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To be annoyed by "I need a favour but have to ask you face to face"

953 replies

Eastie77 · 06/04/2016 18:35

I think IABU but anyway...it's annoying me.

A relative sent me a text message stating she needs to pop round and ask me for a favour. It has to be this week and she asked when I'm free. I have a really busy week with various bits and bobs arranged for the kids, appointments etc. I replied the only times that are convenient would be this evening or early Saturday morning before we leave on a weekend break with the kids. I asked if she could give me a call to discuss the favour. She just replied "Ok see you Saturday". I asked again re. the call and she said no, she has to ask me face to face.

I hate this cloak and dagger shit. Just tell me what you need! If it's something awkward I'd rather she asked over the phone tbh. She lives about 40mins away on the bus (doesn't drive) and I mentioned we will be leaving early on Saturday and she'll have to get up early to get here. As this didn't dissuade her I'm guessing it's something important but what and why can't she ask over the phone?? I am not close to this relative btw.

I will feel bad if it's something 'serious' but at the moment I'm just pissed off as we will be sitting around waiting for her to get here on Saturday before we have to set off on a longish drive.

Anyway. Rant over.

OP posts:
CheckpointCharlie2 · 08/04/2016 22:49

Have fun in Tenby OP! I liked the suspense and am happy with the resolution Grin she sounds like an almighty PITA though.....

negrilbaby · 08/04/2016 22:50

Thanks for updating Op. Hope you have a good journey tomorrow!

TalkMeDownPlease · 08/04/2016 22:50

Thanks for updating OPSmile

Dontyouopenthattrapdoor · 08/04/2016 22:50

I can't work out which would piss me off more, if someone wanted my kidney or they wanted to sign me up to Forever YouJuiceBerryNique.

Actually yes I can. TAKE THE KIDNEY.

UnderTheGreenwoodTree · 08/04/2016 22:50

Oh OP - how ridiculous.

"Fat Ron" Grin Grin

iamtheblackwizards · 08/04/2016 22:50

But seriously, she could of text/email/fb asking that. She sounds a right pain.

Paffle · 08/04/2016 22:50

Have a good trip Eastie. Don't let the guilt of ruining hundreds of saddoes'Mumnetters' Friday evenings spoil it Wink

SmallLegsOrSmallEggs · 08/04/2016 22:50

I th9nk you did ok OP.
It ticked a lot of MN boxes.
Parking
PA behaviour
Mystery
Possible pyramid scheme
And unreasonable behaviour by relative.

I say LTB.Grin

Have a good holiday

UnderTheGreenwoodTree · 08/04/2016 22:50

Oh, and have a good holiday Smile

ProcrastinatorGeneral · 08/04/2016 22:51

:o

She's certifiable.

Tell her giffgaff do a good line in cheap SIM cards.

Happyat40 · 08/04/2016 22:51

Nowt so strange as folk Smile

paxillin · 08/04/2016 22:52

Bloody hell, her bus trip alone will have cost more than they save with 3x parking.

LaurieFairyCake · 08/04/2016 22:53

I think that's a good update

She's a right one isn't she - I think she actually felt entitled to one of your passes on an ongoing basis and expected to bully you into it Hmm

ExpandingRoundTheMiddle · 08/04/2016 22:53

What an absolute madam! Hope you have a great holiday.

EarthboundMisfit · 08/04/2016 22:53

Urgh. She's a real pain.

OhForTheLoveOfGin · 08/04/2016 22:53

Thanks for the update OP, MNers around the globe can sleep soundly now knowing Aunty Vonnie isn't going to try and guilt trip you into giving her a kidney the night before you go on holiday Grin

Goodnight all, it's been a pleasure Wine

FelicityFunknickle · 08/04/2016 22:54

Thank you.
I suppose it needed to be in person so she could actually take the permit with her.
Have a lovely break.

StayAChild · 08/04/2016 22:54

Cheeky mare! What if you'd said no? She really put you on the spot.

Thanks for the update OP. Love Tenby. We keep watching repeats of the Tenby Lighthouse conversion on Grand Designs and then saw it in the flesh. Have a great holiday and thanks for the entertainment. Smile

Greengardenpixie · 08/04/2016 22:54

Hell..it was fun Grin Grin

Have a lovely holiday!

Kaddy · 08/04/2016 22:54

I think it's a flippin' awesome update. Grin I LOVE the fact it's slightly mundane.

I think you handled it well.

Thank you for this thread, I enjoyed it. Thanks

Have a great holiday.

FaithAscending · 08/04/2016 22:55

Thank you for updating! I reckon she insisted on it face-to-face so it's harder to say no. Have a lovely holiday.

FelicityFunknickle · 08/04/2016 22:56

Btw: Rude rellie.

RTKangaMummy · 08/04/2016 22:57

Thanks for update

very passive aggressive behaviour, she wanted to bully you to give her the passes etc

Hope you and your family enjoy your holiday away Smile

stiffstink · 08/04/2016 22:58

What a weirdo. Who spends all that time fannying about to get one day of cheaper parking? A weirdo, that's who.

WhereYouLeftIt · 08/04/2016 22:59

Dear god Yvonne is a sandwich short of a picnic. She spent 40 minutes on a bus for that? OP, you have my sympathy.

On the plus side the whole shebang is now safely out of the way and doesn't get in the way of your lovely break in Tenby. Which I have visited and really liked. Have a good holiday OP, you deserve it.