To be annoyed by "I need a favour but have to ask you face to face"

[Eastie77]

I think IABU but anyway...it's annoying me.

A relative sent me a text message stating she needs to pop round and ask me for a favour. It has to be this week and she asked when I'm free. I have a really busy week with various bits and bobs arranged for the kids, appointments etc. I replied the only times that are convenient would be this evening or early Saturday morning before we leave on a weekend break with the kids. I asked if she could give me a call to discuss the favour. She just replied "Ok see you Saturday". I asked again re. the call and she said no, she has to ask me face to face.

I hate this cloak and dagger shit. Just tell me what you need! If it's something awkward I'd rather she asked over the phone tbh. She lives about 40mins away on the bus (doesn't drive) and I mentioned we will be leaving early on Saturday and she'll have to get up early to get here. As this didn't dissuade her I'm guessing it's something important but what and why can't she ask over the phone?? I am not close to this relative btw.

I will feel bad if it's something 'serious' but at the moment I'm just pissed off as we will be sitting around waiting for her to get here on Saturday before we have to set off on a longish drive.

Anyway. Rant over.

MLM for sure

I'd be wary of replying wroth anything too narky just in case it is something lovely.

I would let her ask you then tell her 'I'll think about it', go off on your break and don't contact her. When she starts asking for your decision say 'I have to tell you face to face' then insist on an inconvenient time, say 7am on a Saturday morning and say 'No!'.

Crikey everyone has really decided it's definitely something awful and advising to be rude and abrupt. I agree the face to face thing is irritating but blimey some of you have very short fuses and no patience at all

She might want to put you in her will. Maybe she has been diagnosed with a life threatening illness.

I would probably just give her the benefit of the doubt, it isn't that big of a deal to make time for a relative.

If she were putting the OP in her will, she could just do it. She wouldn't be asking for a favour.

I'd be annoyed by the lack of acknowledgement that you have plans on Saturday! She should just spit it out.

And if she wants a favour she should have listened to the message that says Saturday is not a good time.
I know many of us seem over invested but that's because we recognise a situation that could easily happen to one of us and we recognise the signs that say Yvonne is about to take advantage of the OP.

I can't get the photo to open - what does the text response say ?

Just caught up with today's posts and we still don't know!! I hope for your sake it isn't an MLM, you won't get away in time for your break, they're persistent ...

Totally over invested in this & shamelessly place marking > can't wait til Saturday

Just phone her and ask her now!!!

Poor woman. This thread is horrible. It doesn't sound like she has a history of sponging/leeching off the OP so why do you all assume it's to sell MLM products? Sometimes some things are better asked in person so why the lynchmob regarding her wanting to pop round? I guess you will all have to wait to find out, but I would not be surprised if it was something entirely reasonable.

Entirely not the same thing, but my DH frequently says things like "WHAT???" or "OH my God....." after opening some post or checking his emails. Then says nothing till I get fed up of waiting and say ".....What?" It's always something anticlimactic.

Maybe it is not a favour but a present

Sorry, blatant placemarking!

More blatant place marking.

I think Forever Living or some such shite.

If she is trying to flog you stuff, then she probably won't tell you as you obviously won't want to see her! She'll just try to doorstep you another time

And me

Head her off at the pass! Text her - "I have this AMAZING new venture for us both. Have YOU discovered the life-changing magic of aloe vera?"

If for whatever reason it was Forever Living, why on earth would she have to see her this week? I really don't know how you would jump to that conclusion.

Can you not FaceTime or Skype her? Wouldn't that count as face to face??