AIBU to not know much about 'lady garden' maintenance!!

[Joolsy]

OK I'm sorry if I'm putting people off their breakfast. But I have never bothered much with doing anything about my hair 'down there'. I am not a hairy person so it's not like it's hugely overgrown(!). But all I really do is shave my bikini line, like once a year if I'm going on holiday (I don't wear a high-cut swimsuit). Seriously, what else do other people do? I'm worried now that I look like I'm smuggling a ferret down there whenever I go swimming. Should I be trimming it on a regular basis?

Ah, Shotgun, has beat me to it: I felt this thread needed a link to the 'beach ready' thread

OP, so whatever you like.
HTH.

What/where exactly is a bikini line? Is it just a fancy way of saying your pubes aren't popping out your pants?

I think so. Which means your own bikini line is at wherever your bikini sits on you?
Which means I really could do with cycling shorts as a bikini bottom. Wild and free hairiness!

Think so PurpleTraitor.

Though don't ask me. Only time a razor has been near my pubic area is for operations. All I know is if I put a pair of bikini pants on there isn't anything hairy to been seen.

There are loads of nice cozzies with "boy leg" now.

the last time I attempted any sort of maintenance was when I was feeling low about my 5 month pregnant body and thought it might help to make me feel "groomed" to do a bit of shaving before an aqua aerobics class. The swimming pool soup combined with my lowered pregnant immune system and my shaved skin resulted in a vile skin infection which needed prescribed antibiotics to shift. And I had to wear mens underwear for weeks while it healed.

TLDR: don't bother

Agree with pp just do what you like. I remove everything but that's because I prefer it that way.

I trim away knicker spiders around the times of holidays that involve swimsuits. That's all.

My bikini line extends so far these days I have to trim it to wear shorts.

All you need to do is keep it clean!
Personally I am a full Hollywood wax kind of girl, but that's just my preference!

Boyleg swimsuits solve knicker spider issues !

Hah I just clicked the ONatural vote on there even though generally I sport a baldy quim.

I wax usually about every 6 weeks. I rarely have problems with ingrown hairs as I have found a very good professional. But I wouldn't trim it myself at home because I've had so many catastrophes with Veet and razors etc.

At the moment I can't wax as I'm home on crutches and it's grown fast, I'm quite enjoying the regrowth...it feels like a baby seal.

I don't really think on porn or my partners wishes. He's easy. I enjoy the feeling and that's why I do it.

I have boy leg for regular swimming IYSWIM and the kind of hols where you run around on overcast beaches.

But sometimes we go somewhere sunny different, and that's when the standard bikini comes out and the spiders leave.

Ah but of course you really wax because unbeknown to you, you have been branwashed by the porn culture. You have no free will, you do what men want. Obviously

It's just funny how, oh say, 20-30 years ago everybody was 'brainwashed' in to having a full bush. And preferred that, apparently.
I think it's really astonishing that anybody could deny that fashion/culture has nothing to do with their topiary preference.
In my yoof you'd've been considered seriously weird to have a bald fanjo.

'I enjoy the feeling and that's why I do it.'

The feeling during the actual removal?

'Oh I shave the majority off, especially in summer a sweaty flange is not the way to go.'

You'll sweat exactly the same amount with or without hair (it's an internally regulated process)

You'll sweat exactly the same amount with or without hair (it's an internally regulated process)

No it's not. The exterior sweats more with more hair. That why I keep it cropped. It makes a difference to the external crotch area. The same as I get bigger put stains when I haven't shaved my pits for a a couple of weeks.

No, it just spreads it about more.

But seriously, who has a sweaty pudenda anyway?

Yes I enjoy the both waxing process and the feeling afterwards.

I've been removing the hair completely since I was 24 and moved to London where it was more accessible to find a waxing professional. I'm 46 now so it's not really been a trend for me for 22 years!

It was about the same time that I decided, after so many incidents that I would never dye my hair myself, or shave or remove hair myself. It's the two things I really treat myself professionally on.

But I think it's a lot more accessible to have these treatments these days, so it's bound to be more common, like Botox or teeth whitening. And possibly celebrity culture more than porn culture.

I think Carrie on Sex and the City getting her LA wax, was more influential to my girlfriends than "Shaven Ravers"

No, it just spreads it about more.

And therefore it feels more sweaty.

I get sweary crotch and pits, sweat stains on my back.

If your spend 2/3 hours kick boxing it happens.

You know what's really ironic? I am old enough to remember when women successfully campaigned to stop HCPs automatically shaving women's pubic hair when they were admitted to the labour ward. It was considered a significant step forward.

Now you get threads on here started by women upset and worried about what HCPs will think of them if they have hair when they are admitted.

If you want to reduce sweat, you need an intervention like Botox (can certainly get it done for pits, not sure about other places). Shaving/waxing/chemical attack to remove hairs doesn't change where or how you sweat.

Bertrand - me too!

Haha, I remember looking down after my c section and thinking 'I didn't consent to that'!!

Itsmine

Surely the irony was not that individuals may make different grooming choices over time, but how in such a short space of time the campaigning to end compulsory depilation was overtaken by events (ie women feeling insecure and starting threads about 'what will the midwife think?' - not that the midwife will think anything of course, but the pressure to conform has provoked the concern)

"choice! trends do change, so what? shave or don't but fgs stop judging those that do either, or constantly trot out it's always about porn and mens objectification of women zzz..."

but you're the only person who's said that- several times!

Why do you think that the "fashion" has changed so quickly?