To wonder if people who always upload selfies are vain or insecure?

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I have a few people on my Facebook who upload selfies of themselves every single day, now these women aren't teenagers in fact one of them is almost 30 so I can't help but wonder to always be uploading selfies are they just vein or really insecure & seek out people's likes & approval? 🤔 Either way it's like a get a bloody hobby 😆

Lordofthetits (snigger everytime i see your name) Thats a fair point i suspect im just a grumpy bugger

I think Facebook is all about insecurity - 'look at what a fantastic time I am having' etc. The people I know that have the most interesting and exciting lives, don't have the inclination to post on social media. I had a wonderful holiday with about 12 friends in a massive villa last year but not once did it cross my mind that anyone would be interested in it.

I think it shows a high level of insecurity.
The person's whole sense of self-worth is tied up in how they look and they are obviously desperate for other people validate how they look, in the form of 'likes'.

It's similar to giving yourself a compliment. Wrong on so many levels.

Obviously the odd one, now and again is alright.

It's shitbook isn't it so not worth the power of brain cells to ponder. I actually took a selfie for the first time ever for an online mate to celebrate the update of a game we play together wearing a gaming t.shirt of the game.After I had sent it I showed a real life mate because she disapproves of me gaming so it was to tease her with my being juvenile in her eyes. According to her I look totally up for it and flirty oops.

I'm very aware of the whole looks, photos, how people feel as I was a model when young. I was probably one of the least vain models ever as my Mother forced me to do it at 17, bloody stupid woman. I did earn decent money though not crazy amounts of money but it was a lot at such a young age. I then crushed her dreams by becoming an academic librarian.

Facebook is a pretty narcissistic tool anyway and the people who post on it are generally quite preoccupied by what people think of them. Hence the projection of perfection.

Selfies are just a natural extension of that.

It all makes me cringe to be honest. The whole 'beautiful inside and out' button clenching bollocks!

I don't get why you'd post umpteen. All anyone ever thinks when someone does this is 'what a twat', never 'Oooh look at those cheekbones.' Surely everyone knows how insecure it makes you look, so why do it?

I agree. They may very well play the game and 'like' away and post things such as

'looking great' or 'beautiful' etc, but privately they're thinking what a vain twat.

I fucking hate people that do this. And worse the ones that title each selfie with shit like "car selfie" or whatever bullshit they are doing or where they are . My friend who is 45 is worse for it, there are loads of new ones daily and tbh she looks rough in most of them it is actually pretty cringe.

they are dicks (unless they are 16) and need unfollowing

as they do it for one reasons only

"Looking good hun"
"Hey, gorgeous!"
"Ah you have not changed a bit!!"
yada yada

if everyone posted
"You need Botox, foundation and good nights sleep you minger" would they? would they?

fucking narcissists

I'm now laughing to myself at how I crushed my ridiculous Mothers dreams. She was a professional dancer and model before she had children and took vanity to levels that not many could even dream of meeting. I was a tree climbing, bike crashing, video gaming nightmare in her eyes. I did really well at school and it meant nothing to her. Sorry to hijack but that was cathartic times a million.

I take selfies of myself as I have really low self esteem...when I see myself in photos it helps me to realise I am not that bad really.. sad but true. It's boosts my self esteem a little and god knows I need that ... some days I really do think I'm not good enough... for my kids or my DP. I probably post one on FB every 3 weeks or so... yes I do like the 'likes' but also I am currently losing weight and it kind of helps me to keep on track if that makes sense as it boosts me to carry on.

It's very rare I get a photo of myself that looks half decent so when I do then damn right I post it!

Probably only once a month or so though.

Surely it's better (and healthier) to seek praise for what you've done and 'achieved' rather than how you look?

I take selfies of myself as I have really low self esteem

may I very gently suggest that if you have low self esteem - avoid selfies! Its like white cider, don't do it!!!!

I had the same FB profile pic for about five years but got a new phone this week and decided to take a new selfie and make it my profile pic. Forgot that FB puts it on your feed / timeline thingy so was mortified when I got Likes for my new profile pic.

(Is there a way of updating your profile pic without It coming up in your timeline???)

I had the same FB profile pic for about five years but got a new phone this week and decided to take a new selfie and make it my profile pic. Forgot that FB puts it on your feed / timeline thingy so was mortified when I got Likes for my new profile pic.

(Is there a way of updating your profile pic without It coming up in your timeline???)

that said, if some (rarely) tags me when I look OK, I will graciously allow it to stay

and once (shame) I posted a pic of me and my kids as I looked hot

so yeah, people in glass houses

As an example, if somebody were to post about their job, or something they'd passed or something they've done for charity etc and they received hundreds or 'likes' and 'that's great babe, well done' 'you're amazing',
then that would be understandable.

But to receive (and want) praise for something simple like putting on mascara and a bit of eyeliner and lippy?
It's shallow beyond belief.

The most prolific selfie taker on my fb thread is a man in his late 20's. He does it I think because he is incredibly insecure.He was also larger once and now isn't so it helps boost his confidence I think. Generally he is a wonderful person. Mind you he's stopped taking so many when I'm around because I tend to roll my eyes when he starts taking them.

The odd selfie is nice. Serial selfie takers ( who post them online) should have their phones surgically removed.

Yeah, bloody vain insecure women, thinking they look nice, and wanting to share that. Arseholes. Or taking silly face or make up free selfies and showing women as something other than fuckholes. What bastards.

GinAndSonic
why have you tutned this into a gender issue?

so if you think selfie takers are a bit twatty, you are a woman hater?

I call bullshit

I know someone who'll post a very posy, filtered to fuck selfie, then caption it 'Does my nose look really wide and flat?' or 'Longest legs ever :(', or 'Look SO minging today'. It's just so grasping and embarrassing, and to be perfectly honest I actually prefer people who post selfies because they know they look nice or whatever. It's the desperate fishing for compliments using really mawkish self deprecation that I find annoying.

The occasional selfie is nice to see. People who flood their pages with hundreds of selfies make me cringe. I actually feel mortified for them. It's part of the reason I haven't been on Facebook for the year.

But I took myself off Facebook as I'm aware they can post what they like and I'm not the Facebook prefect.

Gin and sonic

You ruined a valid point (that is is mainly women) by adding all that other bollocks.

And what is it with that silly duck pout thing - JUST STOP IT NOW

Someone i worked with used to do the whole selfie thing, with her tongue sticking out, i could almost see what her diet was.

I stopped following her, life is good.