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To be annoyed by "I need a favour but have to ask you face to face"

953 replies

Eastie77 · 06/04/2016 18:35

I think IABU but anyway...it's annoying me.

A relative sent me a text message stating she needs to pop round and ask me for a favour. It has to be this week and she asked when I'm free. I have a really busy week with various bits and bobs arranged for the kids, appointments etc. I replied the only times that are convenient would be this evening or early Saturday morning before we leave on a weekend break with the kids. I asked if she could give me a call to discuss the favour. She just replied "Ok see you Saturday". I asked again re. the call and she said no, she has to ask me face to face.

I hate this cloak and dagger shit. Just tell me what you need! If it's something awkward I'd rather she asked over the phone tbh. She lives about 40mins away on the bus (doesn't drive) and I mentioned we will be leaving early on Saturday and she'll have to get up early to get here. As this didn't dissuade her I'm guessing it's something important but what and why can't she ask over the phone?? I am not close to this relative btw.

I will feel bad if it's something 'serious' but at the moment I'm just pissed off as we will be sitting around waiting for her to get here on Saturday before we have to set off on a longish drive.

Anyway. Rant over.

OP posts:
Ginkypig · 08/04/2016 22:59

Enjoy your holiday but tell her feck you for the let down!

Jackie0 · 08/04/2016 23:00

You handled it perfectly op, and you now know what she's like for future reference.

cozietoesie · 08/04/2016 23:01

Have a great holiday! Smile

(And watch out for the next time she's round Wink Which she will be. )

WonderingAspie · 08/04/2016 23:01

How ridiculous she had to be cloak and dagger over something so mundane!

Thanks for updating OP. I knew it wouldn't turn out to be something exciting from Yvonne. She sounds like one of these who has to make a drama out of nothing. Grin

AugustaFinkNottle · 08/04/2016 23:01

Now I'm worrying whether you'll get your permit back so that you can renew it in due course.

AliceInUnderpants · 08/04/2016 23:01

Oh.

Go on, make something else up for us.

Enjoy your holiday.

MadameMaxGoesler · 08/04/2016 23:02

"...her friend often drives into London" is I think the key. The friend thinks she has identified a source of cheap parking and the property conference is just the Trojan horse.

DiscoDancer · 08/04/2016 23:02

I would have punched her for being a complete irritant ....

SistersOfPercy · 08/04/2016 23:03

Nothing to add other than do hAve a crinoline lady in fecci's for me. In fact if you photograph it and add it to the thread I can dream of many lovely holidays in tenby 😀

toldmywrath · 08/04/2016 23:03

There once was an aunty called 'vonne
Who jumped on a bus at Ley- Ton
A permit she wanted
So Eastie she haunted
And doorstep'd her until dawn.

giraffesCantReachTheirToes · 08/04/2016 23:04

hahaha - I am off this week but am in Glasgow - give me a pass and I will drive down and block one of the spaces. Let her park at the "rough" flats

2rebecca · 08/04/2016 23:05

Doe she not now I rates have computers and email or Arbil messaging is free? All that to save a few quid. Glad you didn't give her a pass. Surprised you've told her that much about your parking arrangements. I'd keep my affairs private in future

Veryflummoxed · 08/04/2016 23:06

Have a lovely time in Tenby. You deserve it. Flowers

coconutpie · 08/04/2016 23:06

Yvonne is a bloody weirdo! An 80 minute round trip on a bus for that? Nutter.

Enjoy your holiday!

2rebecca · 08/04/2016 23:07

Oh dear my post went weird. Libraries have free email and Facebook messaging is free

Tarrarra · 08/04/2016 23:07

I'm betting that the pass will go missing....

AJ279 · 08/04/2016 23:07

Nope. Yvonne is a dick. Glad I didn't have to retract earlier statement as was slightly worried she would want a kidney and I'd have felt bad.

I'd have told her I'd lost them and wouldn't be able to find them in time.

trufflesnout · 08/04/2016 23:15

Ah Yvonne you daft twat. Invite her back OP, I need more.

FreakinScaryCaaw · 08/04/2016 23:17

How bizarre. She sounds a right odd ball.

Enjoy your holiday.

PoppieD · 08/04/2016 23:17

Wonder if she'd already promised friend this permit in exchange for lift?..

OVienna · 08/04/2016 23:19

I am so pissed on your behalf - she is most definitely 'a one' as a pp said. And cheeky mare and etc. I'm guessing you need that permit back before May?! If you have to hand it in. Booooo to her. I'd be equally insistent about collecting it!!!!!

ElderlyKoreanLady · 08/04/2016 23:19

Well it sounds like it did need to be in person in order to physically get the permit off you. And not telling you what it was before she came meant she was able to turn up at your door with a need (noun, not verb) that only you could meet. She ensured she gave you as little opportunity as possible to say no. Yvonne is sly.

LifeCrossRoad · 08/04/2016 23:22

Cheeky cow. At least you didn't get aloed.
Enjoy your holiday

FirstWeTakeManhattan · 08/04/2016 23:23

OP, you're great. Yvonne didn't behave well at all!

Have a lovely time in Tenby. There used to be an amazing Italian ice cream parlour there. I remember it as a kid.

Thanks for a great thread! Grin

Zucker · 08/04/2016 23:23

I think MadameMaxGoesler has hit it on the head. "...her friend often drives into London" is I think the key. The friend thinks she has identified a source of cheap parking and the property conference is just the Trojan horse.

Hopefully the 3 visit pass won't satisfy her and she'll be back annoying you for our amusement quite soon Grin

Enjoy your break away!