To not want to tell my OH about my personal groomin??

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I refer to this as mummy maintaince and what I mean is... I'm bleaching my upper lip and finding where my bikini line ends and leg hair begins!
Should I be honest?
Do you ladies/ gents keep anything like this secret?

paranoid of course I like my husband but I'm also allowed to not like certain things. He's not particularly fond of hair either.

Would the thought of shagging you in a natural state of hairiness make him want to vomit too?

Young people eh!

Maybe. I don't really care. Don't really get why people make huge issues on wether or not they shave their fanny. Does it really matter what you do with it? We're happy removing hair.

Old people eh?

It's not a huge issue for me- you were the one who said the thought of shagging your dh with hair makes you want to vomit!

Of course, Umbongo, what you both like is fair enough. But that the adult human body - the body of someone we love, even - in its natural state could make people want to vomit is a bit sad.

It's not a body in its natural state that is gross to me. It's hair in general. Even the hair on my head I keep scraped up in a bun because if it touches my bare arms it makes me feel sick. I don't like touching dogs. I don't like wool jumpers. I e already said its a sensory thing.

That must be tough umbongo

It's ok it's relatively easy to manage. The only difficulty I had was after I had my baby and my hair was falling out and I would wake up covered in it. That was 18 months of massive stress.

That IS tough- it's better now tho?

What's your baby's hair like? My youngest has wild, wild hair when she comes in for a cuddle it makes everyone cough!

Yeah it's finally stopped falling out haha!
Typically she born with a full head of hair but it's very soft so doesn't effect me too much as it feels more silky rather than hairy. It's very curly though and down to her elbows now and I do really struggle touching it when it's knotted.

umbongo does that make things difficult?

My DD loves having her hair put into different styles and love me braiding, crimping, curling, braiding. She has danced for years so I have had to give a lot of attention to her hair.
I take it you don't like animals either?

I find very hairy men attractive. Hairy arms, hairy hands, especially chest, love it all.
But I don't really care whether they are hairy or not, as longs as they float my boat.

It does a bit. I still do her hair because I have to, I just don't enjoy it. When it's just been washed and conditioned it ok because it's really silky and feels nice.
I only like cats as they're generally quite soft. It's coarse hair that I struggle with like dogs, Guinea pigs, horses etc. And obviously human body hair!

I love hairy chests on men.

I'm wondering if I've always been too open now. I tell DH everything if it's within context. He's never been in the slightest bothered by my body hair or grooming habits.

I use body scrubs, moisturisers, shave legs/pits, use a clipper on my pubes, face masks, spot cream, teeth whitening stuff, various hair conditioners, tweeze my brows, a dry razor thing for my jaw and top lip, make up, tons of hand cream and lip cream just before bed... That's a lot of stuff to hide away and make names up for. I just don't see the point.

DS1 is obsessed with my hair (he is nearly 4), he has asd and sensory issues. He only sleeps when touching 'mummy hair' which involves me putting it in a certain style and him twirling his fingers in it. We still co-sleep because he does this most of the night. I used to love having my hair stroked but now i hate it. When he was 15mo i had to start wearing a headscarf as he wouldn't stop touching and pulling it.

I expect he will be a hair fetishist of some kind!

koala now having my hair played with is different, I love that

My very lovely husband has learnt how to do a French braid so he can do my hair for me. It feels lovely when he's doing it and I don't have to play with it so it's a win win. He finds it very therapeutic!

Everyone does grooming. Men and women. It's not weird or embarrassing but it's something lots of people prefer to do in private. So it's fine if you mention it and fine if you don't. And it's fine if he knows you're doing it but he probably isn't interested.
I can, in on bathroom visit, have a poo, a shower, a shave, a pluck, and clean the bath, loo and shower. He wouldn't be interested in any of those acivities , he's aware they happen at some point !

I've been banned from using the poultry shears to do my nasal hair, although eyebrows are permitted.