to think that this is not right

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I was in my local supermarket today and encountered a woman who was dressed in pj's and a dirty old dressing gown, this was at 2pm by the way. Am I being unreasonable to think that this is not right?
It's not the first time I have seen this, sometimes it's those god awful onesies! It seems to be quite a common occurrence at our local morrisons. Now I'm no snob but what the hell is wrong with these women, how can they think that wearing your nightclothes in the afternoon and doing a full shop is acceptable. There is a lady who lives on my road and no matter what the time of day she wears a dirty old dressingown, even to collect her children from school. I don't understand people that don't take pride in their appearance, if I dressed like that my children would be mortified. Surely I'm not alone in thinking this??

Tbf im not frothing it just bugs me

Perhaps Albert they are lazy and unmotivated under achievers who haven't been taught discipline? They are deprived in more than just money.

And I've never understood this idea that it makes sense to drop your own cultural norms to follow the cultural norms of south India etc. thats confused and just sounds like blah blah blah excuse

I think it's just laziness. Honestly, how long does it take to put on a pair of jeans and a tshirt?

the poor, eh? when will they learn.

If only I was creative I could make a fortune designing nightwear that looked like a smart business suit.

Ive been piss poor and put a pair of trousers on

The "poor" don't do this. A small number of lazy people do (who are coincidentally poor for the above reason)

YANBU it takes no time to fling on a pair of jeans and a top.

I was only really joking but to make a point. When I finish nights I often get out of bed at 2pm, maybe 2.15pm to leave the house to pick kids up from school at 2.25. That gives me 3-4 hours sleep max after a 13hour night shift. That does not give me time to shower, blow dry hair, do makeup and carefully select a tasteful outfit. I have been out earning money to provide for my children without relying on benefits and am being a responsible parent picking them up in a timely fashion from school. Should I be worried about being judged about my appearance on the school run that I get up earlier to 'make an effort' and have 'pride in my appearance' or should I not care what others think and mind my own business and hope that others do likewise?

Perhaps my poor personal presentation on those days is excusable because I am nit the 'lazy poor'.....

Its not about tasteful outfits or blow drying hair pyjamas are bed clothes throwing a pair of jeans on takes 2 seconds why wander about in pjs all day why cant folk get dressed i dont gettit

I don't understand how anyone can get so worked up about this, let alone how they can be "driven crackers". She wasn't indecent, how does it impinge in any way on someone else's life?

But who says jeans are OK and pj's aren't. It's just a fairly arbitrary cultural norm.

No I agree OP. If someone were clearly just popping in for one or two items at a time of day where you might in your pyjamas (ie very early morning or at night) then whatever....but doing a full grocery shop in your pjs at 2pm is awful
I went into Tescos in a pair of pyjama bottoms and slippers once.....on the way home from the hospital after giving birth to my DD! (I had horrible nipple blisters from breastfeeding with a poor latch, so wanted some formula in the house just in case!....I didn't go and do a full grocery shop after just giving birth )

I live in a small town but it's not in the UK , no one would ever go out in their pj's. If someone went to the supermarket in their pj's though they'd have people turning up at their house to check everything was ok, clothes donated, offers to do their shopping and demands that they see a doctor. If it was found there was no physical or emotional reason to not get dressed they would be judged as an attention seeker.

exWifebeginsat40 - it has nothing to do with being poor and everything to do with being lazy and not caring if you stink.

I don't think I have ever really noticed, except once in the drs and then only because the woman in question had full make up on and it was odd to me because I would feel far more self consious wearing pajamas than going out without make up.

I can't bring myself to judge though, people are different and have diffrent priorities to me shrug

I'm pretty sure most people have done a quick corner shop dash in their tracky bottoms and no bra at some point in their life. But to pitch up on the school run in PJs every day is just really scummy and lazy.

Why is it always women as well? My DH does all the school runs and he always manages to get himself dressed.

If it was a man wandering round Sainsbury's in his PJs and dressing gown it'd be viewed as completely unacceptable.

It's not arbitrary at all - it's cleanliness (i.e. I have showered before leaving the house and not rocked up in whatever grubby garment I happened to fall asleep in). It also sets a proper example to children - who are expected to be up and dressed for school! - that grown ups have self respect and responsibilities in and out of the home. I cannot imagine going to the shop in pj's - it's like one of those dreams where you are naked or haven't studied for an exam!

I don't give a toss of people do the school run in loungewear as long as they look clean!

What about a labourer picking up from school straight from a building site all dirty. Is that OK?

I love the cultural norms comments as if they are being all out there and non conformist not that people are just lazy to get changed

So what if it's just laziness. I just don't get this at all.

"pair of spinning leggings, a sports bra and baggy top, with trainers. Arguably comfier than baggy PJs and is normal outwear..."

exackally

If getting dressed meant putting on formal (proper?) clothes, I'd see the point. But when people get "dressed" and they are still wearing leggings, a baggy top and trainers, why not just stick with the pyjamas?

Thats ok you dont have to get it I will just stay clutching my pearls and tutting at pj wearers