Visiting friend brought a man home.

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Not sure on this one. I live with dh in a little 2 bed. Friend has been staying with us all week whilst in our area with her work. We've had a lovely week. Last night she went out with some other people and brought a man home unannounced.

I feel really uncomfortable about this and also like it's a real cheek! She leaves today. We were going to have a nice breakfast but I dont want to make idle small talk with strangers in my own house first thing!

So... aibu to feel this way and wibu to say something?!

All this angst about bodily fluids on the sheets...as Nodowntime has said, use a towel! Can't just be me and Mr Sponge who have a Bonking Towel surely? Wouldn't be happy to have a randomer back to my house though.

Me neither... Very rude and she knows it!

If the OP had a nice evening with her platonic friend Sue and just invited her back to the house without asking in advance and just strolled in with her nonchalantly I'd still think that was very rude.

This thread is making me wonder if every guest bedroom should have a penis beaker set up, labelled at the bed side. Wont somebody think of the sheets?

I don't get the bodily fluids thing either.

I am perfectly OK with laundering the drool/sweat/semen/vaginally fluids/snot/blood/amniotic fluid/pus/vitreous jelly/ my guests leave on the sheets or towels I provide for them.

I prefer they don't strip the bed and put stuff into my washing machine, it's annoying and I'm not that squeamish.

I just don't want randomers brought to my house without my permission and given a bed for the night.

I don't really think inviting someone back to fuck you in someone else's house counts as a drunken mistake. More like a drunken on purpose that shows a huge amount of disrespect for their host.

Definitely did not expect this many replies! Sorry for the late response - I am now home, and bride has a wedding dress!

Guest has gone. She did leave a box of chocolates and a nice card, but did not mention last night and did not strip the bed. I am being stoically British.

Was talking to dh, (asking about man's appearance for previous posters) and he said man literally bolted up the stairs as soon as they came in last night, so he didn't see them. Dh was trying to be courteous and leave the decision to me (my friend) although the rage was strong!

Love that, OP. Despite all the rantings on AIBU and all the suggestions and claims, I reckon most of us Brits just put up with all the shit and move on!!

No harm done then ?

Meh

TBH your DH should have told him to sling his hook last night...

"If the OP had a nice evening with her platonic friend Sue and just invited her back to the house without asking in advance and just strolled in with her nonchalantly I'd still think that was very rude."

I'll probably be called sexist for saying this, but if Sue decided to attack me I might have a chance of defending myself, but not if the friend was called John.
There's obviously much more of a safety consideration over bringing a strange man home.

Chocolates and card - no apology, very considerate NOT! He could have been anybody. They should have got a room, not your room.

I wouldn't have her to stay again, how rude.

I've had 2 friends experience this, one had to deal with bumping into a naked stranger on his way to the loo in the middle of the night! Those saying no problem how would you have felt coming across a naked stranger in your own home? Another was robbed, tv stereo, DVD player, laptop, even the kids piggy bank!

So no I don't think it's acceptable behaviour.

OP are you inviting her again?

I don't think I'd invite her to stay again, no! I'm wondering if I should message her, explaining what wasn't on. Dh said yesterday was quite awkward, but as she didn't mention the man, I'm wondering if she even knows that's out of order?

Urrrgh so she left her sex sheets for you to deal with? She really should have stripped the bed!!

The cheek! I would message her and then never invite her again.

definitely message her. Explain that you think she was out of order.
I wonder how she would like it if you and your hubby rocked up for a quickie in her spare bedroom.

At least she knows OP's husband!!

I reckon this thread is DM material too

I wouldn't be too annoyed if I was in my 20s with no kids.
I would feel surprise and then mild irritation only.

A friend that was staying overnight at mine brought a ons back.

Never occurred to me or dp to mind.

This whole thread is full of smug marrieds who don't seem to think single role are entitled to have casual sex.

A 'regular' dp is just as likely to be a thief/rapist/murderer!

"This whole thread is full of smug marrieds who don't seem to think single role are entitled to have casual sex."

You are completely missing the point here. Perhaps you should read some of the responses upthread.

I don't care how anyone else conducts their private life elsewhere, but I do object to someone bringing back an uninvited random stranger into my home, especially if they haven't even bothered to ask if it is OK. It is downright rude.

Are you completely lacking in social awareness?

This whole thread is full of smug marrieds who don't seem to think single role are entitled to have casual sex.

Rubbish. No-one is saying single people can't have casual sex. But they can do that in their own homes. No-one - single or married - can justifiably assume it's OK to bring a random stranger to stay overnight in someone's house.

Lightbulbon, might you have minded about that stranger on the ONS if he'd walked off with something valuable? Or puked all over your bathroom? Or attacked you?

I'm definitely not married, and would very much mind anyone bringing uninvited guests to my home.