to think that this is not right

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I was in my local supermarket today and encountered a woman who was dressed in pj's and a dirty old dressing gown, this was at 2pm by the way. Am I being unreasonable to think that this is not right?
It's not the first time I have seen this, sometimes it's those god awful onesies! It seems to be quite a common occurrence at our local morrisons. Now I'm no snob but what the hell is wrong with these women, how can they think that wearing your nightclothes in the afternoon and doing a full shop is acceptable. There is a lady who lives on my road and no matter what the time of day she wears a dirty old dressingown, even to collect her children from school. I don't understand people that don't take pride in their appearance, if I dressed like that my children would be mortified. Surely I'm not alone in thinking this??

PJ's is one thing (seems to be common with teenagers here - 16/17yo?) But filthy dressing gowns is just vile.

Fwiw I use tracksuit bottoms as lounge wear / pj's in the winter and only once have I gone out in them we'd run out of milk so I went to shop across the road. About a 90 second return journey

YANBU however I've been mumsnet long enough (not that long really) to know there will be a slew of posters accusing you of being judgemental and that these women may be in chronic pain or incredibly depressed and that we should be cheering them on for managing to get out of the house. I live in a fairly deprived area, lots of women (oddly enough I don't see men doing the pj thing) walk around in their pj's and dressing gowns. Its interesting how those who live in better off areas suffering from chronic pain and depression invariably manage to get dressed. Personally, from my own observations in my ivory tower, I think a lot of it is sheer laziness!

I live in quite a rough area and the primary school is at the end of my street (not the school my daughter goes to, thank god, but that's a whole other story) and about half the parents I pass in the mornings are the same.

I just mostly feel embarrassed for their kids to be honest.

Yes, of course you know that sure isn't following any guidance on how to dress when out of doors. Bit perhaps rather than consider whether it is right or wrong behaviour (to what end, will you serve her a fine? ) lend her a moment of your compassion. Everyone is making their way here as best they can.

Yanbu. Ive only seen someone once dressed in a dressing gown and nothing else apart from a walking frame. It was raining and she was elderly. Made me very concerned to the point i saw a policeman across the road around the corner and went out to him and expressed my concerns. He thanked me said she was a vuluable adult who he would now take back home. From how he spoke he knew her and he certainly headed the way she was. Cant image anyone normally going out in pjs.

how can they think that wearing your nightclothes in the afternoon and doing a full shop is acceptable.

So I could wear nightclothes if I was just buying, say, milk or gin? What about if I restricted myself to the 10 items or less/fewer checkout?

Yanbu it drives me crackers only seen it once in the supermarket woman was heavily pregnant might have been in labour and waddiling about in pj bottoms and a hoody, but everybody else put some bloody outside clothes on there is a bunch of young women near me who wander in and out all day with onsies or pjs on

Yanbu some people are just slobs, and it's how they live so no wonder she can think nothing of going out like that.

Exactly. It's just like that school in Darlington where the Head had to write to parents asking them not to pitch up to Assembly or teacher meetings in their pyjamas. Cannot believe adults have to be told that's not appropriate! It's BASIC standards. I work from home too and always manage to get myself showered and dressed in the mornings.

Seems to be more of a "thing" in the less affluent areas of cities, I have seen it in Liverpool too in the Anfield area as we drive through, and in many parts of Glasgow.We have an assembly at school in our naice part of Glasgow later though and I can guarantee everyone will be properly clad.

If I saw someone in pyjamas around here in the daytime I would assume that they were in the midst of a crisis - either physical or mental - because it's something you just don't see.

yanbu however I am guilty of having run to he coop late at night in my pjs to run and grab calpol for poorly DS.
Pjs, whilst lazy, can be acceptable but a dressing gown??

I will no doubt get jousted for this but I'll say it anyway. The Asda near me is local to a travelling community. The women are always in there wearing their pyjamas and dressing gowns. The best of it is they must've spent an age perfecting their make up. It's second nature to most now to see them like that but I still think GET DRESSED!!!!

Saw a made up girl yesterday in town face immaculate hair perfect pjs on is it a fashion statement or something i only knew they were pjs and not leggings/top was i bought Dd the same pair at christmas

I worked nights, last time round for 25 years, and I FELT GUILTY, if someone came to the door and caught me in my nightclothes. I agree its all about pride in yourself, as a person. Even in Hospital (where I actually worked these nights) you are encouraged to get washed, changed, dressed if possible, because of the effect it has on your well being. In your night clothes, you feel like a patient, you feel vulnerable, you feel dirty. Poorly bedridden folk, in a lot of pain have begged me to let them go to the bathroom, some in their 90s, so why would you want to go shopping in your presumably worn overnight, nightwear.

Im not dressed yet and i feel lazy i couldnt wear pyjamas all day i would get nothing done

It's obviously not about disability, physical or mental, as others have said its concentrated on certain areas, usually deprived ones.

It's also not about the 1 time every posters ran to the shop next door to pick up emergency supplies in their PJs.

I'm in agreement that it's lazy and shows a lack of self worth. I think it's a shame that those women (and agree, sadly usually women- I assume though, that lazy men don't even bother to get up for the school run) don't have better role models.

I'd assume mental health issues/depression myself

I have a recurring dream where I turn up to places in my nightie thou...

It is lazy. It takes less than five minutes to pull on some jeans, leggings and top. Have seen parents at school do it and people going to supermarket in onesies.

I've never seen such a load of pearl clutching in my whole life.
Perhaps they are rejecting oppressive cultural norms which seek to enforce strict and rigid dress codes on women, perhaps they are exercising freedom of expression through the medium of dress, or perhaps they don't give a Shit what anyone thinks and are comfortable in what they are wearing. It's depressing being a woman sometimes, men don't get half of this Shit.

I think it's less about the style of clothing hester and more about the fact that the dirty garment you have just slept in is deemed suitable day attire. I don't think the ones I saw actually put on clean pajamas to take the kids to school...it's just grubby.

I associate it with worklessness and deprivation so I would never do it personally, although occasionally I wfh in my pj's and use my lunch hour to shower and dress.

"I wouldn't do it myself, but what does it really matter?"

This. It's not great, but in the scheme of things it doesn't matter. If OP is worried about her local area she should worry about littering and other real problems. You're life is actually pretty good if this is your problem.

Not unreasonable. Especially these days the athleisure trend is a thing - pair of spinning leggings, a sports bra and baggy top, with trainers. Arguably comfier than baggy PJs and is normal outwear.

Nightwear during the daytime looks so so scummy and slobby. If I'm in pjs til lunchtime on a slobby lazy weekend and they door goes, I'm mortified!

A pp said something about these people not having jobs. I think that sounds about right - it's a lazy state of mind and being. It's something I associate with people who are "on benefits" a la White Dee (I don't mean working tax credit/ child allowance or other 'normal' top up benefits before any flaming begins).

Perhaps they are rejecting oppressive cultural norms which seek to enforce strict and rigid dress codes on women, perhaps they are exercising freedom of expression through the medium of dress,

hahahahaha thanks for giving me such a good laugh on a Friday morning. I'm sure that's exactly what those barely literatre, inarticulate women who were interviewed at the Darlington school were thinking. "Oh no, I'm not a slob who can't be arsed to get out of my pyjamas to attend school assemblies, I'm making a statement about the strict dress codes imposed on women".

They can be as non conformist as they like but untill they stop and put bloody clothes on my pearls will be clutched 😊