have you ever come into contact with a psychopath?

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Me and dh love discussing psychology and people's traits/ thinking.

I have a strong suspicion that my father is a high functioning psychopath. He's incapable of expressing any emotion other than anger. He is a pathological liar, a cheat, aggressive and manipulative. He's also very grandiose and resourceful, he seems to have no fear and often leaps into things other people wouldn't dare do.

One of dh's uncles also possesses many of the traits.

Aibu to ask- do you suspect anyone?

My best friend at school.
She is everything listed above.

I now have very little contact as she moved away.
I felt very fearful of her children's survival (grown up now). She was incapable of being motherly towards them or feel empathetic towards them.
She manipulated every one she came into contact with to get what she wanted.
Lied, ripped people off, even friends and close family with absolutely no regard for them. Never took the blame or responsibility for anything yet had people surrounding her always.
She hid behind self diagnosed depression and anxiety but only had symptoms whenever it suited her.
She felt that the law did not apply to her, so drove a car (badly) without a license, insurance or tax until parents at school reported her as she would just park it wherever she wanted (outside school gates, yellow zigzags and just drive off, no mirrors, didn't care if she nearly caused accidents). Was furious that parents had reported her and was convinced the police would be on her side.
Btw I had long periods of nc as she was a nightmare, this was during one of these times.

She had pictures of herself on every wall in her house, only one or two of her kids. Pictures of herself everywhere in the house. She was totally self absorbed, self centred and had absolutely no idea that anyone else was on the planet....other than to serve her.

Nightmare of a woman.

I'm not sure about psychopaths but I've definitely met a few sociopaths.

NRTT but I have known more than my fair share. Creepy as fuck when I look back at the signs. I persisted I the belief 'they didn't mean that' when they were transgressive.... I am wise to it now finally having it bludgeoned into me

The pictures on the wall reminds me of my psycho neighbours. (That was my thread about looking out of the window one day to watch the man and the woman attack their dog in broad daylight, in their drive - she threw it to the concrete and he kicked it in the stomach. Their kid (3? 4?) watched it with a sort of passive boredom as if it was an everyday sight. Which no doubt it was. RSPCA did nothing because I didn't film it and a second lot of neighbours or passersby would have had to seen it as well, otherwise, 'it didn't happen'.

They have one of those professional soft focus photos of them as a happy family on the wall. (You can see it when you drive past as it's the size of a poster or rather could until they decided to close their curtains day and night). They daily call their kids shits and cunts, and we have heard sounds like a kid being thrown against a wall or door, followed by screaming (SS came out for a bit then let them off).

At the moment they've done a bit of set dressing in the garden, putting kids' outdoor toys out there (but it's all wrong - targets and nets set to adult height - nothing their 4 and 5 year olds could even reach). Then the stuff is unplayed with and the kids shut in the house all day. Presumably they are expecting another desultory SS visit.

To go to the level of set dressing etc you have to be an extremne psycopath. Man once stood with his face pressed against the fence (another neighbour saw this) screaming through the fence that he wanted to 'Stab the neighbours in the head' and 'Shoot the neighbours in the head". Police did nothing because they said 'the neighbours' was too generalised a threat.

They constantly call the police saying they can hear our kids screaming (they can - they're watching Liverpool/playing FIFA).

Police last time they were called out told me to 'Carry on doing what you're doing' and ignore it - at a glance it was obvious our kids are normal and happy. But it gets very wearing knowing if your kids are watching football there will be a knock at the door.

They also do super creepy stuff like stand for hours watching my kids play football, glaring at them. Their latest one was to contact the NSPCC to say my kids are allowed to play football by a 65MPH road. What they forgot to add was - it is behind a brick wall. SS sent us a letter - didn't even check if these known convicted criminals whose kids are supposedly under their care, were telling the truth... Yet when we have heard their kids hit and heard them emotionally and verbally abused - NSPCC have done nothing.

Again, a sign of the neighbour's psychopathy though as they have figured out if we contact the authorities, they do it right back then it muddies the waters enough for them to continue abusing their kids.

I told the RSPCA inspector if they get another dog and we see anything like that again, I will not contact them or the police straight away but put it on YouTube (without pixellating any faces) and when it has had plenty of hits, then they might get the footage - shaming them into doing something, hopefully.

Recently SS turned up again in their drive and we haven't contacted them so I think now the school or maybe someone else in the village has seen something unsettling.

My mother is a narcissist but we're all NC with her now. Although I think an Aunt rings her now and then as she feels guilt.

Definitely got caught by 1 though. As a volunteer for a charitable setting. A couple of years ago, he did so many things in a row that at breakfast time he over stepped the line and I threatened to punch him in the face if he ever came near me again. All the other male adults were aghast and sidled off.
He then approached me and asked me to get involved in an event. I kept saying that I would do it if he needed me but wasn't going to apply for the position as someone else might want to go. He applied for me and then I spent an entire year being belittled and undermined by him. My role expanded massively from the initial role (which was fine as I offered) but everything I did was wrong. I had missed the point on every single area. I had many emails telling me this. Public emails. Then an event which had been organised by a few of us was slated by him as not what he wanted so don't worry, he'd do it. I called him out on that and said that he could back off, we would present what we had arranged to the rest of the team thank you and not to be so disrespectful.
One of the other team members then started standing up for me at all meetings.
Towards the end of our working relationship, when we were approaching the main event, I asked that a form was emailed out to parents. He had a hissy fit about this and refused. I then sent a group email outlining my legal responsibilities which he laughed at. "Don't insult my intelligence".
The other team member emailed back and said absolutely- if it's a legal thing we must do it. Within a week he had quit.

Nasty messages were being sent around to group members, posts on facebook about how 3 people had spoilt it for him.
The worst thing is, that my friends still see him. They know what he's done to me as it was all so public and then they still see him. They meet him for coffee and a chat. Go for walks. It makes me feel sick. I can't understand how they can do it. It feels really disloyal or that they must think it was my fault.
DH was the one who spotted it first though and he has steadfastly refused to get involved with him. He refuses all work requests and won't have anything to do with him.
At least we don't have to see him any more though.