To be shocked at Dd's friend's tampon experience

[EdithBouvierBeale]

DD is ten and her class just had the period chat at school. One little girl, whose mum is a GP, was shown how to insert a tampon. Her mother demonstrated on herself by lying on her bed while her 10 year old DD watched.

I'm intrigued to know how she plans on showing her daughter how to have sex, and how to use condoms . And I hope the daughter doesn't ask for a demo for popping piles back in

Lighthearted, but anyone starts

I'm surprised how many people are totally unperturbed at the idea of splaying their legs and showing someone how to put a tampon in! And I thought I was liberal

I never had much of a conversation about how to use tampons with either my Mum or with my DDs, it's got nothing to do with being uptight or prudish. It's just that it's not exactly complicated and a bit pointless. We are all happy to discuss anything with each other but how to put a tampon hasn't come up. When I needed to do it I looked at the leaflet?

I hope the Dad/son version of this doesn't involve condoms.

And I'm genuinely surprised at how many people are appalled. I don't have a daughter, but it seems only one step beyond demonstrating teeth cleaning and bottom wiping.

Malvolia are you taking the piss? Maybe showing her how to use a vibrator when she is say 16 is just another little step beyond that too.

A friend of mine at school had her Mum insert her first tampon for her .

Thing is that was just fine as far as she was concerned, so who are we to judge?

Mind you, if my Mum had done that to me, I'd have freaked!

Are people really so uptight they can't tell the difference between sex and a normal bodily function that the DD is going to have to deal with 7 days a month every month for about 30 years?

I bought my DD a vibrator at 18. I didn't demonstrate

Maybe showing her how to use a vibrator when she is say 16 is just another little step beyond that too.

Yes, because dealing with your periods is exactly the same as being shown how to sexually pleasure yourself. Are you for real? Do you think there's something sexual about inserting a tampon???

Not something I'd do but I think it's great.

My mum was very closed off about periods so I'm glad other people's mums are much more open.

Mine asked me when I was 10 if I'd had "the period talk" at school and when I said yes said good. That was it. That was the only talk I got from her. Which was no bloody good as when she asked me I'd already had my period for a year but was to embarrassed to tell her.

I used to steal my older sisters pads/tampons or shove great wads of tissue into my knickers. Can you imagine that at 9 and 10?

I'd much rather mums around the country being matter of fact and practical about periods, even if it means fanjos on show!

Tampons come under the same heading as arse wiping - intimate personal hygiene. Or did you not teach your children how to wipe themselves because it might be linked to sex in some way?

My point was it's inappropriate.

Do you have to chew something up and swallow it just to teach a kid to eat? No, so why would you feel the need to do this?

Absolutely revolting. If my mum had done this to me I'd be scared for life. Feel sick just thinking about it.

I just told dc how to bottom wipe, there weren't any practical demos of that either.

You never did it for them then?

My point was it's inappropriate.

Why?

Scarred even! ( although probably both )

Even my awful 'you can't use tampons until you are married' mother changed hers in front of us as children, including my brothers.

I'm surprised at how many posters are horrified at this. There was a thread last year about whether or not to have DCs present at a home birth, and the responses were overwhelmingly in favour of having them there, because it is natural/a normal part of life/good for them to see what happens.

How is tampon insertion breaking boundaries, but watching a baby coming out OK?

All fine, except who puts a tampon in lying down?!?

soupdragon because it's your mother pushing something up her hoo-ha that's why.

I'm surprised at how many posters are horrified at this.

Me too. Very surprised.

Nothing wrong with it whatsoever.

They obviously have a close relationship and no body issues!

Great!

I just can't get worked up either way about this. I'm pretty open with the DC (and still bathe with my 10 year old DS as he is not reached puberty, and he doesn't bat an eyelid) but I don't really think it would be necessary to do a demo.
I'll be too old when that happens for my DD anyway.

I don't think it's disgusting or weird though.

There's so many more weird things parents do to kids that actually do hurt them, that I could feel upset about. Sounds more like a caring parent just a little ott.