To think it's ok to be naked in front of your teens?

[Blackearlgrey]

DP and I have always been very carefree about nakedness and as our DC (all girls) have got older I have picked up that they're no longer all totally happy about this. Recently this has come to a head with the youngest (18) saying that she really doesn't like seeing her dad wander round without clothes on. He's a bit resistant to changing his habits--he exercises every morning, then puts his sweaty gym kit in the wash, before working his way to the shower in the altogether. Our other two, who are older, are a bit more relaxed about it, in fact the oldest one says she's glad this was our practice, so that she knew from an early age what adult bodies looked like. (I can identify with that, as I didn't know until several years after I DTD for the first time!) I've been happy to try to avoid the DC seeing me without clothes on if it makes them feel uncomfortable, but AIBU to think that as this is our home, me and DP are entitled to live as we choose. NB. No nakedness in communal areas when we have house guests of course.

I'm guessing I'm going to get responses from all parts of the spectrum here, from "It's no problem, everyone in the family gets their kit off at the earliest opportunity" right the way through to "Actually, I have never seen my husband's body with the light on". But interested to see what the overall view is. AIBU?

bastards

No. I intend to teach him that there's nothing wrong with nudity however there is something called assault and people touching you anywhere without your permission constitutes this.

Nothing to do with pants.

In your opinion

Not mine.

No,sounds gross

Quelle surprise a stream of people stating that the wishes of the fruit of your loins trump all others, endless pandering to kids is not the answer, she is 18 she could move out if it distresses her too badly. She has grown up with it and both her sisters are OK with it, besides it sounds like a specific time just avoid being on the landing then....

I think your DP is wrong to do this when it is obviously making your daughter feel uncomfortable in her own home.

My DC are younger but I have no problems getting changed/having a bath infront of them, but when they say they don't want to see me naked then I would stop. There's no need to wander around the house naked.

My DP is the opposite, he gets embarrassed when changing etc. He thinks our DC shouldn't see him naked.

Yes but Future human beings are illogical. Have you never watched Star Trek?

This is a perveted thread why would a grown man be wandering around the house naked, especially when you have daughters, very inappropriate to say the least
To imply that a father being naked in front of his daughter makes him some kind of pervert is just horrible, and speaks to your own problems rather than those of the father.

Set yes I have in a big fan.

bastards I don't respect anyone's decision if it isn't logical and factually based. Emotive pleas don't work with me.

Can you explain exactly how not wanting to see your fathers knob swinging back and forth on the way to the bathroom is illogical?

Do you mean irrational? If so I still disagree.

Future

you'll also, i assume, be teaching him that his feelings are irrelevant a you will do what ever you want to do.

Thats basically what is happening in the Opening Post. it has nothing to do with the nudity, what the man does or doesnt do.

his actions are making someone else uncomfortable, he chooses to continue to do said action therefore dismissing the other persons fee;lings and placing his feelings at a higher importance than his daughters.

It's ok to be naked in front of people that are happy for that to be the case.

Your daughter isn't happy for that to be the case.

Your daughter's feelings, therefore, are more important than your DH's in this instance.

Forcing your nudity on someone else is never ok. Even in your own house.

I can see that you must be Future.

My friend's dad was like this when he was a teen. He was a domineering rigid twat too

Explorer because logically there is nothing wrong with nudity. It is socially constructed.

See I will teach him that him being offended by something isn't a good enough reason to expect others to stop doing it, and that his decisions shouldn't be made solely off emotional reactions.

sorry when my friend was teen

Bastards I'm not saying his feelings don't count. I'm saying you shouldn't use them as a basis for decision making if they are illogical.

That's a perfectly reasonable stance.

Bloody hell future

What happens if your ds doesn't conform to your 'logical' preachings....

Scary thought

You and dp chose to bring children into this world and hopefully have taught them some wonderful things. Respecting themselves and voicing their boundaries appears to be one of them. Please get dp respect their boundaries.

The least you can do is give them equal value in their own home. To cite legal ownership is ridiculous. How many 18 yr old own their home?!

My DD is 7 and she is starting to hide herself from DH. At some stage, it will be inappropriate for DH to expose himself to her - he will be taking his cues from her and respecting her boundaries and sensitivities.

Your dp needs to grow up.

Scoop

Nothing, it would just mean we would disagree on things.

I think there is a big difference between "dd's feelings about seeing her dad naked are relevant" and "dad's feelings about having to put on a dressing gown are relevant". The former is a feeling of strong unease, the latter is just about laziness.

Otherwise why do we punish flashers? Precisely: it's because they make people uncomfortable by undressing where the other people don't want to see that. The feelings of the people feeling uncomfortable are taken more seriously than the upset of any nudist who doesn't get to walk down the High Street in the buff.

A kindly parent would not want his daughter to feel uncomfortable in the house. I always used to walk nude between bathroom and bedroom. I don't do it any more because it would make my teen son uncomfortable. The effort of putting on a dressing gown is really such a tiny thing to do, why would I grudge that?