to think that this is not right

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I was in my local supermarket today and encountered a woman who was dressed in pj's and a dirty old dressing gown, this was at 2pm by the way. Am I being unreasonable to think that this is not right?
It's not the first time I have seen this, sometimes it's those god awful onesies! It seems to be quite a common occurrence at our local morrisons. Now I'm no snob but what the hell is wrong with these women, how can they think that wearing your nightclothes in the afternoon and doing a full shop is acceptable. There is a lady who lives on my road and no matter what the time of day she wears a dirty old dressingown, even to collect her children from school. I don't understand people that don't take pride in their appearance, if I dressed like that my children would be mortified. Surely I'm not alone in thinking this??

I'm not sure that you are really the type of person we welcome here on mumsnet Tallulahoola

Have any of you judgers ever asked these lower-than-lows why they do it? Or is just assuming they're lazy, dirty, disrespectful, lousy parents enough?
I can't be the only person who doesn't see/grasp what others are wearing. If I see someone I glance to see if I know them and if I don't I've already moved on

Have any of you judgers ever asked these lower-than-lows why they do it? Or is just assuming they're lazy, dirty, disrespectful, lousy parents enough?
I can't be the only person who doesn't see/grasp what others are wearing. If I see someone I glance to see if I know them and if I don't I've already moved on

My town doesn't have a Morrison's don't know why

YANBU and I'm glad you're not getting major backlash for this. It drives me mad - not on an appearance front but on a hygienic one. I really have no intention of being near anyone in their grotty bed clothes when I'm showered and dressed. It's disgusting.

""It's snobby to use your "standards" to look down on people who are just getting on with their lives in the way they want to.""

Where does the dropping of standards end, though.

My posts have nothing to do with house prices, I'm on a HA housing estate that has to often have a temporary Police Station at the end of the road and half hourly Matrix patrols.

It's probably one of the safest areas to live, at times.

The youths break windows/egg houses/kick mirrors odd cars, when they're bored.

I grew up where I live now, it's always been disadvantaged, but nothing like it's been allowed to drop to. It started with letting the schools go to pot (figuratively and literately) and the rise from Anti Social/slightly criminal behaviour, to drugs/guns/scrambler bikes and addiction/lack of ambition in any sense, being part of life.

The same happened to Norris Green (which is just up the road), the houses are three bed parlour houses with gardens for less than £450 a month, but you wouldn't want one, if your bringing children up.

It's seen as though no-one who would live in these areas, deserve or should expect any better, always only said by those that don't have to live in these areas.

All that caused by pyjamas? Wowsers.

To the PP who said 'men don't get this shit' .. I don't know if it's just me, but I haven't ever seen a man out in his bed wear (apart from hospital situation ).

Basic hygiene to not go outside the house in the clothes you've slept in.. would you send your children out to the park in the clothes they've slept in?

You don't need money to have standards. It's not snobby to bemoan a lack of standards because standards have little to do with how much money you have. Remember the old pictures of the matriarchs in front of their terraced houses scrubbing the step? Not much money there, but plenty of standards.

If I see someone in pjs then yes, I think "lazy" because it's lazy not to get dressed in the morning. I might also think "dirty" if they haven't showered or brushed their hair because it is dirty not to shower etc.

It's hardly a snobby mental leap, merely a factual observation.

To be honest I also do think anyone who is routinely going about their day in the nightwear they have slept in probably is overwhelmed or has mental health issues.

. it certainly doesnt indicate that they are un living a dynamic, fulfilling life at that moment.

I just don't see why anyone is arsed if a random stranger is lazy or dirty. Who caaaaaares?! Let them get on with it.

It's chavy, horrible, slobby and lacking in self-respect.

Up to them though, if they're happy presenting that image.

Badlad. Exactly that.

How dirty do people actually get while they're asleep? Maybe I'm unusual, but I'm pretty sure I get more sweaty in eight hours at work than in eight hours lying down and not moving around much.

I also wouldn't want to assume that just because someone is dressed they must have showered and put on clean clothes. Some people shower before bed instead of in the morning. Some people shower every second day. Some people wear clothes (especially jeans) a couple of days in a row. So I can't really see the connection between being dressed and hygiene.

I've never worn pyjamas outdoors, and I wouldn't feel comfortable doing so, but I don't think it's because of standards or self respect. It's probably just habit.

And even if people are dressed they could have slept in their clothes all night for all you know.

www.bitterwallet.com/news/tesco-allow-customers-to-wear-pjs-but-only-if-youre-famous-25088

It's not about getting dirty one night. It's about imagining slovenly lazy how clean is your house types crawling out of their sweaty dirty pit and tumbling out the door to do the school run or buy fags. Do you seriously think someone who wears their nightclothes out has normal standards in the rest of their life?

And I strongly suspect a lot of people on this thread saying the same have come from poor backgrounds but have been brought up with standards which helped them improve and get out of the trap of being poor. My gran came from a poor family but had high standards and expectations and it's what gets your children out. Easy to be contrary if you've always been lower middle class and just think of the poor as one homogeneous mass.

No idea why a journalist would be walking around in PJs but they'd be lazy with no standards too.

I mean working from hone and not bothering to get dressed as a result

Haven't read all this thread but if people want to be super comfy when out and about why not buy some relaxed sports clothes, or lounge wear. It doesn't have to be formal but PJ'S and dressing gown is just embarrassing. Poor kids.

"Be mighty, be flighty, come and melt the buttons on my flameproof nightie"...