To vasectomy or not to vasectomy...

[Marquand]

I'm currently pregnant with DC3. I'm 43, and DP is 46, so in both our minds this is definitely the last one.

I would like DP to have a vasectomy - I really don't want to use the pill in future, and I'm not too keen on condoms either.

He said a straight out NO when I asked him. I really don't think it's an unreasonable request.

What do you think?

splendide this is my third merina now, and I was in agony on the previous insertions. I don't have children so my cervix hasn't been, um, stretched.

The NHS were hopeless at helping me look at options. So I paid for one private appt with a gynae and she told me not to have a copper coil, the nasty discharge I was getting meant the coil needed to come out (it was over a year 'out of date' - the GP had pretty much decided it was thrush, which I knew it wasn't) and that she did at least one insertion under general anaesthetic a week on the NHS. The private cost would have been c£3k. The single appt was £150.

So, I wrote to my GP laying out my reasons and asking their support to approach the CCG for the funding. The GP just agreed and referred me back to the same gynae on the NHS. About a 6 week wait, which surprised me, thought it would be longer.

I did also ask in my letter if there was an option to have a sedative or gas and air, but they didn't address that.

Lots of women have no problem with it at all though. I just do have a sensitive cervix and after my previous experiences I got a psychological block about it.

But don't expect the NHS to be helpful, be assertive about what will work for you.