close to death giving birth...

[ghostspirit]

im coming up 38 weeks pregnant. me and bf was talking generally about the birth. im having home birth and was telling him how midwife was saying how if i have to be transfered to hospital it could take upto 30 mins for an ambulance... he said thats rubbish they would get it there within a few mins or so. Then he started going on about how when you give birth your very close to death. of course i know there is a risk when giving birth. i said you can say that about alot of things there are risks in everything. i was trying to tone it down a bit. but he kept going on. it pissed me of because its not something i really want to hear when im not far of giving birth. so was he being unreasonble to be saying them things or am i being over sensitive

[PortiaCastis]

Huge Congratulations ghosty hope you are both doing well.

[boobtaper]

Well done! How do you feel?

[ghostspirit]

Yes both doing well. Feel fine bit of belly ach but not bad.

[PortiaCastis]

ghosty is baby a boy or a girl and did you get your homebirth?

[ghostspirit]

Boy called him ethan :) yes home birth. Had to call ambulance though as no midwife avaliable :/ then midwife arrived while after and all good :)

[PortiaCastis]

Good stuff, imy off to bed now so I'll say goodnight and leave you to have cuddled with Ethan

[5madthings]

Yay congrats ghost

I had a boy as well, he is five weeks now, called Emmett :)

Hope you are resting up and being looked after.

Congratulations and welcome to the world Ethan xx

[Just5minswithDacre]

Congratulations! Glad you're both well.

Ethan is a lovely name

[giraffesCantReachTheirToes]

Congratulations

[splendide]

Congratulations! :)

[ghostspirit]

Thank you everyone. Boyfriend was not to bad in the end he panicked a bit but not bad. He done alot of room pasing and phone calls.

[bluecarpet]

Congratulations! Very happy for you.

[Alfieisnoisy]

Fantastic news, congratulations to you all. Knew you'd be fine.

[MiscellaneousAssortment]

Congratulations :)

[Offred]

Ah lovely! Congrats!

[ghostspirit]

Thank you. Yes was all straight forward. Not much blood loss either. Only thing was bf kept talking to me when I was having pain. Told him several times not to. But I think that was more panic really. Then he could not get hold of anyone out of 4 numbers. He got to cut the cord though and he said it was lovely to watch ect.

[Northernlurker]

Congratulations. Now I'm going to do that thing the midwives do and ask what contraception you are using? Because you absolutely, positively do not need another baby so don't run even 1/2 a chance.

[Costacoffeeplease]

I think he had the snip didn't he?

[ghostspirit]

He's having snip on 17th june

[hobnobsaremyfavourite]

So what contraception will you be using in the meantime? And remember its very important to do all the checks post vasectomy to make sure you are safe.
Ah alls well that ends well you couldnt have planned it better op if you'd tried. I love a happy ending.
Enjoy op x

[MiffleTheIntrovert]

Congratulations ghost

[PortiaCastis]

Jesus OP gave birth at 11 last night and now her contraception is under investigation. None of our business is it.

[ghostspirit]

I don't mind being asked about contraception long as it's not going to turn into madness. We will use condoms. But I don't think we will be having sex for a good few weeks yet.

[PortiaCastis]

Lol ghosty it's not the first thing on the agenda after giving birth.
Pleased that you and Ethan are doing well, try and rest if possible.

[Northernlurker]

Portia - midwives ask about contraception minutes after giving birth The op has posted openly about the unplanned nature of this pregnancy and the many issues that has raised for her. It's important and supportive to raise contraception because there are plenty of people with kids in the same school year as a result of unplanned moments of passion. It's not ideal.

Op - good he has a date. However it's likely to be 4 months or so from now when you get the all clear and I would suggest it's a good idea to double contraception and and not rely on condoms. The mini pill would be a possible short term measure.