "seriously sleep deprived" t-shirt (my twins didn't sleep until they were 3 and 4 yo) irritable yes. Being mean about someone else's baby pics? Not so much.

Pressed send too soon.

I can think of tonnes of things I've seen on fb which are a much better example of what's wrong with the world.

I don't really care for the 'share if you love your children' meme's, they're twee but a few close family members enjoy that sort of thing so I let them crack on.

I posted something along the lines of "I can't believe dd2 will be one tomorrow" the day before dd2's birthday. I know she's obviously not going to see it or even care that it's birthday but I was/am still genuinely in awe that my youngest is over a year old, still seems like she was only born a couple of months ago. I wanted to share those feelings with others, especially family who may relate, what's wrong with that?

Seems like you have a lot going on at the moment op and maybe that is contributing to the way you're viewing the world because parents pointing out their child's birthday on fb shouldn't wind you up this much.

If you're going to get this worked up over some parents celebrating their child's first birthday on fb you should probably deactivate your account.

Just because you are miserable being a parent doesn't mean everyone else is. If you can't cope then you need to seek help. Not get angry with the rest of us who are enjoying our kids.

Deactivating your account as purplefox suggested is a good idea. I deactivated last week - bored of hearing about the minutiae of peoples lives / seeing sides of my friends that I would prefer not to know about/ tired of the narcissism; facebook was irritating me. Its a whole lot better without it and I thoroughly recommend binning it

YANBU OP.

I despise FB on so many levels. In theory it should be great but all this wanky "share if you have lost someone you loved and they are a star in the sky" shite and boasting about your wonderful amazing children that you are so proud of who at 27 scored a goal for their local team. FFS!

It is just a massive cringe factor to me. I have DC, I love them dearly, they make me very proud often, they have also made me sad, angry, frustrated, same as every parent. It is just this whole FB world where everyone is living the dream and so amazing.

Everyone seems to have 987 friends and posts crap to get as many Likes as they can and "awww hun, you are fabulous" comments.

Needless to say, I opened an account years ago, and closed it soon after.

this thread has shown some nasty comments. now that shows what is wrong with the world op

too much social media, particularly the anonymous type, can be pretty nasty

MurphysChild - exactly! I can't believe I wasted so much time on there and took so long to deactivate

People celebrating their kids is about the only thing I do want to see on FB atm.

There's some pretty bleak stuff going on in the world. It's nice to see my friends happy with something light and fluffy.

I upload photos to Facebook often so I have them in case I lose my phone (don't trust iCloud, too ephemeral!) This is mostly photos of my kids, so I put them up for my record and any family or friends who are interested. I don't tend to write loads though just happy birthday in this case! I think you are being a bit grumpy tbh - I think most people are award their kids are not as special to other people, and even average kids/ people have moments and attributes worth celebrating.

You sound unnecessarily bitter and grumpy - there are worse things in the world!

YANBU Sweet, it's not only nauseating it's really boring. The same people parading their genius kids on FB. Yawn.

'Happy birthday our little prince/princess we can't remember what life was like without you you're soooooo amazing and mumma and dada are so proud of you, we love you to the moon and back to infinity and beyond you complete us our little bundle of snuggly gorgeousness'

If I wrote that about my cat I'd be sectioned.

I'm with you too, OP. It's tiresome, but I hide the offenders.

people do post that about their cat.

I don't really care if people want to post that about their toaster, if they're happy they can crack on with their toaster love.

It's FB, have the people on FB whose posts you like, don't have the people who post stuff you don't like

Sweetelizarose I agree with you. Totally does my head in too!!