To be annoyed by "I need a favour but have to ask you face to face"

[Eastie77]

I think IABU but anyway...it's annoying me.

A relative sent me a text message stating she needs to pop round and ask me for a favour. It has to be this week and she asked when I'm free. I have a really busy week with various bits and bobs arranged for the kids, appointments etc. I replied the only times that are convenient would be this evening or early Saturday morning before we leave on a weekend break with the kids. I asked if she could give me a call to discuss the favour. She just replied "Ok see you Saturday". I asked again re. the call and she said no, she has to ask me face to face.

I hate this cloak and dagger shit. Just tell me what you need! If it's something awkward I'd rather she asked over the phone tbh. She lives about 40mins away on the bus (doesn't drive) and I mentioned we will be leaving early on Saturday and she'll have to get up early to get here. As this didn't dissuade her I'm guessing it's something important but what and why can't she ask over the phone?? I am not close to this relative btw.

I will feel bad if it's something 'serious' but at the moment I'm just pissed off as we will be sitting around waiting for her to get here on Saturday before we have to set off on a longish drive.

Anyway. Rant over.

I'd text and say, Saturday's not really going to work now, we're leaving earlier.

Absolutely this. I 100% believe she will make you late for wherever you're going and you'll be forced to agree to whatever it is to get her out of the house!!

I thought Forever Living too

Whatever it is, I would make a point of saying 'sorry, I can't. If only you'd asked me over the phone earlier I could have done it for you...'.

It gives you time to practise saying NO. If it isn't something really easily done/ spared (outgrown baby clothes, bake a cake for her) or a dire emergency and only you can help (copy of your birth certificate, donate bona marrow), do it if you have the energy and means. Otherwise NO.

She probably knows it is too big an ask and therefore wants to see you in person knowing how embarrassing people find saying "no way". Use the notice period to your advantage.

You need to ring and ask her because I can't wait until Saturday to find out!

This would drive me bonkers!!!

If it's such a "big" has to be done face to face question that's going to be a massive pain in the arse before going away, and it has to be this week - does this mean help will be required on that Saturday?

I'd tell her your now leaving early and won't be here, but you are happy to discuss on the phone and it's ok for her to ask her favour over the phone you won't judge her but as you are now concerned for her you really would prefer to know now.

And then come and tell us :)

Agree sissy when I said it would drive me bonkers... It is actually driving me bonkers I'm already overinvested here :)

Maybe she's got a huge great boil on her nether regions and she wants you to squeeze it?

I'd email and say sorry,meant do Saturday, just ask me and I will let you know when I have a chance.

Oh you could send her a text saying if it is to do with money lending or buying anything, you can't help, things are tight. Otherwise, you are all ears. (and hope she's not trying to get you to take in her lazy grown up child who won't move out)

Oh this would annoy me too. Agree with those saying your plans have changed but obviously it will make for a far better update on here if you let her come over and pitch her sale to you

What time have you told her you've got to leave on Saturday?!

She'll be asking for money. It's always money when they need to ask 'face to face'

Fallen in love with some dodgy bloke abroad who needs money for an op.

Or maybe she's getting hitched and wants you to be matron of honour?

I vote pyramid scheme too.
Either Arbonne/forever living/juice plus/herbalife/jamberry/scentsy/younique etc

She wants your kidney.

Send her a text and say Saturday won't work now, but she can call or text you.

It's going to be something you don't want to do.

Practise saying " I'll have to let you know, I can't decide now. Yes, if it was urgent you should have said before on the phone, but as I say- I can't decide right now. That's right, bye bye"

I was thinking pyramid scheme!!

I hope its not though

Whatever it is, just reply 'I'll think about it and let you know'.

You've explained that you're going away.

She wants to speak to you face to face, which to me is fair enough.

I don't second guess things so I'd just put it out of my mind until I'm told.

You need to ring and ask her because I can't wait until Saturday to find out same here Sissy!

Yep I'm in the 'find out now' camp because I'm impatient

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It could be something really shit that's going to wind you up, and ruin your holiday at a time when you're already stressed trying to make sure you get out of the house on time. You need to
get it out of her before then op and post it on here because I'm going to burst before Saturday and yes, I'm voting MLM scheme also. I'll go with money for her set up pack, and I'll say it's Forever Living.

i bet she needs money.

i would tell her what time you're leaving and then leave at that time. don't wait for her.

Ooh, that would really bug me too. I'd need to know NOW

Another vote for mlm shit here too

I would just tell her no, Saturday morning isn't going to work for you. Tell her if it's that important, she needs to just spit it out on the phone. You don't have time for games.