To be annoyed by "I need a favour but have to ask you face to face"

[Eastie77]

I think IABU but anyway...it's annoying me.

A relative sent me a text message stating she needs to pop round and ask me for a favour. It has to be this week and she asked when I'm free. I have a really busy week with various bits and bobs arranged for the kids, appointments etc. I replied the only times that are convenient would be this evening or early Saturday morning before we leave on a weekend break with the kids. I asked if she could give me a call to discuss the favour. She just replied "Ok see you Saturday". I asked again re. the call and she said no, she has to ask me face to face.

I hate this cloak and dagger shit. Just tell me what you need! If it's something awkward I'd rather she asked over the phone tbh. She lives about 40mins away on the bus (doesn't drive) and I mentioned we will be leaving early on Saturday and she'll have to get up early to get here. As this didn't dissuade her I'm guessing it's something important but what and why can't she ask over the phone?? I am not close to this relative btw.

I will feel bad if it's something 'serious' but at the moment I'm just pissed off as we will be sitting around waiting for her to get here on Saturday before we have to set off on a longish drive.

Anyway. Rant over.

This thread is driving me mad (never mind you lol).... I wonder wtf she wants?! Can't wait to find out (nosey)!!

RT, I can't see any screenshots either - OP please don't post attachments again! we are all overinvested now haha.

Kanga, it says:

Hi, I can come and about 10.30 this eve if that's okay. I will only be a few minutes. x

And the OP replied:

I'm usually dead to the world by that time to be honest! Do you need me to sign something or or to use the laptop?

Let her come at 10:30, and it'll only be a 'few minutes' so lead her straight back out at 10:45 because you're going to bed.

Doesn't matter what it is, she's being really rude so return the attitude.

What could be that important that only takes a few minutes? Surely important discussions require time.

Thank you soooooooo much

There feel better now that I know what Yvonne said

Blimey she is being awkward isn't she?

It's an awful cheek to come at that time. Especially with the expectation that she'll get a lift home.

'We will be in bed at 10.30, so it's going to have wait until next week now. Feel free to ring me back if you need to chat about it.'

It would only be signing a will if she wants both OP and her DP to be witnesses - as you need two witnesses who both witness the testator signing - and she hasn't said anything about making sure DP is around. I'm going for the kidney option.

Make sure you're in your pjs when she arrives, and that dh is already in bed.

Whatever the favour is, tell her you'll have to think about it and discuss it with dh, so you'll let her know next week.

But 10:30pm might work out ok. Make sure you are all in your PJs so it is clear it won't be a long visit. I still think it's something nice. Would be too brazen otherwise and quite clearly you are not going to be open to be super helpful after this.

My flabber is fasted! Just read through the whole thread! my guess is it's something health related that can't wait, something that you just have to communicate FTF.

X post with Boaty, I'm slow.

I'm going to guess its to do with a will and that she wants to be the executor. Not very interesting but something she might prefer to ask in person.

gasted not fasted.... Darn auto correct

But 10:30pm might work out ok…

…for all the mn'ers desperate to find out what the fuck this is all about.

As we are still guessing could she need something printing? She's being a right Arse about it though. Does she usually visit at daft times?

Mumsnet servers better be able to withstand all the constant refreshing by us all on this thread at 10.30pm tonight

Yes deffo all be in pj tonight

Hope it isn't something horrible or sad like her or her DH being ill cos otherwise it will be awful that we have all been speculating like we have

So really hope it is getting a signature for a will or something simple like that

I'd have been far less patient. A text saying 'either call to discuss or don't bother. Coming to us is not at all convenient'.

But tbf, I have no fucks to give over people like this. I hate with a passion this kind of shit.

simon, THANKS!

I think it's just a signature she needs - or to drop off something for you to look/read through when you have time.

10.30pm????

Blimey I'd have replied "don't be so bloody ridiculous, we'll be in bed by then. It'll have to be when we get back"

Place marking :) am intrigued been reading and i would think initially it's money but I now think it's property related something needs work done

Place marking!

to be fair she didn't set up to turn up at off times of day - it's the only option OP is giving her (with reason obviously), but it does sound urgent if she is grabbing whatever opportunity she has. A document/application she wants done - I'm like this I hate waiting to apply/file a doc when I've done all the preparations.

odd, not off