to think that this is not right

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I was in my local supermarket today and encountered a woman who was dressed in pj's and a dirty old dressing gown, this was at 2pm by the way. Am I being unreasonable to think that this is not right?
It's not the first time I have seen this, sometimes it's those god awful onesies! It seems to be quite a common occurrence at our local morrisons. Now I'm no snob but what the hell is wrong with these women, how can they think that wearing your nightclothes in the afternoon and doing a full shop is acceptable. There is a lady who lives on my road and no matter what the time of day she wears a dirty old dressingown, even to collect her children from school. I don't understand people that don't take pride in their appearance, if I dressed like that my children would be mortified. Surely I'm not alone in thinking this??

It's the height of laziness. If she's able to walk around doing her shopping then she is able to get dressed before leaving the house. There are so many people doing it these days that it seems to have become somehow acceptable to others!

Driving past DS2's school at 3pm last week and one of the Mums was walking with her kids towards the small shopping centre beside the school in full on pjs, housecoat and house boots. That is just vile.

If I lived next to or just a few houses away from a corner shops then yes, I would scoot down to grab milk or something needed for breakfast in my pjs up until mid morning. If I was going anywhere further than a few doors away or where there were a lot of people then no way would it be acceptable to wear them.

I can kind of understand the ones who drive the kids to school in their PJs if they aren't getting out of the car because who is really going to notice but the ones walking around in full view of everyone seem to have no shame and look like utter chavs.

And yes, this is one situation where it's fine to judge. If you want to wear your nightwear in public then you should expect people to judge you. You look lazy and unless you physically can't dress yourself then there is no excuse for it.

Clothes are clothes, even if they're pyjamas. As long as it's within public decency laws, wear whatever you want outside. There's enough pressure on women as it is to be x, y, and z. Judging them for whatever pieces of material they cover their body with is ridiculous.

Is it just a Mumsnet 'thing' that posters can be judged negatively for not having good enough standards half the time, and then judged negatively for HAVING normal standards the rest of the time? I see this a lot.
Personally, I don't give a fuck what women in India we are not living in India. and I don't believe anyone who says they 'never' judge what other people wear. Yeah, right. You've never looked at someone and an involuntary judgey thought has popped into your head saying 'Jeez, those leggings look awful on that woman ' or 'my God, what was he thinking with that shirt'?? Never?? Seriously??
Nobody's getting in a froth about it, but not even bothering to put a pair of jeans and a t shirt on to leave the house is just weird in our western society. It is what it is so what's wrong in expecting other people in our society to have some basic standards?

We live in a deprived area, and the kids go to school in an even more deprived area, and you see it all the time in the shops and at school drop-off and pick up. All it means is they haven't had a reason to get dressed. It's slovenly and gross. And they don't all have MH issues or chronic pain, they've just never worked a day in their lives. Sometimes the unpalatable truth is still the truth, and all the handwringing about being 'judgmental' and 'different standards' is by-the-by. Come and walk down here and then tell me that everyone deserves the benefit of the doubt. Some people have no standards, and all-day PJs are a symptom of that. Head 5 minutes up the road to the nicer part of town and everyone's fully dressed and looks like they've done something with their day.

Surely it takes as long to pull on a pair of leggings as it does to pull on a pair of pj bottoms? Ditto a coat instead of a dressing gown?

I wouldn't do it myself, and while in theory I don't care what anyone chooses to wear I do get an involuntary judgey reaction when I see someone out in nightwear. However, I don't understand Osiris comment I just imagine that having slept in them all night that they smell . Really? Smelly pjs after one wear?

YANBU. If you wheeled your aged mother around the town in her nightclothes people would think you were denying her basic human dignity. Getting dressed to go outdoors is the most basic of standards.

If it's acceptable to go to the supermarket, school assembly or headteacher meeting in our nightwear what should we get dressed for?

I've seen a bunch of teen girls in the supermarket wearing onesies, they looked like they were shopping for a sleepover, but never adults in obvious nightwear. Never seen it on the school run either. Although one woman did turn up wearing just flip flops and a towel one summer.

As long as they're not showing their bits I couldn't give a shit to be honest. What they wear is their business not mine.

If people took their kids out every single day in pjs can imagine the froth aibu to take my kid to playgroup/nursery/school in a onsie

YANBU. Most of the local shops have banned people from doing this. Jogging bottoms and a tee shirt are just as easy to put on.

It may not impinge on our individual lives but I think it may impinge on society as a whole. It does point to a lowering of standards, of personal care, I can't be bothered attitude.

We're not wearing crinoline hoops or huge neck ruffs, two piece costumes or corsets: it is probably easier to get dressed today than at any point in women's history.

Personally, I think it is a pointer of deep unhappiness, dis-satisfaction and hopelessness and they are more to be pitied than laughed at.

I have once left the house in pjs. I was pregnant and had gone to bed, the teenager was supposedly staying out at a friends. I get a call at 11.30 from the teen saying they can't stay at friends and can I pick him up from the train station at midnight. I chucked a hoody over my pjs and spent the whole journey there and back praying the car didn't break down.

God Jjou you are just a horrible, horrible person.

As are many people on this thread, why do people have to live up to YOUR standards, I hope people like you never approve of me, and I hope if you see me on the street you think I've never worked a day in my life, and have done nothing with my day, and have no reason to get dressed, none of which is true btw, but I'd rather be like the people you're shitting on that mixed up with people like you and your nasty, narrow, smug view of who should and shouldn't be allowed to take up space.

Jjou is not a horrible person but is simply telling it how it is. It's not about living up to standards, it's about having standards in the first place.
Like I said if they have no respect for themselves, not to even get dressed, why would anyone else respect them.

Tbh I am more judges when I see smartly dressed parents with children who look like one Oliver

With primark and such no excuse

Rather parents dressed in pjs than children lots of judgy mums at the school gates looking a million dollars and there kids could do with a new wardrobe from m&s tbh

EttaJ she isn't telling it how it is just how she sees it, and she's wrong. Just wrong. And so are you, to say it's about "having standards in the first place." By which you actually mean "having the same standards as me." Because it makes you uncomfortable that they don't. Then you start getting ugly like snobs everywhere. Why would you assume not getting dressed means they have no respect for themselves, just because that's what it would mean for you? Because you can't see past the end of your own nose.

I do sometimes nip to the corner shop on my street in pyjamas with ugly tracksuit bottoms over the top and no bra but I'd definitely never dare venture further than that!

Why do they wear PJs then what is the reason for not getting changed before they go outside ?

She might be depressed

If it wasn't for my family shopping for me, at the peak of my depression this would have been me.

But they're not all depressed ffs! And it's not about being a horrible person: If you drop your kids off in your pjs and you pick them up in the same pjs you haven't got dressed all day. Why not? Nobody can go to work in their pjs; of course there are standards. So outrage is basically 'I do this and I feel you're judging me so I'll sound off about it'. Everyone has nipped to the local shops in a pair of tracky bottoms for a pint of milk, but that's different than wandering around all day in your nightwear.

What does it say to your kids that you couldn't bothered sticking a pair of jeans and a t-shirt on to take them to school? The parents with mobility problems, the parents working night-shifts, they're all dressed. But lets not pretend that everyone in the area I live is a misunderstood saint, some of them are just aren't. Some people have never worked, some people can't be arsed getting dressed all day every day. It's not a crime to point this out.

Ok kitsa, you keep telling yourself that but it doesn't make it true 😂

I'd say at the other end of the social scale there's a whole load of journalists and similar working from home in their pj's but somehow I reckon that's judged differently.