AIBU to want to stab people who ask "is she sleeping through the night yet?"

[Wizzles]

They don't give a shit if she is or not, they just want to be able to tell me that their little darling is.

Then there's the ones who say things like "he's sleeping through from 7 til 7 with a feed at 1am". Well then he's NOT "sleeping through" then is he?!

Disclaimer: clearly I'm not actually going to stab anyone. I'm just very tired and pissed off.

My 15mo has never, ever not even once "slept through"

People just don't ask me anymore!!!!!

YANBU at all (stab them I'd say! )
It used to drive me crazy with DS who actually was a fairly decent sleeper and DD who still doesn't sleep well at almost 2.
Even from as little as a couple of weeks MIL and her sister were saying I should stop BF and give formula and even solids at 6 weeks then DD would sleep through

Oh and I just lie to them now as can't be doin with the snarky comments and "advice". If they knew I was still BF in the evenings (and sometimes at night - shock horror) and co sleeping they'd have a meltdown!

Ollie - yes, babies are biologically designed to wake up regularly at night. It is a SIDS preventative measure.

YANBU

I got asked it for the first time when DS1 was five weeks old!!!

My two week old slept through the night last night. Apart from the feed at 7-10, 11, 1, 3, 4, and 5.

On the other hand it was one of the nights his nearly four year old big brother didn't join us so could have been worse...

"Well, you know non-sleepers are more intelligent..."

I am going to use this line!

And i'm pretty sure she wants to stay in Europe. She cried when Nigel Farage came on TV

I actually live people asking me this about dd2 because I can shout "Yes! She is!". I just don't mention that 5 year old dd1 didn't sleep through till she was 3 and still ends up in my bed more often than not.

This also infuriates me. Just lie when it suits. Especially if it will piss the asker off to be trumped with a baby who slept through earlier than their perfect darling angel.

I ask 'how's the sleep' so that I can sympathise if it's going shit. I had 2 awful refluxers that nearly broke me. I like to tell them that there is light at the end of the very dark tunnel.

Still waiting chez Catsize. Mine are 4 and 2. People have given up,asking. We just take it as 'one of those things' and never really got the obsession with the 'sleeping through' thing.

I remember one of my NCT group smugly asking for advice on how we all "wake our babies up in the morning" because hers would happily sleep through until 9am.

If looks could kill, I'd be serving a life sentence.

I got 4 hours unbroken sleep last night and could quite frankly do a dance. Sleeping through my ass.

I was talking to 16 yr old DD's GP about her disrupted sleep. When I added at the end - but she never has slept through the night, he looked at me like this

DD has slept through 3 times in 2.5 years. I've just accepted it as it is. I was the same, apparently, according to my mum, as were my cousins. Nieces and nephews not much better. The problem is that people are so focused on babies sleeping through that they forget/don't realise that it is totally normal for some babies/toddlers to frequently wake. I do envy anyone who gets unbroken sleep, though! Bliss!

One of my NCT group talks about her 12 weeker sleeping through. What she actually means is she doesn't have to get up to her in the night because she's already in her own room and she lets her cry it out
My 15 week old was asleep at 7:30 last night and woke for milk at 11, 3:30 and was up at 6. I was pretty pleased with that TBH.

Tell them to fuck off. DS is 2 & still doesn't sleep very well. I have made my peace with it but various strangers, acquaintances & colleagues seem very concerned. A woman I barely know looked completely horrified when I told her we take him into our bed when he inevitably wakes up at 2am, it was like I had told her something so shocking & disgusting she couldn't really process it. Wish I had told her to bugger off.

to most people babies are gorgeous, but frankly boring and there isn't much to talk about a young baby other than the usual sleeping, crying, feeding and bodily functions. Try not to get murderous upset, they are just trying to show interest.

I'm a FTM and a single mum at that so I generally feel as though I have no idea what I'm doing all of the time haha. My little man will naturally get sleepy at 8pm ish ut if I let him stay asleep he wakes at around 2/3am for a feed so I usually wake him around 11pm for a last feed and then when I am lucky and the stars align and angels sing he sleeps til 8 am. He is 11 weeks and this is a new development he was making much more frequently before then but I think his little tummy can just hold more milk now. As I am on my own with him I hope he keeps up his sleeping habits for a few weeks as mummy needs the break haha. Is it OK that I wake him at 11 do you think or should I let him wake naturally?

DS didn't sleep through until he was nearly 2 yrs, when people ask now about DD I just say 'when she's asleep, she's fine' and give a really big toothy smile...I think it's s brave / foolish person who follows up with a 2nd question.

Oh God YANBU. I could have happily killed many people for much less. The ones that really made my eyes pop with rage were the ones who said, "Oh I don't know how you DO it! I couldn't cope!"

I wanted to scream, "DOES THIS LOOK LIKE FUCKING COPING??"

By the way, we fixed it at 9 months. Or rather, sleep goddess woman fixed it for us. I posted many a desperate hallucinating ragey thread at the time. I can tell you what worked for us, if you don't stab me?

Dd is 3 months. She has 'slept through' twice since she was born. By this I mean she went 9pm - 6am without waking for a feed. But it was a complete fluke, nothing I or we did.

I'm just pleased that recently she's found a bit of a night time routine. Feed about 8pm, burp and falls asleep on me. In her crib by 8.30pm and then wakes for a feed about 3am. Before that there was no pattern to her evenings and waking a which I found the hardest part. I'm early to bed and an early riser, she would sometimes still be wide awake at 11pm but would then sleep past 10am (with feeds during the night) then the following night she would fall asleep at 7pm but wake really early the next morning.

As a PP said, sleeping through means different things to people. To me it means 10 hours solid sleep, no waking/feeding. I've also had the helpful advice that if I gave her solids she'd sleep better...