Cheeky fecker!

[PaulAnkaTheDog]

DS is at a friend's house for a sleepover. The mother just text me to say he's been great, they've had a great time and they had a Chinese for dinner, so I can give her the money for his meal 'tomorrow, or whenever I have it.'

She must be joking right?

Oh....maybe she realised it was a dick move and hoped if she didn't mention it you wouldn't either?

How bizarre!

Had she been on the vino when she texted you??

Notta clue!

Did your ds enjoy his takeaway at least!!

He's not even mentioned it, haha! I wanted a Chinese tonight but probably poor parenting to let him have it two nights in a row.

Nothing at all? What a let down!

Nah

Chinese at other people's houses doesn't count.

I'm not sure I can wait til you pick up tomorrow!

Poor parenting?

Nah! He'll think it's awesome

Oh. Well, I think you should now send a reply to the text: "Oh ha ha, just saw this text - LOL." See if she replies.....

She must have been joking then and just meant that they'd eaten loads. Surely???

Could it have been someone else on her phone?

Oh no!? Did she seem to have the arse?

It's either a/ she thinks you're a twat for ignoring the bill or b/ it was a throwaway shit joke, that she's forgotten about.

Either way, she's really not playing the mn update game

If she brings it up I'd just say: "I'm sorry - I haven't charged you for any of the meals I've fed your son whilst he's in my care. If you want to start doing that we can but only if we back date it all so it's fair. So that's £ for the Sushi...."

Id txt n say "did u want that chinese money or was that a joke"

Presumably as you left you said something along the lines of "thanks for having/feeding him" - what did she say to that?

im still shocked about the baby swapping post-are thesepoeple for real

obviously the paying for the meal text was a joke then again id put lol on the end to make sure

I would not be having that child to have a sleepover again, what a cheeky moobag.

This is fascinating: no way would I get a takeaway when guests were over if I couldn't afford to feed the guests, but I have been accused of tying myself in knots over things before where I should have just asked for help. I can imagine a conversation on the phone like this:

me "oh god is that the time, I have a million things to do and I've got to make a macaroni cheese for dinner as dcs are having someone over"
friend "just finish your work and get a takeaway"
me "I can't, it's payday on friday and you know how teenagers eat, I've got to make something or I can't afford to make sure that the other kid has enough"
friend "you can't do everything. Just get the takeaway and ask his mum to chip in, she would have paid for his tea at home"

I would never actually do this but does the above conversation look utterly outlandish to you? I am always being urged to ask beyond my comfort zone and then threads like this shock me into staying firmly within it!

HowBadIsThisPlease

Yes that conversation does look utterly outlandish to me. You've missed off the end bit:

"But the other boy's mum has taken our DS out for various meals and I've never paid for that."
"Oh. Make a macaroni cheese then."

Surely if you couldn't afford a take away and didn't have time to cook you'd just shove something in the oven. I don't have school age children yet so I have no idea if this is the wrong thing to do. thinking the DC couldn't care less

Yes it looks outlandish. I was with you until the 'get his mum to chip in because she'd have to pay for his dinner at home' part...it's just not something that is said or happens.

fair enough!

This thread is mad but I feel she wasn't joking but I don't know why this is very rude behaviour. please let ds have a Chinese tonight as well it definitely doesn't count if he had the first at someone else's house.