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To think it's ok to be naked in front of your teens?

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Blackearlgrey · 22/05/2016 08:12

DP and I have always been very carefree about nakedness and as our DC (all girls) have got older I have picked up that they're no longer all totally happy about this. Recently this has come to a head with the youngest (18) saying that she really doesn't like seeing her dad wander round without clothes on. He's a bit resistant to changing his habits--he exercises every morning, then puts his sweaty gym kit in the wash, before working his way to the shower in the altogether. Our other two, who are older, are a bit more relaxed about it, in fact the oldest one says she's glad this was our practice, so that she knew from an early age what adult bodies looked like. (I can identify with that, as I didn't know until several years after I DTD for the first time!) I've been happy to try to avoid the DC seeing me without clothes on if it makes them feel uncomfortable, but AIBU to think that as this is our home, me and DP are entitled to live as we choose. NB. No nakedness in communal areas when we have house guests of course.

I'm guessing I'm going to get responses from all parts of the spectrum here, from "It's no problem, everyone in the family gets their kit off at the earliest opportunity" right the way through to "Actually, I have never seen my husband's body with the light on". But interested to see what the overall view is. AIBU?

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Myinlawsdidthisthebastards · 22/05/2016 09:06

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FutureGadgetsLab · 22/05/2016 09:06

Mine is a baby. However if he was older or anyone else in the house complained that would be my response.

There is nothing wrong with nakedness.

Blackearlgrey · 22/05/2016 09:07

For goodness sake. I have posted regularly on MN before, I changed my user name so I wasn't outed IRL. Then went to take a shower and when I came back there were 69 replies, and I haven't even had time to read them all yet. I'm not a journo or a perv. The ridiculous responses towards the end of this thread reminds me why I haven't posted on MN before.

For those of you who gave advice, thank you very much, it is really, really useful. Now back to reading the rest of the replies. And in case you're worried that "I haven't been back", I'm not going to be on the internet all day. See you later.

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Only1scoop · 22/05/2016 09:09

'I have posted on MN regularly before'

Finishes with

'Reminds me why I've never posted on MN before'

Eh?

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NotYoda · 22/05/2016 09:09

Your DH needs to behave as he would if someone is not a member of his family were staying. To do otherwise would be to be to Authoritarian to his child - to effectively take advantage of the fact that she is his child - even though she is old enough to have clearly expressed an opinion.

Why is it you are able to respect his wishes and you are not sure whether he he needs to?

seeyounearertime · 22/05/2016 09:10

I have posted regularly on MN before
I haven't posted on MN before.

A paradox....

NotYoda · 22/05/2016 09:10

Sorry - I meant Why is it that you are able to respect her wishes but you are questioning whether he needs to?

Sexist double standards

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Sparklingbrook · 22/05/2016 09:11
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liz70 · 22/05/2016 09:11

Your daughter doesn't want to see her dad's danglies. He should do the decent deed and don some trolleys.

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NotYoda · 22/05/2016 09:11

Oh poo. I this a journalist?

If so you can BOG OFF.

Only1scoop · 22/05/2016 09:12

And if you are for real for goodness sake ask your DH to show some respect for your daughter.

Grim

And I'm not from your silly 'never seen my DH naked with the lights on' camp.... Or whatever it was.

Only1scoop · 22/05/2016 09:13

Jorah Grin

NotYoda · 22/05/2016 09:13

Or maybe she many she hasn't posted on AIBU before

YABU

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Hagrid3112 · 22/05/2016 09:14

I think by age 10, I would have stopped it. Before then, I wouldn't be overly bothered as long as everyone was ok about it. Although, an 8yr old I look after has often told me about her parents' bits and pieces and what they look like. Not exactly something you want them chatting about at school!

As soon as someone expresses any negative feelings about it, it should stop, regardless of age. It's so unnecessary when he could just grab his towel before he gets fully undressed, or just keep his underwear on until he is in the bathroom. He is BU and selfish

Myinlawsdidthisthebastards · 22/05/2016 09:15

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FutureGadgetsLab · 22/05/2016 09:15

It's just rude and taking no account of her feelings to carry on.

Her feelings are illogical on this matter.

NotYoda · 22/05/2016 09:15

Myinlaws

Was that in reply to me?

I said she's his child, not a child

If it wasn't to me, ignore

FutureGadgetsLab · 22/05/2016 09:16

insisted in me seeing their bits after I'd told them no thanks.

But no one is. You can look away.

They're just going about their business naked. You don't have to look.

Myinlawsdidthisthebastards · 22/05/2016 09:17

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