'We're' pregnant

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Obviously I'm an awful person aibu to bristle whenever someone says this?

YANBU. It's just crap

Are these the Idiot OH who would do the

'So proud she chose no pain relief'

I wonder?

I'm so glad the vast majority of people agree that the phrase is utterly awful, factually incorrect and just cringeworthy.

Those who disagree haven't had much of an argument so far. Anyone got anything to put forward from the other side who might sway us?

There is nothing that would sway me.

Awful, awful term.

The more I think about it, the more it makes me shudder.

only1scoop why would the woman need pain relief? It's far worse for the father to have to watch - or so said my exH

Bit....

You obviously mean your Exhubster??

I hate it. Twee, sexist and idiotic.

only1scoop at least he let her choose without implication it was a joint decision...

DH said this once and it did not go down well with me! I've got HG, am being really unwell multiple times a day, medicated up to my eyeballs and essentially housebound. 'We' are not pregnant.

He now says "my wife is pregnant", or "we're having a baby".

^ in DH's defence, a lot of our friends used the expression, so I think he just saw it as 'standard'.

Oh Rae do they?

Find some new ones

only ooh this happened to one of my friends!
Her dh wrote on fb 'so proud we managed without the epidural'

It doesn't get much worse than that surely?

Only they do have redeeming qualities. I usually make a sarky comment to the men like "oh really, how's your morning sickness?" so they know I think they're ridiculous

ollie if my DH did that I would consider it grounds for divorce. I would genuinely be very upset

Ollie. I'd have killed him. What an utter arse. Your poor friend.

Op yanbu. It's twee, inaccurate and usually used by DH who need to make everything about them.

Definitely grating - I also hate it when people talk about "baby" as in "Is Baby well today?" rather than "Is the baby well today?"

YANBU I always feel men who say this are clearly in need of an internal exam or perhaps scan or two to make them feel better included...

Tis very American. I know an American man that's really upset he doesn't have a womb. He doesn't want to be a woman but wants to be able to carry his own child... He's quite disturbed by the fact he'll never have that opportunity in fact.

Anywaaaaay ! Yes I don't like it either. "We're having a baby" is much more acceptable.

I agree, it's up there with hubby. Both give me the boke.

YANBU cannot stand this.

There's a smug use of 'we' and 'us' that's really popular at the moment. It really grates.

Also nobody goes to a place anymore, they 'do it', 'we're doing Florida this year'. I hate it, it sounds so aggressive.

Ugh it honestly makes me a bit sick in my mouth! It is the woman who is pregnant yet the man wants it to seem as of he is going through it all! If he had a medical condition one wouldn't say "we've got diabetes" for example. It's inaccurate!

I also don't think either rejecting or accepting pain relief is anything to be "proud" of!

It's so twee and naff, as well as wrong.

It's in the same bracket as people who refer to 'myself' all the time, and say 'with John and I', as if they think saying 'me' is common.

Actually I've not heard is as much from the man as the woman which I find a bit stepford wife.
But then I'm very independent and even find a woman saying 'my other half' very weird . You are a whole person, not someone's half