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to think that this is not right

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Idliketoteachtheworldtosing1 · 03/06/2016 01:49

I was in my local supermarket today and encountered a woman who was dressed in pj's and a dirty old dressing gown, this was at 2pm by the way. Am I being unreasonable to think that this is not right?
It's not the first time I have seen this, sometimes it's those god awful onesies! It seems to be quite a common occurrence at our local morrisons. Now I'm no snob but what the hell is wrong with these women, how can they think that wearing your nightclothes in the afternoon and doing a full shop is acceptable. There is a lady who lives on my road and no matter what the time of day she wears a dirty old dressingown, even to collect her children from school. I don't understand people that don't take pride in their appearance, if I dressed like that my children would be mortified. Surely I'm not alone in thinking this??

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MrsJayy · 03/06/2016 13:08

But they are in their house im at the low end of the social scale im the sterotype but i manage to get dressed to go outside so dont bang on about social scale twaddle if women want to pad about in slippers and pjs fine whatever but dont think its because its you are thinking outside the box or being non comformist they are just outside in their PJs and look ridiculous

AlbertHerbertHawkins · 03/06/2016 13:10

Huh?

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Birdsgottafly · 03/06/2016 13:34

I don't think that Jjou is a horrible person, she is simply stating facts about the people that she lives amongst.

There's a percentage of people where I live, who have no standards, because of them my area is constantly full of rubbish/fly tipping and dog dirt.

There's a mix of people who wear PJs, though, I'm in Liverpool.

It's gone out of fashion to buy daytime PJs and have a full face of make up, so the people are still going out in PJs are those that, quite frankly, have given up, which is sad in its self.

They live (benefit) payday to payday, ticking weed Inbetween and eating out the chippy for the first couple of days. Other than that, they stock up at Farmfoods and wherever has the cheapest ale.

When I was a CP SW, I worked in the next borough, otherwise I would have been knocking on my neighbours doors, quite literally.

Ironically, it's taken an influx of immigrants and Refuggees, to raise the standards, in my area.

I'm chronically ill and on days that I can go out, it gives me an enormous sense of achievement, that I've kept up a level of grooming.

Getting dressed, before leaving the house, should be amongst your daily goals.

Being from Liverpool, I excuse the Teens, who previously bought specific (mostly Primark) PJs for daytime.

Birdsgottafly · 03/06/2016 13:43

I do get what you mean Hesterson, but life in my area (region?) can be a bit soul destroying.

It's great once you've walked for about ten minutes, it gets cleaner.

I just wonder at the reasoning behind making it even shitter than it is, by how some of the people decide to live/are.

I wish the wearing of silly hats, or something would be adopted, rather than the 'controversial' anti social behaviour that's decided on.

I didn't mind the wearing of curlers and PJs, with the new spray tans, at least there was a sense of enjoying life.

IrisPrima · 03/06/2016 13:43

It's basically about having incredibly low standards and living in a community where that is normal. It's about not having a job or anything to be smart and make an effort for. If you spend long enough sat about all day in your pjs watching the box, and all your mates do it too, I suppose it's a short step to the corner shop or school drop off.

Frankly if I was out and about in my pjs my neighbour's would call MH services, and rightly so.

sianihedgehog · 03/06/2016 13:46

Do you really have so little in your life to worry about?

IrisPrima · 03/06/2016 13:55

Sian are you only able to worry about one thing at a time?

nanetterose · 03/06/2016 13:56

If you don't do it, you don't do it. Simple as that.
Why does anyone care what other people do?
I can only imagine that noticing it/caring must mean you have all the shit in your life nicely sorted.
We are all human. Some might have more money, some better educated. It means nothing to me. I really don't think it matters at all - especially when we all know what those at the 'top' get away with!

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IrisPrima · 03/06/2016 14:02

I don't think it's snobby to have standards.

ilovesooty · 03/06/2016 14:05

I'm not so sure it's even underlying.

AlbertHerbertHawkins · 03/06/2016 14:05

If only we lived in a warmer climate this could all be done away with with the simple expedient of dispensing with clothes altogether. It would be a real social leveller 😊

SissySpacekAteMyHamster · 03/06/2016 14:06

Not so bothered about pjs as such as quite often they could be any old jersey type pants and t-shirt tops but to wear a dressing gown makes it too obvious your in nightwear.

Don't understand it myself. If I couldn't for any reason get out of my pjs, I'd at least put a cardi over or a coat not my bloody dressing gown.

AlbertHerbertHawkins · 03/06/2016 14:06

But then we'd probably be judging each other by topiary and tats

Beepbopboop · 03/06/2016 14:07

I live a 10 second walk away from some shops. Sometimes I go over there with my hair scraped up, no makeup, just black leggings and a coat. Is that acceptable?

AlbertHerbertHawkins · 03/06/2016 14:08

Might have a detrimental effect on houseprices beep!

PortiaCastis · 03/06/2016 14:09

Im not dressed yet

SissySpacekAteMyHamster · 03/06/2016 14:13

You're !!!!

KittySnow86 · 03/06/2016 14:15

I'm all for being comfortable and definitely for not judging others but, as someone who has to spend a lot of time in comfy clothes and loves nothing more than being able to put my pjs on, I'm surprised more people don't have what I refer to has 'day pyjamas' - that is stylish joggers/bottoms and comfy but nice jumpers and tees to be able to run about the day in.

PreciousVagine · 03/06/2016 14:17

It's snobby to use your "standards" to look down on people who are just getting on with their lives in the way they want to.

Tallulahoola · 03/06/2016 14:18

I know it's not a fashion parade but surely it is just a normal thing to have a shower and get ready for the day.

I would never go out in my pyjamas and dressing gown but I have to admit I never have a shower before doing the nursery drop-off. Blush I'm on maternity leave with a baby who is awake half the night, so in the mornings I'm knackered. I use the time to get DD3 washed and dressed and breakfasted, then sling on some clothes (sometimes from the day before but not filthy) and take her to nursery. I come back, feed the baby and then have a shower and make myself presentable. Is that bad? Just easier that way than trying to have a shower while looking after two children at once.

maskapony · 03/06/2016 14:20

I think yabu for judging her so harshly but you are entitled to your own opinion.

maskapony · 03/06/2016 14:21

I think yabu but you are entitled to your own opinion.

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