To be shocked at Dd's friend's tampon experience

[EdithBouvierBeale]

DD is ten and her class just had the period chat at school. One little girl, whose mum is a GP, was shown how to insert a tampon. Her mother demonstrated on herself by lying on her bed while her 10 year old DD watched.

What's the problem - why is it horrifying? It's a perfectly sensible discussion about how to use a sanitary product.

I remember trying to use tampons for the first time and being utterly miserable about it. My older sister helped me put mine in and showed me how to do it properly. She didn't bat an eyelid and I was chuffed to bits that I could go swimming - end of discussion.

Blimey I learned it from pictures in a book.

I'm assuming the dad didn't actually insert the tampon into his daughter.

I wouldn't do it but I don't have a problem with a mum and daughter who are comfortable enough to do it.
I'm curious as to what the issue is to be honest?
I understand people not wanting to do it themselves, but I don't understand why anyone would think it was wrong for someone else.

That's a little bit awkward.. :D

I can still remember my mum showing me how to use the tampons with applicator, even though she didn't actually insert it, that image won't leave me.

It did teach me though and I was the only one of my friends who could use the applicator.

I can't find any fucks to give about that - not for everyone but who cares

If the girl had got her period and needed to know, if the girl happened to walk in while her mum was inserting a tampon, was having trouble inserting one herself, or asked to see, I wouldn't be as surprised. I just don't know why a 10 year old needs to be shown this until it is relevant. It seems a bit icky!

I suspect the girl was fibbing.

Why do people find it weird and disgusting? Genuine question, I don't get it.

I'd counter that by saying why on earth wouldn't you find it weird and disgusting. Genuine question?

How is putting in a tampon in front of your DD a sign of a good relationship. It's completely unecessery and a bit strange. I have a great relationship with my adult DDs, I don't think it would be any better for them having seen me put a tampon in.

I might have a quick pee in front of my DDs but that's about it.

The gynaecologist dad explained how to use the applicator. He put Vaseline on the tip and she went into the loo and he talked her through it. She vividly remembers being told to take a deep breath then insert while she breathed out!

To do a demonstration is totally unnecessary.

so is loads of stuff parents do to make life a bit easier for their kids.

Will also add that my mum didnt give any demonstrations so not sure why my comment was associated with that.

I don't think doing that is a sign of "a great relationship" I have very open relationships with all my kids but i wouldn't do that.
In fact Dd shouts at me if there is any hint of nakedness these days
"Gawd muuuuummm"

I actually think it's no bad thing.

We had a talk at school aged 11, but they used a diagram of a cross section of the body (to show the tampon couldn't get lost etc) and it was useless, I had no idea based on that. My mum used towels, I didn't start with tampons til I was in my late teens/early 20s. I think if my mum had been able to show me I'd have found it helpful. I don't know that I'd have been really cringed about it aged 10/11 because I'd often see my mum naked at that age, in the bath, getting dressed etc.

Good on her.

I used tampons from the get go and I was 11. I was way into ballet. Towels just weren't going to cut it.

So? I don't see anything wrong with this... If you wouldn't want to find, but there's no problem. First time I used one a friend helped me put it in!

I don't see the problem.

Seeing your mum stand up naked whilst getting out the shower is completely different imo then her laying down on the bed with her legs wide open.

I suspect the girl herself was not bothered at the time as if she had really found it disgusting or emanating, there is no way she would have told the class. If she said it was disgusting it was probably only after hearing classmates reactions.

Dd has seen me insert a tampon. She is under 5 though and I get zero privacy in the bathroom

The Dad gynaecologist thing is really quite odd.

Do women really do it with one foot on the toilet seat?

Yuck.

I just don't think it's necessary to get up close & personal with your mum's fanjo in order to learn how to insert a tampon.

Vaseline really isn't a good thing to be inserting into ones vagina, even on the end of a tampon! /misses point of thread/