To not want to tell my OH about my personal groomin??

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I refer to this as mummy maintaince and what I mean is... I'm bleaching my upper lip and finding where my bikini line ends and leg hair begins!
Should I be honest?
Do you ladies/ gents keep anything like this secret?

Well I obviously have no shame.

I did fancy a fanjo wax once (as I thought it would reduce effort on my part) but didn't want to get my legs akimbo for a stranger - so I bought a kit online and got DH to do it.

He tried his best but my god, never again - wax bloody everywhere to the point the tidy up I'd requested ended up with 3 hours of stripping (and a bottle of wine to numb the agony) and a requirement to visit a salon the next day to tidy it all up.

It's called " personal" for a very good reason.

I tried waxing and I bruised... Three days before holiday... I looked terrible on holiday with massive purple bruises

I just refer to it as "gardening". Or "shaving my legs" .

No further information or diagrams needed.

Tell him you're bleaching your asshole.

With his toothpaste.

"Mummy maintenance" ugh!

I'm totally lost about why this needs to be a secret? My husband has seen three people come out my fanny, he is not caring about hairy legs!!

All out in the open here! DD aren't that secret either, with 3 women in the house there is no mystery, he can even buy the correct sanitary towels, although he [refers not to

Shaving - DH is fully aware as he moans about me leaving the razor in the shower and nicking his shaving foam!
Upper lip I slap on the bleach in the morning when he's in the shower, when he walks out he's greeted by a wife with a white moustache
Bikini line, I only bother for holidays now and wither go to the salon or veet myself whilst in the bathroom.

Mummy maintenance

I don't do any of it. DH likes the earthy look which suits me because I'm lazy.

Why are we all so hung up on body hair anyway ffs?

Because I find it embarrassing and it effects my confidence. Good for you that is doesn't effect your self respect but it does mine and clearly it does for the op so rather than picking on a silly term that makes her feel better about it why not actually offer some helpful suggestions?!

Op it is shit! I hate waxing and am far too self conscious to go to a beauticians to have it sorted. I can highly recommend the Nono thing though. My mum suffers badly since the menopause and she bought one brand new from eBay for about £30 and has raved about it!

Not everything you choose not to discuss is a "secret". You can overshare. If I think my husband will find something funny or interesting or something is upsetting me I'll discuss it. I don't want to hear his boring crap either.
He's currently happily playing his violin, why would I go and tell him I'm about to do some intimate grooming (unless I thought he'd want to watch)?

Do ladies women other than mummies, not do any of these mummy maintenance things??? Hmmm?

Yea my five year old paused the advert for the nonopro... Made me watch it three times and then proudly told me I needed it for my face a chest... WTAF!! My chest is ok and my face well I thought was just me knowing! I'll have to look on eBay

whereis do you mean self esteem rather than self respect? I cant see why you would respect yourself any less because you've shaved your bikini line.

DH watches as I wax my legs in horrified fascination... he cannot work out how I can chat, or be on a telephone call without screaming as I pull the wax off.

He's also seen me with the 'tashe bleach on (I'm blonde anyway, and the hairs are thin so it's just a shade lighter than usual, 2-3 times a year).

I have his permission to pull out any of those long wiry eyebrow hairs that men grow...

Hair maintainance - meh.

Haha my dd has a warped sense of humour at 2.5 and pushes my chin up and points to the hairs and Asks why I don't shave like daddy love the little rat really

You have my sympathy cos dp often asks what the hell takes me so long in the bathroom and I have no idea how to respond.

I shave in the shower, doesn't bother me if DH walks in. I wax my tache and pluck stray chin hairs in front of him, it's not like he's under the illusion that I don't have body hair. I also get to pluck the long hairs out of his back. I don't have the time or inclination to give a shit about being all mysterious!

That's why I call it what I do! Not to be cringey just because I don't want to say the truth

I don't tell my DH anything, nor is it a secret. If I used the words 'mummy maintenance' I would have lost my mystique forever. I like my mystique.

If he asked me what I was doing I would tell him to fuck off.

Same here op! Mummy maintenance is just easy to say. I had no other idea what to say. We have been together 4 years and I have known him for over 20 so he is aware of things but I don't want to have to discuss it.

I call it defurring and declawing. OH doesn't watch, but I wouldn't have a problem if he needed to pop in for a quick wee or something while I was doing it.

We are pretty open and relaxed about intimate stuff, but draw the line at pooing in front of the other...

Same here although I just blurted out that I bleach my upper lip he just looked at me and said his mum does too... Y did I worry! He was so not bothered! Might tell him I bashed the car whilst he seems so cool about shit!

Hi I agree with others saying just don't mention anything if you prefer not to divulge! I never mention details of what I do behind that bathroom door (top lip plucking, body scrub, foot file thingy) - I get waxed at a salon but don't announce anything.

OP do you mean your DH is asking you about this stuff and you don't want to say? Why mention anything at all?

I've been with my partner 8 years and he's never seen me shave my underarms never mind anything else. Personal choice though. We never share a bathroom.

He already loves you, OP. I don't think it'll matter to him if he knows how you maintain yourself

Please try waxing again for your upper lip. Bleaching it makes it look absolutely ridiculous.