To wonder if people who always upload selfies are vain or insecure?

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I have a few people on my Facebook who upload selfies of themselves every single day, now these women aren't teenagers in fact one of them is almost 30 so I can't help but wonder to always be uploading selfies are they just vein or really insecure & seek out people's likes & approval? 🤔 Either way it's like a get a bloody hobby 😆

It's very boring to me and quite honestly it's the last thing on my mind to do when I'm out and about. I would much rather see pictures of flowers, animals, scenery, not someone posing and pouting until they got the right picture eeurrrggh

You cannot do right for doing wrong.
People are narcissistic, people are baby bores, people aren't allowed to show pictures of their holidays etc.

If you find these people such then remove them or Facebook altogether.

I only have people on mine who I am genuinely interested in and are real friends.

Addicted, the whole 'next generation are going to hell in a handcart' is one of the most consistent and boring narratives in human history.

It's not scary, it's just something you dont get/agree with. The generation of selfie takers will be just fine.

'Posting a selfie is the ultimate symbol of a strong feminist.'

we are creating a whole generation of emotionally delicate, needy narcissists and egotists with social media. It's really quite scary.

Again psychologists state that late Generation X (late 80's/early 90's) are already displaying high levels of unhealthy narcissism, ego-centricism and entitlement.

Laurie I don't think they will be fine actually, more young people seem to be self harming and suffering from MH problems, eating disorders, anxiety, depression and low self esteem than ever before.

I had a long chat with one of my DC about this a few weeks ago and he agrees with me that social media has not only caused serious addiction problems but it causes young people to be dissatisfied with their lot/looks and constantly comparing their own lives to those of others who appear to be having a more exciting successful life.

I uploaded a selfie about 10 mins before I saw this post
I have lost 3 stone, I'm now a size 8-10 and think I look pretty good. I'm not beautiful but I'm feeling confident enough to show myself off so YABU because you have no idea why these people are uploading them.

No it's not bollocks.
So many women once they have kids forget about themselves & lose their identity. All they do is post pictures of their children or food or animals ( just going on my FB )
What about them?

The op asked about those who always put up selfies.

Constantly posting pictures of your face seeking approval on FB isn't not a strong, feminist action. Nor is it about the reduction in forgetting yourself and regaining your identity. It's just a photo of you, which is fine. Just don't ascribe feminism to it.

But if you're constantly pouting, posing and seeking admiration each and every day by putting up selfies, then I think you really have forgotten yourself.

I'm a bit torn. As with everything in life, moderation is key. I like seeing the occasional pic of friends and family but I do have a few friends who change their profile pics - always selfies, every other day. It's hard not to think that's a bit vain. OTOH I have years, even a decade of my life where there are no pictures to remind me of that time because I didn't take pictures of myself (pre-selfie era) and no one ever seemed to take pictures of me - I was always the photographer :( I've changed hair colour several times, had different cuts and I wish I had more photos to remind me, if for no other reason that I don't want to repeat a colour/style that didn't actually suit me.

I quite like that it's acceptable now to take a picture of yourself because I'm not holding my breath for my dh to take a photo of me!

I try to have a live and let live attitude, and the majority of selfies I see in my FB newsfeed don't bother me at all. However, I'm 33 and have never taken one - purely for the reason that I don't want to be 'the kind of person who takes selfies'. So I guess by that admission I kind of agree with you OP.

I just don't get all this self-love that a lot of people have for themselves these days. There is being confident and having pride in yourself and there's being narcissistic. I go in a well-known known coffee shop on a regular basis and there is a very large wall mirror opposite the counter. Time and again I witness people loving admiring themselves in this mirror and sometimes it is quite nauseating. It's not just a quick look,check their hair,make sure eye-liner not smudged etc,you can practically see them drooling over themselves. I sometimes wonder why they bother to have a relationship with someone as they are SO in love with themselves.

I have one friend who posts a few selfies literally everyday & she isn't at all good looking. Its like she needs us all to remember shes still there & I do think she's very insecure & needy. It's not as if she's even after praise (I don't think)

I'm not reading everything sorry but I should think there's as many reasons/motives/whatevers for posting them as there are people. Can't bracket it all together. Who can tell if someone is insecure or narcissistic.

DH specialised in the selfie before it had a name, back in the days before digital cameras in order to get a picture if us together without asking the waiter etc. The only reason I ever take a photo of myself is if I am doing something or am somewhere noteworthy and there isn't anyone to take one for me. Eg took my 5 year old on his first roller coaster today and grabbed a pic of the two of us in the carriage ready to go. Absolutely cannot see the point of close up face only pics apart from to invite compliments. But for me, the best photos of me (that I might put as my Facebook profile) are ones someone I love took so I am smiling in a natural way at them, or where I'm not looking at the camera but at my children etc. Not a picture at a weird angle where I'm obviously holding my arm out.

Back to my only selfie of all time my friends came to dinner and I showed them. They said I looked great but looked about 28 which is a good 20 years younger than I am.

Realised that in RL though people always say I look a lot younger I do not look that young in the flesh at all. Society portrays being young as being desirable. So maybe there is some fooling of the selfie obsessed that they are still youthful. Shame we don't celebrate the beauty of mature women more.

I have friends who at 25 exclaim, I'm so old now. Tbh it gets on my tits, I never felt like that. I only started to feel a bit older when I hit late forties and that was only because I started the menopause.

You are obviously friendly with this mom as you can access her Facebook account,so how can you put her down and say you cringe and embarrassed for her? I am in my 40's if I was on holiday and had some good photos took I would put some on too. I have friends in their 40's too,and one especially often puts photos of herself on Facebook of her on holiday,or on nights out with work colleagues. She is a nurse and always has nights out with the younger nurses.They all think she's great.She even has skiing holidays in France with a friend she visits and always puts photos on.Even my cousins who are in their 40's put photos on of nights out.Put personally I think they can seem immature because they put photos of them being drunk and appearing to have a good time.The one cousin has two teenage daughters and a 7 year old. I think she could be classed as acting like a teenager.

Nothing wrong with someone uploading a selfie if they're all gussied up and off to a wedding or a big night out or whatever. But people who post daily selfies don't tend to be the most interesting people in the world. You can imagine them glaring anxiously at their facebook page willing the number of likes to increase. And as for it being the ultimate feminist act or whatever guff that was? Ho ho ho. Thanks for the chuckle.

I think YABU. You're not the Facebook police. If you don't like what your 'friends' post, hide them from your feed or block them. Who gives a shit if some people like to post selfies? Stop tearing people down and picking on their appearance, 'Oh, it's so cringey,' and 'She doesn't look like THAT in real life.' Makes you guys far worse than them tbh. Judgemental, cruel and nitpicky. Block, delete, whatever.

I have 2 relatives who do this. I like them, and we can have a good banter sometimes, but Ive had to unfollow and put in acquaintances because of the sheer volume of selfies that land in my newsfeed. I don't want to have to scroll past 50 photos of them to get to other stuff, its boring so I don't bother. Which is a shame I suppose as Im missing other stuff that they say as now, I forget to actively look for their pages

I do admit, I think differently about people who do that, mostly that they dont have much get up & go in real life so its easy to just sit there encouraging affirmation interaction based on how you look, or they thirst for validation from others/and audience and thats instant on Facebook, isn't it?

Also you can flood people's newsfeeds with your photo (you WILL look at me) . Not like real life, where if you always had a camera in hand taking snaps of yourself then met up with friends later and wanted to show them reams of selfie photos all the time then theyd soon give you short shrift

A large chunk of Facebook is about middle-aged showing off

If you're talking about selfies, it's vanity.