Told DH to fend for himself. AIBU?

[arghhythu]

DH is sulking upstairs because I'm not cooking for him. He's 32.

He's very used to getting his own way and until recently I've probably enabled him. I've always cooked because I got in from work first. He likes home cooked food, preferably requiring a lot of effort.

Now 3 month old DD is here so meals have changed. Things that are easy to prepare but still always ready when he gets home. This apparently isn't good enough. He wants "proper" food. Not willing to cook it himself, though.

Things came to a head today when he walked in and moaned about the salmon in the freezer. I told him to cook his own food and he said he can't. So I'm not going to cook for him anymore. He can shop and cook himself, right?

He does very, very little with DD and won't do housework.

AIBU to let him starve and just feed myself?

Dear OP, please let us know you and your DC are safe xx

Checking in. Hope all is okay x

No update yet?

Getting a little concerned now

Me too, hope you are ok x

YANBU. But don't act too hastily. My marriage nearly went down the pan during the first year after our first child, and the majority of our rows were about housework. What was really going on though, was that we were both really struggling with all the changes that becoming a parent brings, and stopped communicating with each other. We ended up almost hating each other and I had days where I would have cheerfully signed divorce papers. It was very painful. Once we started talking to each other properly and stopped blaming each other for how difficult things were, the situation really improved. We still row about housework though.

Really hope OP is ok xx

I was in a really similar position with exh, I couldn't think of leaving as he'd kill himself, how would I support me and ds? One night he came home and started smashing the house up - final straw obviously I couldn't have a baby around this.
Fast forward to now and I have a husband who is nice to me, isn't it strange that that's all I wanted and it was too much for ex.
You will cope, you will blossom away from him and if you want to you might meet someone who is NICE to you!
Good luck op xx

Hope you are ok OP?

Is everything okay OP? I hope the reason you're not here is that things have moved so fast with getting rid of this arsehole you haven't had time to come back.

Just saw this on FB and it made me chuckle! Not suggesting violence or anything....x

You really should read the thread before posting a humorous comment like that on this one. It's really in bad taste.

I'm also worried about the OP, although, hopefully she's just getting on with her life.

Apologies. It's wasn't meant to be offensive, and as I said - not a suggestion to be violent. I have been where she is, but was lucky enough to have a friend to 'lighten' my mood similarly, which I felt empowered me and gave me the confidence to leave and start a new life, with 3 children to bring up alone. I had to move twice. The 2nd time, I moved to the other side of the country to somewhere I had no nearby friends or family to support me.
Hopefully she has got out, but is somewhere without wifi or has too much to sort out to update her thread.

arghhythu you've just told the story of my life... I'm living my days as you are. He's a narcissist & will never change. He cares about himself & will do anything he needs to to make sure he stays in control.
You deserve better. So do I. So does every woman living like this. If you have the strength to get out, do it, because some of us just aren't strong enough to muster up the courage.
Thinking of you X

Only just read this thread and really hoping that all is now well. Thinking of you and your DD OP.