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Original poster

a parking one with a note from neighbour

490 replies

KinkyAfro · 04/06/2016 13:42

This is the letter left on DP's van yesterday. We live at 215, attached to 213, then there's a road and then 211 where note writer lives.

I'm having to sit on my hands so I don't write a response. AIBU to think this is a bit passive aggressive or AIBU to park van there?

[Message from MNHQ: We've had to remove the attached letter as it was a bit too identiyfing. We realise the rest of the thread will make little sense now to anyone new to the thread, but we're leaving it up so the OP can continue to discuss with those already on board].

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Querty12345 · 04/06/2016 22:23

Kinky it's like I've got the ESP or something!

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KinkyAfro · 04/06/2016 22:25

She's going to report me to Magnum and Panini, Qwerty, what could be more scary?

Seriously though, I couldn't get a word in, she constantly interrupted, face palmed me and pretty much shut the door on me so I have no idea who she's going to report me to

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Original poster
KinkyAfro · 04/06/2016 22:26

Sorry querty got your name wrong

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Original poster
KinkyAfro · 04/06/2016 22:26
Grin
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Querty12345 · 04/06/2016 22:29

She can't report you to anyone I don't think, H2B isn't breaking the law, he might be annoying them a bit but it's not forever... Maybe they could try and be considerate to and realise 1) it isn't forever and 2) it isn't actually their road so they shouldn't be making awkwardness in the neighbourhood by threatening you?!

OneMagnumisneverenough · 04/06/2016 22:29

OP if you are within all the rules and regulations then there really isn't anyone that she can report you to or that would do anything other than ask you in the name of keeping neighbourly relations civil if you could park the van elsewhere. Even reporting you to me doesn't mean I can do anything either. :o

However you have it within your power to be the bigger person here and keep the peace for your mum. You've said it's only likely to be a short while since your DP isn't about much so would it really kill you just to park elsewhere?

Querty12345 · 04/06/2016 22:30

Magnum you've changed your fucking tune.

Ceic · 04/06/2016 22:31

So her polite request was actually an order?

PreciousVagine · 04/06/2016 22:32

This thread is like an emotional roller coaster Shock

Chippednailvarnishing · 04/06/2016 22:32

Can your DP swap vans to a really fuck off big one?

PreciousVagine · 04/06/2016 22:32

And arsey neighbour doesn't care about keeping the peace. Would it kill her not to moan about six inches of van? Nope.

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KinkyAfro · 04/06/2016 22:33

I've said we will park elsewhere if we can, I've said to her that as a last resort, if needed, it might be parked at the side of their house on the odd occasion. I've no idea if it will need to be, I just wanted her to have a head's up just in case.

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PreciousVagine · 04/06/2016 22:33

I am going to buy a van and come down there and camp on her drive in it.

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KinkyAfro · 04/06/2016 22:34

Fuck me, it's not even my van!

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Chippednailvarnishing · 04/06/2016 22:34

Now now Precious don't be an inconsiderate fucker Grin

Querty12345 · 04/06/2016 22:34

Ceic exactly she's using neighbourhood friendliness to cover up the fact she's actually threatening op to do as she asks... Little does she know there's the Google machine that means you can research bullshit like this in quick time. Is she still pre broadband?

RaeSkywalker · 04/06/2016 22:35

Having just read your updates Afro, your neighbour is now being totally unreasnoble. You've done all you can, and she definitely knows it's for a limited time now. She's making herself look daft. Let her get on with it!

PreciousVagine · 04/06/2016 22:36
Grin
OneMagnumisneverenough · 04/06/2016 22:37

I've not changed any tune. I don't think it's considerate to have commercial vehicles parked in residential areas, there are loads of rules and regulations about it which I've pointed out. OP says that they are within all of those, so neighbour legally has not a leg to stand on. OP need only be worried about being reported if she is not abiding by both the law and any other applicable regulation. Op says this is not the case and therefore she has nothing to be concerned about.

OP could easily do something about not annoying the neighbour regardless of whether she is legally in the right or not. That's common decency and common sense.

So, if the van can fit on the drive then it would make sense to park it there and put the cars where the van was or alternatively park the van in the car park down the road.

Where I live you cannot park commercial vehicles on driveways or in parking bays, people seem to manage.

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KinkyAfro · 04/06/2016 22:39

We don't have that daft rule though and I've explained about the car parks

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Querty12345 · 04/06/2016 22:41

Magnum you're just repeating yourself, it's painful.

Why should op be the one to bend to common decency? Why does the neighbour not have to have any? Neighbour is being a threatening little weasel.

Chippednailvarnishing · 04/06/2016 22:42

Poor Op.

You've explained. Over. And. Over. Again. And. Again.....

Haffdonga · 04/06/2016 22:45

Magnum* what's the problem with commercial vehicles?

Would a sales execuitves Audi or a business woman's 4x4 be a problem for you on a residential street or is it only if they have writing on the side that it lowers the tone?

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KinkyAfro · 04/06/2016 22:48

This one doesn't have writing on it yet apart from a teeny bit on the door. It's going to the sign writers next weekend

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OneMagnumisneverenough · 04/06/2016 22:48

Querty becasue the OP is there for a few weeks, her Mum lives there on a permanent basis, it was the OPs DP that changed the dynamics in the street not the neighbour, we don't know anything about the neighbour, this may be her/his normal character, they may be elderly and set in their ways, they may have mental issues etc etc. The Op has it in her power at very little inconvenience to defuse the whole situation so therefore imo she/her DP should be the ones to do it.

I agree that the neighbour has shown a lot less reasonableness later in the OPs updates. Some people do get inordinately annoyed by some things that others think aren't an issue, people can get fixated on something and then they just notice it all the time and it makes their blood boil.