In saying a week of compassionate leave for losing a parent is unfair?

[Helenwiththebigmelons]

Yes yes, life is unfair - but really, a week away from work because a parent has died? Is that all that can be granted?

I work for a logistics company as a Financial Admin, and I was told today by a colleague that this is all you get granted whilst on the topic of compassionate leave etc.

Isn't this shocking? In my last work place, my boss insisted on another colleague taking 3 weeks of fully paid leave to come to terms with things - he didn't even mention funeral arrangements.

What is your workplace policy like for compassionate leave? Perhaps I'm oblivious to some harsh realities.

At mine it is 2 days - we take leave instead. Yours is relatively generous.
Am sorry for your loss but don't get taken up with company policy as it will make you feel worse.

A week sounds like a reasonable amount of leave to me. Three days is more normal. I think 3 weeks sounds like too much. If people need three weeks then I think it should be possible via their GP. I wouldn't have wanted three weeks myself. I thought a week was enough.

Many retail shops allow 1 day unpaid leave on the death of a parent.
Most offices I have worked in 3 days is standard paid compassionate leave.

My DSis was given 3 weeks when DM died. She could have been signed off for more if need be - but it wouldn't have been paid.

I was given a sick note for two weeks when I had an ERPC for a lost pregnancy. I didn't take it all in the end but the company didn't quibble it and I was paid in full. (Same company for both of these).

2 weeks unpaid is standard in my area

My employer offers a week.

Loss of a pregnancy would be sick leave where I work but it counts as pregnancy-related so doesn't go on your sick record.

My firm gives one day - and that's for attending the funeral. Anything else needs to be sickness or annual leave. It's shit, but that's the way it is.

1 week for us - local council

When my dad died suddenly and unexpectedly my dh was told that as he wasn't a blood relation he could have 1 days holiday (for the funeral)
For bloods relations it's 3 days I believe....
I think 1 week 's quite generous.
My colleague had a week off when her dad was dying in hospital. She was called in for a meeting about her absence record after the funeral.....

1 week of PAID special leave is the standard for a close relative or someone else if they brought you up, for example, is the policy. Every case is different and there is some discretion allowed. This is purely to deal with the practical aspects following a death. Some places may also grant UNPAID leave if you need more time. I've seen a combination of paid leave, unpaid leave, annual leave and sick leave being used. I'd hope most managers can use their common sense and discretion.

Grieving is different. People can be affected by grief for a long time, or make them less able to fend off ailments and infections in the near future. That would be dealt with on a case by case basis, probably as sick leave.

Public sector. 3 days discretionary compassionate leave which I didn't get. Had to go off sick and in fairness I wasn't in a fit state to work, couldn't stop crying.

Public sector 3 days can be extended to 5 at manager's discretion.

I took 9 weeks off after a missed miscarriage (where you don't realise that the baby has died until you go for a scan )
I also had an ERPC. Devastated wasn't the word.
Nobody said a word to me about what leave I was entitled to. they would have a sobbing wreck in the classroom if I'd "had" to go back sooner
I'm a primary teacher. I just got sick lines.

Ours is 2 days for a close relative

I don't think my company has an official policy, but I had 5 days compassionate leave when my dad died unexpectedly, then returned to work, then took another 5 days for the funeral which was a long way from me (and three weeks after he died) as annual leave. I was happy with this arrangement.

3 days for parent less for anyone else at my workplace!

My old boss wouldn't let me go home when my grandad died, but took 2 weeks off when her fucking dog died. Was fuming about that.

Where I work (public sector) it'd usually be either a half day or a full day in order to attend the funeral - although, at the manager's discretion, it could be slightly longer if the funeral is far away or you are responsible for making the arrangements for the funeral. If you aren't capable of working due to the grief , that would be sick leave.

My dad died this week. I don't work but dh gets up to 5 days paid leave at the discretion of his line manager. Doesn't matter whether it's a blood relation as they realise all families are different.

He will probably take 3 days plus 1 day AL. He was off yesterday as my dad died in the early hours, back today and Monday then off the rest of next week as we don't live locally to my mum and need to help with funeral arrangements etc. I'm not that big a fan of the company he works for but am very grateful in this instance, we have young kids and it would be a nightmare.

I've lost 3 pregnancies. I had 1 week for 1st miscarriage, 2 weeks for second and 4 weeks sick leave plus 2 weeks of half days when I came back. This was all in a period of 8 months

It was all sick leave and my company couldn't have been more supportive. Told me to take as much time as I needed. They aren't a perfect employer but I'm very grateful to them for the compassion they showed me

X post with Haudyer. I'm so sorry for the loss of your Dad

When MIL died, Bill was asked if he could work a couple of hours the day of her funeral, as he had already used up his three days compassionate leave.

BIL, I meant BIL!

I am a teacher. Our policy says 3 days for death of spouse but our old head teacher was much more generous.

I had two weeks off with sick note for miscarriage. I was bleeding, passing tissue for much longer than that. A colleague whose newborn baby died was advised by school to be signed off sick so she would get full pay for 6 months off and then she had a very gentle phased return.