to go on this Hen night even though DH will get the Arse?

[Lertle]

One of my best friends is getting married in September and has invited me on her hen night at the end of August., it's a night out in Blackpool and we would be staying over the night in a hotel (we live about 100 miles away)

I just know DH will get the arse about it if I say I'm going, and if I don't go it will upset my friend

I don't know what to do for the best cos it's gonna piss someone off whatever i do so I can't win

I do actually want to go, I think it will be a laugh. and I hardly ever get to go out with 3 small dc

Why would he get the arse?
you want to go and there's no good reason why you shouldn't (stoppy DH isn't a good reason- that's his problem) so go

Why will he get the arse? Aren't you allowed to go out?

What reason will he get the hump? What are his objections?

Why would he have a problem with you going?

I vote go and let him get the arse.

Why would he get the arse?

Is it cost, trust issues from him or the fact he'll have to care for 3 small dc's?

Go.

What reason has he got to get the arse?
Are you doing that instead of having a family holiday?
Are you away every weekend due to a hobby?
Does this friend hate him and slag him off every second?

If he is going to get the arse then all the more reason to go.

Does he have weekends away with his mates when he wants them? If so he can arse off :)

Why would he be unhappy?

What is his problem with you spending the night in Blackpool ?

I hate the place personally, but wouldn't get the arse if my husband went there.

If he gets the arse every time you do something....that's your problem. That's needs sorting

I reckon this will be a unanimous yanbu.

Go and have fun.

YABVU to go to Blackpool

On a serious note, without any other information your post is worrying, OP. Can you tell us a little more?

No trust issues at all

He doesn't dislike my friend other than she is a bit of a flirt (which she is but she'd never actually do anything) she is younger than me too. I think he just doesn't like the idea of me being 100 miles away with a group of other women plus he has been on a stag do to black pool and says it's quite dodgy at night. Although I'm a 36 year old woman, I think i can handle myself and I never drink to excess anyway. My plan is to go back to he hotel once I've had enough anyway.

He is never that keen on me going out, although he would never stop me I just get a vibe he doesn't like it much

Yet he goes out most weekends as he is a session musician (it's a second job) so he has gigs. But his argument is that he gets paid for them which is a fair point

And we can afford it, and still will be having a family holiday etc. And if he is gigging my parents would have the kids. So money / child care not an issue

Sorry I realise my op was a bit vague

for goodness sake woman, GO!

If he wants to be a childish twat about it, that's his choice. Seriously don't give in to this childish nonsense. It's a control thing.

I used to get this, but to be fair he never went out so expected me to stay home as well. Wasn't happening.

If he got a strop on I just let him get on with it and told him he was being childish.

lifes too short my lovely

Good god just go. Did you mind when he went on a stag do?

I couldn't think of anything worse!

But

Why will he get the arse if you have a night out?

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Sod that he is not your jailor.

Go

Hmm. He's been on a stag to Blackpool, eh ? Methinks he might be projecting.

And if you get the "vibe" he is "doesn't like it much" then I call sexism, controlling tendencies and double standards.

Don't tell me....he "trusts you but doesn't trust other men not to hit on you". Classic.

He isn't keen on you going out?
Fuck that.
Go. Enjoy yourself. Give him the opportunity to get over himself.

Go to Blackpool. If your dh is arsey, find a new bloke while you're there.