That this is the teacher's fault

[TrixieBlue2016]

On Monday DSS brought home a letter asking permission for him to have his hair chalked as they are doing a project. DSS has shoulder length light blonde hair. We were asked to provide chalk that can be washed out.

So yesterday I sent him in with a stick of green hair chalk. I picked DSS up from after school and the bottom 4 inches of his hair was green. I took him home and got him to go wash his hair. The green didn't come out.

I asked DSS had he done it himself or did the teacher colour his hair. He said the teacher spray painted his hair. I checked his bag and the stick of chalk was unused.

Long story short the green still hasn't completely come out. I sent a note explaining that his hair was washed half a dozen times but it's still green and also the chalk provided wasn't used.

I have just had a call from the HM about DSS hair, it is unacceptable apparently. HM agrees the teacher did it and used a colour spray not the chalk provided however DSS is still at fault and has broken the rules. HM says DSS agreed to have the teacher use the spray. DSS will lose golden time on Friday and will be on report until it washes out. This means no afternoon playtime.

I have asked to speak to the teacher when I collect DSS from school today. HM is going to speak to his teacher.

It is clear to me that the teacher is at fault not DSS. Aibu? DSS is 10.

You can't punish a child for something the school did - ridiculous. If Head is still being an ass about it ask for copy of the complaints procedure and how to contact the chair of governors.

Agree with poster upthread who said this is Kafkaesque. If green hair is against school rules and unacceptable, an activity on school premises that results in green hair is by definition also against the rules and unacceptable. Chalk or spray is actually irrelevant, by their own logic they shouldn't even have been colouring it green in the first place.

YANBU at all.

I've never heard of hair chalk. If I were you, I'd go to the Press. You and DSS should start practicing your sad face poses now. That'll really piss off the HT.

I'd befuming.

With regards to removing it, when blonde hair takes a green tinge due to too much chlorine, ketchup will remove it ( yes wierd I know but ) Might be worth a try

Smother the green bit in ketchup and wait a bit, rinse out.Its the vinegar content that makes it work, otherwise dilute vinegar and perhaps comb it through

Teacher shouldn't have sprayed hair especially since his is blond as more likely to stain - if dark hair it probably wouldn't even be noticed

The head shouldn't be punishing your DSS.

Technically DSS hair breaks the rules but this was caused by a teacher

@ CBeebies Kafka

Yy to what VenusRising says.

Total Idiots. Dangerous idiots at that (re asthma and self esteem).

I sprayed my DDs blonde hair green for Saint Patrick's day and it still hasn't come out, That's 5 weeks ago. It's quite faint but still there, She had a haircut in the meantime and the hairdresser suggested using Head and Shoulders but that didn't help.
It was the green spray from Claires. There should be a warning.

I would go ballistic if this was my kid.

And what the hell was this "project," anyway? How ridiculous.

That is the silliest thing I've ever heard!

Have you asked him what he expects your ds to do?

Quite apart from the HT twattery that is going on, as an educationalist I fail to see what pedagogical grounds there are for dyeing your pupils green. Perhaps someone can explain this to me?

This has reminded me that I once went to a St Patrick's day party wearing an elaborate hat made out of green crepe paper. I managed to lean over a candle and set it alight so some quick thinking person tipped their pint over my head. I looked like the Incredible Hulk for about 2 weeks.

WTAF? I'd be in that head's office today.

I would also go ballistic. If this is the way they want to play things, I'd be getting a solicitor to write a letter quick smart about the fact your child was assaulted at school, now has lasting damage to his hair, which will be costly to fix. The HM should he paying for a hairdresser to sort out the mess his member of staff created. And none of this is your DS's fault. I sense the HM would have reacted differently had this been a girl.

Go to the board of Governors. Do not let this go. Your son is being punished very unfairly for something he hasn't instigated.

Tell the HM that you will be raising this with the Governors and that you will be logging it as a FORMAL complaint against him/her. Do not do anything to you DS's hair.

If this is a spray hair colour they do generally say on the can that it can stain blond hair and to test a small area.

Or do as Jessbow suggests and send DSS in with ketchup on his hair next.

If HT wants to be silly you can be sillier

Some people here need to calm down with bandying words like "assault" around - nobody assaulted the poor child, both he and his parents had given consent for his hair to be coloured

However it is grossly unfair that he be punished for something not of his doing that he had no control over. I'd be making it quite clear to the Head that I would escalate this to the Board of Governors if my child was deprived of playtime or golden time on the basis of a teacher's actions.

Are the teacher and HT on glue?

YANBU

Most bonkers ruling by a school ever. And I've seen some odd stuff on here before now.

Totally shocked that the HT would punish your DSS for this. Are you having a meeting with both the teacher and HT at the same time?

The teacher has probably had a hard time from the HT too and is now regretting trying to do something fun with the class. Stupid mistake to use the spray, but I think the intentions were good.

Find out if it is the HT who is behind the punishment and be as strong as you can when refusing punishment for your DSS.

CBeebies Kafka - thank you whoever posted that !

I was with the teacher (I am one so I know how these things go 'I want my hair like X, my mum says I can't use it etc etc) however, I see you're not cross with the teacher but the HM.

HM is being utterly unreasonable. It was a school thing, you sent in the correct stuff, it won't wash out (14 yo me has been there). You've done all you can.

CBeebies adaptation of Kafka

I don't think I have ever read anything so ridiculous!! Of course it isn't your son's fault and it is utterly outrageous that he is being punished!! The mind boggles!! i would be writing a very strongly worded letter to the HT and the Governors.

Absolutely crackers. You can't make an example of a child over something that's the school's fault. This would make me want to question their entire ethos, actually.

You should certainly complain to the governors. Also tell the head that you expect the school to pay for you to take him to hairdressers to get the dye sorted out.