To have the rage with parents blatantly not rsvping to dds party

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Dd who will be 4 next week is having a whole class party,party is for 30 children,any extra children who attend have to be paid for above the set price,baring this in mind(there are 30 in class and 6 friends children coming) I put an rsvp date (yesterday)and asked politely if they could let me know by then as I need exact numbers.

4 !! Replies the day the invites went out and none at all til yesterday evening,where I got 3 more,physically went to speak to 3 and outright asked if they'd got the invites,yes they had them,but no bloody mention of if they are coming so I'm just assuming they are.

Well I was so peed off that I got in touch with all the people who had bothered to reply to say they could bring siblings.

As it stands there are 27 children coming,but what the fffing he'll do I do about the other 20 who haven't bothered to reply,if they turn up I'm looking at forking out another £50 plus there won't be enough room or party bags,I'm tempted to tell the staff at the venue that if they show up they either pay themselves or go home again.

First big party I've done and it will certainly be the last

That's sounding more sociopathic by the minute Pearlman! You don't seem to grasp that someone is doing you a favour by inviting your child to a party, even if it is not one you want to take your kid to. The host's intention is to include your child in a circle of friends, to have them enjoy themselves, etc. which is why basic courtesy requires a reply in all but the most extraordinary circumstances.

Up to you dear but it's not all about you, your dc will pay dearly for your unpleasantness, the parents behaviour is always visited upon them. Good luck when they're heartbroken at being left out because you have a history of entitled rudeness

I just don't get the "I'm too busy/forgetful" shite, it's rude, end of.

Actually in my case I'm forgetful because I'm hypothyroid. Maybe the end result is rude, but it is unintentional.

Don't worry darling, I wouldn't want you within a country mile of my family and is suspect few others would. Maybe you're unfamiliar with the practice of rsvp because no one likes you enough to ask you anywhere 😁

...and where do you live? 1981? The "post office" isn't a factor these days.

Lol, the old pa "chill out" when you've been challenged and have no cogent argument to respond with. You're on the ropes love, just give up

Hmmm. Living in the past isn't really an option love.

...as you use the internet forum from the 21st century. You can't really cherry pick the time zone you live in.

Well if everyone does what they want the results are somewhat nasty and anarchic. Maybe you mean YOU think you should do what you want and everyone else should just suck it up? That doesn't really wash in the big wide world darling

Sorry but you're not as funny or clever as you clearly believe yourself to be. Your responses are getting lamer and less en pointe as we proceed. Shame

...if I'm upsetting you so much, don't respond, it's not rocket science love ❤

I'm not worried

I wouldn't dream of not replying to an invite. Awful!

I'm pretty sure nobody dreams of not replying to invitations, it's more likely that the invitation never reaches the parent for one of many reasons, or that they have to check with others about lifts or whether other children can be farmed out or whether other plans for the day can be rescheduled - which is not ideal but not generally deliberate or malicious.

I disagree that asking people to make my child's party a priority is doing them a favour, as I have said.

I think the way to "win" at parties is to keep them small. One guest per year of age is a good rough guide IME. No four year old is good friends with 30 kids and plenty don't even know all their names, so not a lit is really achieved by inviting hoards aside from stress - but I do know from MN that whole class parties are now a fairly standard thing to do in many parts of the UK for some inexplicable reason.

For young children's birthdays (age 3-8 or so and beyond if possible) I have always made sure the invitees have been to the house before and know me as I like to know what I'm dealing with and be sure we can handle not only the numbers but the personalities and that the kids feel comfortable being dropped off. If you have had the kids over previously you have contact details and a more personal relationship (even though it's only as Little Freddie ' s mum/ dad) and don't get messed about.

Oh for the days when a little tea party for a few friends, a few sandwiches, jelly and ice cream and a cake was the norm.

This. Exactly this. We still do this in our tiny flat. All three DC never have more than 6 children invited which means I can speak to parents first to find the best date and it looks like a bigger party than it actually is. It's worked a dream.