To not want to tell my OH about my personal groomin??

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I refer to this as mummy maintaince and what I mean is... I'm bleaching my upper lip and finding where my bikini line ends and leg hair begins!
Should I be honest?
Do you ladies/ gents keep anything like this secret?

Just checked... Mummy maintainance did not make it to the what makes you cringe thread... Phew!

I don't call it anything... I suppose it just comes under the general headings 'having a bath' or 'going for a shower'.

If I used the phrase 'mummy maintenance' my husband would think I'd lost my mind

He'd be right

Shaving. Bleaching. Colouring my hair. If anyone asks, I tell them straight.

Same with sanitary products. I tell my dc straight. Saves confusion. Had a bf who thought tampons were 'mints' when he was a kid because that's what his mum told him they were.

I don't have a special term for it and DH knows I shave/nair etc and has seen me do it - refused to lend a hand when I was heavily pregnant and couldn't bend or see what i was doing though, claimed he didn't want to be held responsible for any mishaps.

But then we have the kind of relationship where we use the loo while the other is in the bath, no mystery here, which I know from previous threads is horrifying to a lot of posters here.

Mummy maintenance sounds like a euphemism for popping off for a top-up wank.

That no no pro thing is very weird. The website mentions sexy skin way too many times. Sinister and off putting.

I'm not sure how helpful this would be but I posted this accidently elsewhere and it really does belong in this topic:

My DH helps me shave. I'm allergic so scared to use things like veet or other chemical stuff. Luckily and I praise my parents for this- genetically I have no facial hair and nothing in the breastage area.
As for hips down- I'm quite hairy but I don't mind it.

My DH shaves me. It is quite erotic and he is perfect at it- he does it better than me. Get this ladies- its not even using a ladies razor- He uses one of his gilette ones although I think He just buys it for me only now. He appreciates his work much more now and he finds all sorts of ways to thank me. This all came out of an argument several years ago after he said something sexist about hair on legs (After I spent hours shaving ) then I told him if he wants it shaved- he'll have to do it himself. Its a non issue for me. I tend to do the armpits myself in the shower and its something I do for myself.

I don't know what to call it- as he gets his rockers off for it- I think of it as his "Party time" One time he was so pleased with his work he spent hours giving me the most intense erm 'multiple orgasms experiences' I think each man is different on this issue and we are different as well. Embrace our individuality and well kinkiness.

Fuck that shit, you can take me in all my hairy glory or you can do one as far as I'm concerned.

It's quite liberating.

My DH shaved my arse, undercarriage and fanny with his clippers when i was heavily pregnant with ds1. It was rather like sheering a sheep.

If i have a lot to do i may say 'i'm going into the bathroom...i may be some time..' With a wistful far away and very final look on my face. Or ' it's time to scrape the big bits off'. But usually i just get on with it and don't make it a discussion point. I don't think he cares either way tbh, he's never mentioned it at all.

'Mummy maintenance' may make him vomit tho.

I'm thinking of getting a no no thing. i'm a sucker for an informercial.

DP happily watches me plucking my vagina and giggles. No shame. Does that count?

Oh mrskoala you are a woman after my own heart.

MrsKoala I wish my DP didn't care either way. My yeti legs always make him cringe. I think he'd help in the future if a shearing type situation is ever needed though.

Mummy maintenance is quite sweet and funny like something Bridget Jones' mum would come out with.

I'm more disturbed by the husband who gets off on shaving his wifes legs tbh

I'm more worried at women claiming that they shave their vaginas.
I am going to hope they are referring to their vulvas/genital region rather than their actual vaginas - otherwise there must be a whole world of hairy tunnels I am not privy to - and it sounds horrifying.

"MrsKoala I wish my DP didn't care either way. My yeti legs always make him cringe. "

Tell him to get stuffed.

BertrandRussell I frequently do. I shaved my legs this weekend so that I could wear some shorts in the garden without putting my DP and my sister's boyfriend off their BBQ food.

I'm regretting it. Oh my god, the itching!! My DP can get stuffed if he thinks I'm doing this more often just because he's been socially conditioned to find it gross. My physical comfort matters more to me, frankly.

I don't shave anything, or remove/bleach any hair at all, and I talk about this a lot to DP!
We are entirely honest about everything, I mean the blokes seen me giving birth, hungover, puking constantly diring pg etc ffs, if he can't deal with the realities of personal grooming, then fuck him!
Why do people feel the need to hide this stuff from partners? Surely you must realise that grown adults know that people don't magically come hairless in certain areas, and that your partner, when touching smooth legs, is going to know full well you shaved them?!

HoundoftheBaskervilles I am with you all the fucking way.
I refuse to shave anything, and will happily walk about in shorts and vests, full hair on display.

It is totally liberating, and I shall never shave again. If people don't like it (the women making obvious retching noises when I lifted my arms to put my hair up spring to mind) I shall tell them they are shallow and pathetic and get on with my life, happy in the knowledge that I couldn't care less!

I think some of the saddest posts (well, sad in a not death or terminal illness or other life disaster sort of way) are the ones were women are worrying about what their midwife will think if they don't shave their pubic hair off before giving birth.

I am old enough to remember the sense of triumph when we managed to persuade HCPs not to automatically shave women on admission to the labour ward. Now we panic about not doing into ourselves. Bloody heartbreaking.

Every single bit of personal grooming I do is done either in the shower OR in full view of partner, kids, friends, anyone who drops by.

I call the first lot (washing hair, shaving legs and armpits) 'having a shower'
I call the second lot (brushing hair, putting on make up) 'getting ready'

I am not in physical discomfort from shaving my legs, I do it every day in a haphazard fashion and wear skirts, swimsuits, anything I want.

I don't have to put on makeup but I like to. Hence I usually do it downstairs before work or social event with kids running about and people in and out. I don't shroud it in mystery.

It's all a bit odd to me.

I agree Bertrand
The fact that so many women out there are genuinely worrying what other people/their OHs think/will say when confronted with perfectly natural hair really saddens me.

Why, just why, does it matter whether you shave or not? By all means, if you want to, then do it, but if you don't want to please don't let societies pre conceived ideas of what it means to be "sexy" or "feminine" dictate what you choose to do.

If more women refused to shave, it wouldn't be the "norm" anymore.

I plan on dyeing my armpit hait bright blue this summer, just because even having natural hair seems to visibly piss people off, I thoight I'd make it more obvious! I am aware I am a reactionary git btw

Loving the blue armpit hair idea... Knew a woman once who dyed her pubes red and attempted to shave them in to a heart for Valentine's Day... She used food dye... It got hot and she got sweaty and apparently just looked and bit... Well... Grim!!

Heres That's bloody funny!! joke intended

I plan on using something a bit less.......umm.....unpredictable!