To wonder if people who always upload selfies are vain or insecure?

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I have a few people on my Facebook who upload selfies of themselves every single day, now these women aren't teenagers in fact one of them is almost 30 so I can't help but wonder to always be uploading selfies are they just vein or really insecure & seek out people's likes & approval? 🤔 Either way it's like a get a bloody hobby 😆

I take loads of selfies & stuck them on FB - I'm in my 40's
I love the comments I get so I'm probably really needy deep down.

I find it strange, but then I take a god awful photo. I don't think I am that bad in real life, but just always look awful in photos.
If I looked great, maybe I would take more. It's certainly nice getting comments saying how fab you look; especially when you get old and normally people only talk about your kids!

I find it strange, but then I take a god awful photo. I don't think I am that bad in real life, but just always look awful in photos.
If I looked great, maybe I would take more. It's certainly nice getting comments saying how fab you look; especially when you get old and normally people only talk about your kids!

I have a few selfies I've posted over the years.

I hate having my photo taken, I hate it with a passion. I hate looking at myself half of the time.

If I am feeling confident enough to take a selfie and I like the photo I will share it on FB. It's that unusual for me to take a photo of myself in the first place, let alone one I like enough not to instantly delete that it feels almost like a small achievement for me I posted one on MN not long ago on a 'guess my age 'thread and I was quite proud that I did that.

I have a fb friend who is beautiful, she posts selfies daily and they all look pretty much the same, the same mirror and the same pose daily. She gets tons of replies every day and I guess it makes her feel good.

My two teen sons post loads of selfies, complete with frown and special effects which are meant to make them look all cool and sexy. It just makes me laugh because they get so excited over how many likes they have. I think they do it because it's the 'in' thing to do and there is nothing deeper to it.

I think it's really nasty to put another woman down for liking the way she looks in a photo enough to post it online. I take selfies, not to invite comments, just because I like to own the way I look at that moment.

I find it so strange that there is such a distinction between posting a photo of oneself that someone else snapped (fine) or a selfie (vain and/or insecure). Why can't we build each other up instead of tearing each other down? So YABU OP

I pose in selfies. I had shit self esteem and looked awful in my twenties. Now I think I look ok. I usually pose selfies pulling silly faces at reference to a situation, or in one of my hobbies. DP and I do silly ones sometimes too. I post maybe one a week? More if there's an event etc. (No one to take decent photos)

Selfies are funny though, another guest at a wedding posted one the other day, I hadn't seen her for a while, saw her a couple of hours later and she looked so different. Selfies are definitely edited or selected carefully!

I know one person who posts loads with a stupid duck face. And she's not a teen. Sad thing is she'd probably look happier and prettier with a smile. The duck face is bloody awful. But she also does it in photos with her kids.

But then again I'm a fussy bugger and also hate the v sign, sticking out tongue, rock on signs in selfies!!

I have a few friends that do it and even have cover photos of their face close up. Also send them by inbox. Awaiting a you look stunning response. They tend to be selfish types in general.

Other than teens the worst offenders seem to be the MLM (eg. Forever Living) "business owners".

jeez, how many gurning selfies (complete with # overload) can one early 40s mum post to illustrate their "aspirational" lifestyle

(and we all know it's all complete bollocks)

Ready player, that's it exactly. What people are really objecting to (when objecting to selfies) is women being in control of their own image. And deciding for themselves when that image is worthy of being seen.

Me to DD (29) "How come you always look so good in selfies?"
DD to Me (48) "Mum, that's because millennials know how to take them"

I ignore selfies and on Twitter, I have unfollowed people for posting them. One woman posted about 50 of herself, one after the other. She clearly thinks she looks wonderful. I could tell her, she's nowt special.

How would you feel if you didn't get any comments Surferjet?

I was thinking about this today. I'm not sure if it's always a vanity thing. But I do think it's weird when people do it all the time- it's quite egotistical to think that other people need or want to see a full frame of your own face. In posting it, they are seeking/expecting validation in the form of likes or comments too. Not even 10 years ago, people would have balked at the idea that selfies would be so mainstream. I blame the kardashians.

bibbitybobbityyhat - I'd feel really disappointed tbh. But it wouldn't ruin my life or anything.

I don't post many selfies, maybe one a month, but I know I look really good in them ( I wouldn't post them otherwise ) & I always get about 20 comments saying how lovely I look. It cheers me up. If people ignored me I'd probably stop.

I very rarely post pictures of myself on Facebook but I do post ALOT of pictures of EVERYTHING else! 😂

I used to when I was a lot younger, maybe about once a week. I don't do it anymore. I was a little bit vain and a little bit insecure. Quite a lot of people would like my photos and I'd feel a bit better about myself. It's hardly the crime of the century, it harms nobody. Now I look older and uglier I would look a bit ridiculous in selfies so I don't do it. The problem is now I'm in none of my photos so it's like I don't exist - a bit like real life.

Never understood the need for selfies. I've never taken one myself. I was in a class last year with 17-20yr olds and it was all they did all day with the ridiculous trout pout/duck face thing. Some absolutely stunning young women pulling ridiculous faces. Now if it helps their self esteem them I see no problem but the incessant photographing leaves me uncomfortable after I gained a nasty stalker online and my face wasn't even visible!

it's quite egotistical to think that other people need or want to see a full frame of your own face.

In a nutshell.

It shows that your whole life is tied up in your looks.
It's sad.

And as a previous poster said,

Naturally beautiful people rarely post selfies.
They don't need tons of reassurance.

Confidence starts from within, not from without in the form of 'likes'.

'Your looks' is just one way of understanding it. Another is to say that your face is key to your identity. Photos are a form of creative self expression.

That feels like more of a millennial take on it for one thing.

I miss seeing lovely smiley faces in pictures, where people actually look like they are enjoying whatever they are doing.
The ultimate was an acquaintance on facebook who posted her 'holiday pics'.

"Here's us at the temple" cue duck face pout of her and him, couldn't see the temple.
"Here's us at the beach" duck face pouting couple.
" lovely restaurant we found , food was gorgeous" duck face pouting couple.
You get the picture, every single photo was just a duck face pout. absolutely none whatsoever of the actual sights, unless you count the chimney of a historic building exiting from the top of his head.

If I was young and gorgeous I'd be doing a few myself :)

Another vote for vain and insecure. And I'd add to that self-obsessed and narcissistic.

I'm quite attractive, never post selfies.