Annoyed by DPs ExWife still having his surname...

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I don't know this would get to me, but it just does!

My DP's ExWife still has his surname, and they have kids. He divorced a while ago but we are not married. She does contact him a lot to get him to 'do stuff' like fix shelves, a bit less so now. She sends his in laws cards for their birthdays and Xmas always signed 'from the X surname family'.

Maybe I should just get over myself and not think about it. But it makes me feel like she is still in my DPs 'family unit' more than me. We will marry at some point but the thought of taking his surname also makes me feel weird, like I'd be wife number 2!

Anyone else feel annoyed? Or and I just getting wound up over nothing?

Wow, OP, I hope you can make peace with being the second Mrs X. She will always be the first Mrs X.

But this thread is quite something. I have no strong opinions on this, but reading this it's hard not to walk away full of adrenaline and irrationally worked up.

Because I'm not. I'm entitled not to be.

your bullshit opinions

Why are my opinions less valid that yours, majorly?

Why is it that I'm not entitled to think differently to you, despite your assertion that you are entitled to your own opinions?

That's exactly right! Women died for your right to not give a shit about feminism.

You are entitled to your own, just in my eyes they are bullshit.

Alis I really don't care.

But why, Majorly?

see now you're acting like the bitches of eastwick because I'm not a fucking feminist. Why do you care?!

That much is evident, Majorly.

You can't explain calculus to a pigeon, folks - you'll only end up with shite in your eye

Never interested me. I've done (admittedly rudimentary) studies with regards to feminism and it's a load of bull to me.

It makes me curious that's all. You don't come across like one of life's deep thinkers so perhaps there's nothing to be curious about, really.

You are entitled to your own, just in my eyes they are bullshit.

And you believe you are entitled to insult me because we don't the same opinion, am i right?

You lot need to practice what you preach, you make out I'm so out of order for not agreeing with your ideas about marriage yet you're allowed to flame me for not being a feminist? Double fucking standards

Why? Because I'm interested. Why else would I ask?

I like that turn of phrase a great deal Ruthy.

Oh well, you may think I'm not a deep thinker. I've considered feminism. It doesn't interest me. Why am I having to defend that?! Just because you're all militant fucking feminists doesn't make you right.

Feminists who marry men for money

BIWI I replied to you separately above.

you're allowed to flame me for not being a feminist? Double fucking standards

Who has flamed you, majorly? You've been asked why you're not a feminist - not insulted because you say you're not.

Feminists who marry men for money

What are you talking about?

Yes, I married my exorbitantly wealthy teacher husband for money. Because that's the only legal protection involved in marriage, obviously

I haven't criticised any of your posts.

I'm merely asking you, out of interest, why you're not a feminist.

Not quite sure why that means you should start throwing insults around.

When you say you've 'considered feminism' can I ask you what your reasons are for not being interested?

Feminists who marry men for money

I didn't marry my DH for money - I married him to protect my DD's right to a relationship with him should I die.