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To be annoyed by "I need a favour but have to ask you face to face"

953 replies

Eastie77 · 06/04/2016 18:35

I think IABU but anyway...it's annoying me.

A relative sent me a text message stating she needs to pop round and ask me for a favour. It has to be this week and she asked when I'm free. I have a really busy week with various bits and bobs arranged for the kids, appointments etc. I replied the only times that are convenient would be this evening or early Saturday morning before we leave on a weekend break with the kids. I asked if she could give me a call to discuss the favour. She just replied "Ok see you Saturday". I asked again re. the call and she said no, she has to ask me face to face.

I hate this cloak and dagger shit. Just tell me what you need! If it's something awkward I'd rather she asked over the phone tbh. She lives about 40mins away on the bus (doesn't drive) and I mentioned we will be leaving early on Saturday and she'll have to get up early to get here. As this didn't dissuade her I'm guessing it's something important but what and why can't she ask over the phone?? I am not close to this relative btw.

I will feel bad if it's something 'serious' but at the moment I'm just pissed off as we will be sitting around waiting for her to get here on Saturday before we have to set off on a longish drive.

Anyway. Rant over.

OP posts:
maybebabybee · 08/04/2016 14:05

Shameless place mark Grin

StillYummy · 08/04/2016 14:06

8.5 hours...

OccamsRazorSharpner · 08/04/2016 14:06

Maybe she won the lotto and wants to pay off your mortgage for you? Just a thought in the face of such anticipated dismissal and not shameless placemarking at all...

MattDillonsPants · 08/04/2016 14:07

OP is never coming back.

:(

ShutUpAndPour · 08/04/2016 14:07

Shameless place marking, I am intrigued, clearly I should get out a little more....

HannahLily2014 · 08/04/2016 14:08

Not a chance I'd be having her round at 10:30! I'd tell her if it really is that important give me a call if not see you when I'm back!

AugustaFinkNottle · 08/04/2016 14:08

OP is never coming back.

Why? She was on the thread three hours ago.

paxillin · 08/04/2016 14:08

What, why, MattDillonsPants? OP has been back many times, last one only three hours ago.

TalkMeDownPlease · 08/04/2016 14:19

Ok shameless placemarking, I just need to know now.Wink

Hagrid3112 · 08/04/2016 14:22

Another shameless placemark here

silverdrawers · 08/04/2016 14:28

I would have messaged back telling her to get to the bloody point, no time for drama llamas.

Spindlewood · 08/04/2016 14:35

Intrigued too , I wonder if she has a pet that she wants you to agree to look after if anything happened to her . We just had those face to face conversations with B in L but about the DC.

BeautyQueenFromMars · 08/04/2016 14:38

Maybe she doesn't want a favour from you at all, maybe it's an excuse to see you and give you a gift of some kind...

CountessOfStrathearn · 08/04/2016 14:42

MattDillonsPants is overusing the Sad smiley. The OP might well have a life that doesn't involve hourly updates on MN.

Sad
millimat · 08/04/2016 14:44

Another Shameless placemarker Blush
Are you going away somewhere exciting?

weirdsister · 08/04/2016 14:48

Kelandry's post is brilliant Grin

Op you need an empty bottle of wine on the coffee table at 10.30, so that neither you or dp can drive her home.

SirVixofVixHall · 08/04/2016 14:48

Am I the only person who doesn't understand why this is annoying? A relative needs something, quite possibly she is going to ask the OP to be executor for her will or similar, and is trying to fit in with the OPs timescales. Why would you not want to help out a rellie? I am confused Confused.

Itinerary · 08/04/2016 14:50

But why wouldn't this relative say what it was about SirVix?

Itinerary · 08/04/2016 14:51

Just hoping this doesn't get to 1000 posts before tomorrow - we need the OP to update us then!

MissesBloom · 08/04/2016 14:51

Shamless place mark right here!Blush I need to know what this loon wants with op!

SirVix would you not be annoyed at all that this relative wants to tell op something but won't tell her what it is. Then when op says she's v busy this person is bullying her into making a plan despite already knowing op isn't free!!! It's so rude! I'd be livid!

MothershipG · 08/04/2016 14:53

Yes SirVix you are! Grin The irritating thing is Auntie Yvonne insisting on asking in person and her unreasonable refusal to explain what she wants by phone!

cheekymoocow · 08/04/2016 14:53

Shameless placemarking! I NEED TO KNOW!

diddl · 08/04/2016 14:54

If OP is so busy that she could only offer Weds eve or Sat morn, wouldn't you think that the rellie would say "oh it's only to give you something/get you to sign something", so don't worry about it taking long?

coveredinhopeandvaseline · 08/04/2016 14:55

Shamelessly placemarking

LovePGtipsMonkey · 08/04/2016 14:57

she's not a loon - it can be genuinely something sensitive and if she doesn't want to talk on the phone (I hate phones) then it's not unreasonable to see OP in person - and she IS adjusting to the inconvenient times for herself to fit in with OP.
Maybe a bit of respect is needed before we know what it is. I do agree though that if it's not a serious illness she could have reassured the OP already on that point.