If your toddlers screech and scream in public

[JackandDiane]

In a cafe say, Non tantrum. Just doing it. Tell them to shut up please. It's fucking annoying.

I am not talking about normal kids noise, ear peircing screaming and screeching. Yes my dd 9 has ASD and learning difficulties, when she was having a meltdown, or getting stressed hence making lots of noise, yes I would have to take her out.

Yeah. That'll work.

Tbf in a cafe/cinema/library/whatever if he gets too much I just leave.
I have been on a train for 4 hours with him screaming, laughing hysterically, hitting me, running up and down the aisles and when he's like that there's literally nothing I can do so in that situation i would happily hand him over and pick him up in the morning

He is severely sn so maybe I could get a giant label for him lol

i think if you saw a 9 year old visibly upset you would put 2 and 2 together

These were just two girls screaming at something outside. 'HERRO' then an ear bursting scream

i think when you move out of that age of tinies you realise that parents ARE immune to it to a degree and although kids have to eat and we should let them out of their cages every so often, parents need to know that not everyone wants screaming all over their lunch -

RTFT now. 5-9 year old girls? Not toddlers then. My 5yr old boy got told to stop fmucking about in the library earlier. Little shit. Not that I used that term out loud.

Just got reprimanded today by the Dr receptionist as ds 4 was winding dd up, and making her upset and screaming.

no - you read the thread. The nail place was a different event.
Not a cafe

oh i see you read it. Apologies

I really don't understand why you started this thread.

Kids and toddlers do tend to have tantrums or play up in public (mine never did, they've always been good as gold) but if they did I would avoid taking them out!

Yeah, I meant me not you, sorry. Also, when I said I read it, I meant I just scrolled quickly down for your posts as OP. I have no idea what anyone else said.

Hariasa that's what you'd do for a 15 - 20 month old?

Maybe my one's just not that bright, but I'm afraid my 18mo doesn't really do "discussions" yet never mind "reminders of expectations"

She can't reliably follow "do you want a BANANA or an APPLE for your snack" so abstract concepts such as "sitting nicely" are not really on the cards yet. What do you suggest I do to bridge the gap between her capacity to make a horrible noise and her capacity to understand that it's annoying / bad behaviour?

Mine behaved beautifully in the cafe earlier but by the time we hit the library they had exhausted all their reserves and turned feral. I wouldn't have gone except the books were overdue again and its raining.

Have you ever told a toddler to shut up before? You tell a toddler to shut up, they'll do it more.

I thought this was going to be asking for advice on what to do! Div. They are toddlers.

MrsK yes it does, but you have to mean it.

It's not really about what you say, but rather how. You also have to be consistent and follow through on consequences every single time.

Parent of a screechy, screamy 22 month old DD here.
Seriously those who say they don't tell them to shut up... ever... really .. you must wear ear plugs or be bloody deaf. I would not subject members of the public to my daughter doing that. She tries, I tell her not to and distract her. Give her a toy to play with engage with her.. anything to stop her doing it. its a game half the time so yes I tell her to SHUT UP Screeching. Children learn from an early age how to behave in public if parent teach them. Kid are bright and receptive.
I hate sitting in costa- listening to screaming toddlers with parents just ignoring them or going isn't that cute- speaking louder to their companions as they cant hear them when they are sat next to each other. Screechy scream toddlers - that's what the home garden or park is for.

Putting in the ear plugs and hard hat.

I fucking hate when my toddler screeches in public cos I know people like the op judge me as a shit parent

Luckily she's growing out of it now but she went through a right stage like they all do

And I've had 3 and ime there's absolutely fuck all you can say or do to shut them up, if mine even got wind I wanted to silence them they'd just do it more

I've never told my kids to shut up ever. I just don't use those words. It wasn't a literal post
But you can control toddlers. By taking them away from the thing they're screaming at. I dunno maybe 2-2,5 isn't a toddler.

And if mine were being that bad I'd have left. Totally embarrassed that I was spiking other people's day. And I did. Many many times.

I think some people have unreasonable expectations of the average toddler.

My 2yr old is currently going through a screeching phase. He thinks he's being really funny and entertaining and, as with most things, it will take time for him to learn that it's not OK to behave like this in public. Bitter experience has taught me telling him to be quiet is the worst thing to do. We do shortish visits to places, try to keep him busy and praise good behaviour. It will pass eventually.

Mine just screamed in general though i think they just enjoy it. I honestly wish it was that simple that they were screaming "at" something that could be removed from the situation

I also think say removing them from a cafe / shop if they're doing it isn't necessarily the best plan of action as it just teaches them that horrible noises get results

But Trimp you'd go to him and maybe bring him to the table or distract him right? That's what I mean.

Exactly trinpy the more you shhh them or whatever the more they delight in doing it . And they definitely pick up on stress

Oh god parenting is fucking hard sometimes isn't it