Told DH to fend for himself. AIBU?

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DH is sulking upstairs because I'm not cooking for him. He's 32.

He's very used to getting his own way and until recently I've probably enabled him. I've always cooked because I got in from work first. He likes home cooked food, preferably requiring a lot of effort.

Now 3 month old DD is here so meals have changed. Things that are easy to prepare but still always ready when he gets home. This apparently isn't good enough. He wants "proper" food. Not willing to cook it himself, though.

Things came to a head today when he walked in and moaned about the salmon in the freezer. I told him to cook his own food and he said he can't. So I'm not going to cook for him anymore. He can shop and cook himself, right?

He does very, very little with DD and won't do housework.

AIBU to let him starve and just feed myself?

*thing

What an utter bellend. He's trying to bully and scare you into being his servant! Mid week roast?! What the fuck does he think this is? A sitcom?

Good luck OP you'll need it. The guy's an idiot.

And now he's using threats. Bloody hell.

He won't get custody. Plus you'll likely get the house and he'll have to pay support.

Honestly, what do you see in him?

Charley she already did it's a bit late for that

And he won't get custody either. What slaver.

What tempted you to breed with this useless jelly?

Somehow I was blind to it before!

The salmon being frozen caused the row. He really prefers fresh

He can't educate himself AnyFucker, that'd involve getting off his arse and doing something on his own. Maybe his Mummy will help him?

Charley stop with the daft question , that ship sailed 12 months ago .

Don't let his flannel get to you OP, better to see the real him now and deal with it.

He's locked himself in the bedroom? For what purpose?

Dickhead

Yeah the ones who wouldn't know which end to put a nappy on always say that. They are usually the ones who mess around with contact and child support. Kinda once a useless cockwomble always a useless cockwomble.

Tell him he either sorts his shitty attitude out and behaves like an actual grown up or fucks off back to the 1950's.

What a giant twat of a manchild.

What would happen if you showed him this thread op?

Do you think the fact that he has overwhelmingly been denounced as a man size toddler who needs to grow the fuck up, would have any impact on his infantile and incredibly unattractive behaviour?

It often takes having a child for us to see the true nature of our partner. I learned this big time and now he is my ex-partner!

"Says he'll get custody of DD if I leave."

Um, no. He won't.

Sorry OP but you are married to a complete idiot. I really hope you can get out fast - and well done for not enabling him any more. How dare he?

Plus, your daughter is three months old? I made literally one meal in the three months after my first, and my partner was bloody grateful for it. Applause and

Oh and obviously he's a fool and yanbu...

DO NOT SHOW HIM THE THREAD!

Awful advice.

You've Googled divorce. I think you know how you feel. Now you just have to bite the bullet and move on

Locked himself in the bedroom?! To what end? Is it so he can sulk in peace and deny you and DD your usual, comfortable place to sleep?

He won't get 'custody'. He wouldn't have a fucking clue anyway.
By any chance is he hopeless at using the washing machine/calendar/dishwasher too?

I'm struggling to believe that anyone could be such a cunt to their spouse, and mother of their child.

I think when DD is asleep and you are both calmer you need to say something along the lines of
DH perhaps you don't realise how physically and mentally draining it is for me, looking after our DD. I am happy to cook but I do not expect any criticism for the content or even quality of the meals I make. If it's not good enough for you, you can either help out or fuck off.
We all need help from time to time and having a young child is a massively stressful time for us both.

If he doesn't maturely accept that he needs to help (either with your DD or with the meals) and if he continues to criticise anything you do without constructive advice or calm discussion, then he's a fucking loser and you'd be better off without him.

Do not have any more children with this toss piece until you're on the same page.

Good luck.

Oh don't suggest she shows him the thread! She needs a private place.

OP, did he even bring you back some fish and chips?

Even if custody existed, how does he think he'd get it when he's not willing to cook? Or would he go back home to mummy?

He's an chauvinistic idiot and your life would be easier without looking after him alongside your dc.

What a complete twat

He wouldn't get custody. At all. He would probably get joint custody at a push but you would will be the main carer

Even MY dh said he sounds like a douche

Fuuuuuuck me, he's throwing a strop over frozen salmon? Tell him to go and catch his own. Honestly, OP, I hope this has opened your eyes and you are now going to get rid. You and your DD deserve a real man.