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Original poster

To be annoyed by "I need a favour but have to ask you face to face"

953 replies

Eastie77 · 06/04/2016 18:35

I think IABU but anyway...it's annoying me.

A relative sent me a text message stating she needs to pop round and ask me for a favour. It has to be this week and she asked when I'm free. I have a really busy week with various bits and bobs arranged for the kids, appointments etc. I replied the only times that are convenient would be this evening or early Saturday morning before we leave on a weekend break with the kids. I asked if she could give me a call to discuss the favour. She just replied "Ok see you Saturday". I asked again re. the call and she said no, she has to ask me face to face.

I hate this cloak and dagger shit. Just tell me what you need! If it's something awkward I'd rather she asked over the phone tbh. She lives about 40mins away on the bus (doesn't drive) and I mentioned we will be leaving early on Saturday and she'll have to get up early to get here. As this didn't dissuade her I'm guessing it's something important but what and why can't she ask over the phone?? I am not close to this relative btw.

I will feel bad if it's something 'serious' but at the moment I'm just pissed off as we will be sitting around waiting for her to get here on Saturday before we have to set off on a longish drive.

Anyway. Rant over.

OP posts:
HighwayDragon1 · 07/04/2016 22:03

I'm also betting on a MLM.

Patapouf · 07/04/2016 22:08

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Unicow · 07/04/2016 22:32

Just realised on what planet is 11.00am EARLY Saturday morning?

CountessOfStrathearn · 07/04/2016 22:52

That's the time the message was sent. Grin

YellowDinosaur · 07/04/2016 22:52

Unicow I think that was the time rude woman sent the text not the time she's planning to come...

YellowDinosaur · 07/04/2016 22:53

Ha! Crossposted :)

Kaddy · 07/04/2016 22:55

I'd be worried it was something bad Sad Maybe she is ill and then we are all going to feel bad

Helsbellsnch34 · 07/04/2016 22:55

This thread is AMAZING. Can't wait to find out!

gandalf456 · 07/04/2016 22:57

it will probably be very boring now like can you put my bin out while I am on holiday

CinderellaFant · 07/04/2016 23:08

She's maybe going to ask you to be her alibi

Itinerary · 07/04/2016 23:59

it will probably be very boring now like can you put my bin out while I am on holiday

I know! I bet it's "please will you feed the cat?"

RevealTheHiddenBeach · 08/04/2016 00:07

I'm holying out for a lottery win

Aspergallus · 08/04/2016 00:13

Jamberry. It's everywhere.

cozietoesie · 08/04/2016 00:19

That's the only pleasant thing I can think of at this moment.

cozietoesie · 08/04/2016 00:20

Sorry - and disbursement of funds.

sleeponeday · 08/04/2016 01:05

I have an aloe vera plant on my windowsill. My life is unchanged. I feel let down. Sad

Brokenbiscuit · 08/04/2016 01:20

I'm guessing she wants you to witness her will, OP.

Do come back and let us know!

TheMaddHugger · 08/04/2016 02:51

Witnessing a Will sounds odd. If she was that nervous, she would want it witnessed Now.
Or
She could wait till she gets back [OP]

Original poster
Eastie77 · 08/04/2016 03:26

Sorry for irregular updates, have been stupidly busy. Am up bf DS again, the only time I get a moment to post!

Still no reply from herAngry. I sent her a text earlier today, the gist of which was: "sorry if you misunderstood my VM, I cannot see you on Saturday at all so I will need you to call me today or Friday evening. [DP] and I are actually quite worried and hope you are ok so please let me know what's up?" Wanted to add "Is there a specific reason you never answer your bloody phone?"

I'm not worried at all. May sound callous but seriously..who really has time for this kind of nonsense. If she is seriously ill then she'd surely not jump on a bus at stupid o'clock to tell me - a relative she is not that close to!

Anyway. I quite like the idea someone suggested re. a group of mumsnetters turning up on her doorstep demanding an answer. If anyone lives in the Leyton area let me knowGrin

I have already discounted a request for money, I suppose it could be a pyramid scheme but unless they have weekly targets why would she have to flog her shit to me THIS week?

She has a FB page but no updates since 2013 so no clues there.

Doubt she wants to offer childcare. She is fond of the kids but DD (2.9) cries hysterically whenever she sees herConfused.

She didn't know we were going on hols this weekend until after she sent her first text so can't be to ask us to take/bring something back from there.

To those who think it's something nice, a gift or what not - again why would she have to tell me this particular week?!

Spoke to my brother. He guesses she wants DP to carry out some urgent repair work on her house (DP works in property maintenance). Possible I suppose.

So this is how I want this whole thing to end: our car will be loaded up Friday evening (not gonna happen but hey...) so Satuday morning we will be setting off 6.30am-ish. If by some freak of nature Yvonne actually turns up, I will make her tell me what she wants while we are sat in the car with the engine running. As she finishes I will press the electric button so the window slowly inches up as I reply "Sorry Yvonne, can't help with that. What a shame you didn't just call and ask - could have saved you the bus ride" Drive off into the sunset (or more likely rain) / END

It's not going to happen like that is itSad

OP posts:
TheMaddHugger · 08/04/2016 03:31

sorry OP. Eastie77

I'd actually be gone before she gets to yours. She will delay your leave time if she spots you

(((((((((((((Hugs)))))))))))) Chocolate

TippyTappyLappyToppy · 08/04/2016 03:42

No you totally should play it out like that. She's being outrageously unreasonable.

TippyTappyLappyToppy · 08/04/2016 03:43

Yes i agree with TMH, leave early! Some people are so thick skinned.

AlpacaLypse · 08/04/2016 04:27

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BitOutOfPractice · 08/04/2016 05:16

Wow. Ok.

How old is this lady?

UrgentSchoolHelp · 08/04/2016 06:36

I wondered if she might want you to be executor of her estate?

Or yes, DH to do some property maintenance for her.